Great points, Anna Marina, and I agree. I was determined to just be nice to the 'not alls' but have learned to RUN from them especially if a commission is involved. Sorry, I can't help it and wasn't going to lie re/my JW status when being 3rd degreed. If any of them needed aid I'd do my share w/out hesitation - they're human beings.
I was amazed decades ago in Mexico the very pale/fairskinned younger gals (my age at time) with very dark hair - same almost-ghost coloring/hair (if not so) as I. Normal in Spain (and blondes) but so many of Mexican descent have the darker skin-tones - or ones I knew in the US -- obviously not all.