Posts by JWdaughter

I'm glad your family escape. There is so much more to look forward to-your kids get to have hopes and dreams and make goals and aspire to good and great things.

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No more doubts for me! Good-bye JWN! We have THE TRUTH!

by DATA-DOG in

i could go on and on about my personal journey over the last 2 years or so, but i don't need to.

everything i needed to hear to finally lay my doubts to rest happened on one meeting night.

it could only be divine providence.

JWdaughter

Actually, it kind of seems like a modern day Tower of Babel. . .hmmm. We all know how that scenario went, huh?

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Just sent letter to my parents that I no longer want to be a JW

by ?evrything in

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i was a born in.

both parents are uber dubs and mother has been depressed lately.

so i m super nervous.

JWdaughter

I have no proven wisdom, but I just encourage you to remember that they are your family and you do love them. You don't need to poke at things that will enrage them particularly.

You dropped the bomb, so you owe them a discussion, clearly. I just hope you will be gentle.

Congratulations on making the break. Do your best to keep it clean and loving and remember that your parents made you, they love you and they think they know what is best (though they don't in this caase). Thank the for the good things your upbringing gave you. but let the know that as a adult, that just doesn't cut it.

All my best to you and your family as you struggle through this.

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A story about Reggie and Reginald... and why it makes me cringe... more vomiting

by confusedandalone in

so i grew up in new jersey in a very urban part of the state.

i literally only saw white folks if they were in a police car or if i went to the assembly.

the funny thing is at the assembly there was still a level of segregation as well although it was self-imposed.

JWdaughter

BOTR, I lived in Upper Montclair NJ and went to the halls nearby nearly 30 years ago for a few weeks or months(wilst trying to be reinstated/please mom)

I remember the Nutley(?) hall was integrated pretty well (Ok, I remember a black family who seemed very integral in the mostly white/hispanic congregation), but that was when I lived in Bloomfield (near Nutley and Upper Montclair). Then I MOVED to Upper Montclair (nice neighborhood!) and was told which hall to go to. I had conflicts sometimes because of my job so I would go to the hall I was not assigned to as often as not. There was a double hall (I think) and the congregation I was to meet in was the white one, but the one I often went to was the one from the other neighborhood (not UM, I presume) and it was mostly black. NO ONE spoke to me in either hall except one very nice white lady married to an UBM who was lonely, I think, even though she was pioneerinng. I worked as a nanny and was just the help in the white neighborhood cong. and I am not sure what the problem was in the other congregation. Maybe they thought I was slummng or just went there to be the orange in the apple grove or something. I did NOT like either of those congregations, but the one that was actually integrated (Nutley) was really nice. It was in the other congregation(s) that I decided that the WT servititude was not for me. I think visiting Bethel figured into that largely. Also, knowing a few arrogant little bethelite boys (sorry if that was any of you) showed me a few things about the spirit of brotherhood in the WT. It was my first experience in a congregation as an "adult" and it was a bit of a shock. I left for doctrinal reasons originally and found that I couldn't reconcile them even though I REALLY REALLY wanted to.

My congregation growinng up was technically integrated, our one black family showed up every week, dad was a nice guy, kids were all good. He was never elder, but our elder body seemed kind of cemented in place since the 60's. I don't remember anyone advancing to elder in the 70's or 80's. They seemed separate somehow and I think that was in our head. The sister was SO kind to everyone. She was totally in everything, but the rest of her family seemed to just fade into the woodwork somehow, til the daughter went into labor during the memorial and her water broke. Maybe that shifted things;) Maybe the fact is was about 1980 helped !

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I have JUST become a GREAT GRANNY Of Twins.

by mouthy in

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henry 51bs 12 oz,eve 51bs 14 oz...phil my grnason by marriage just called.. ashley the new mum) my granddaughter who herself was a twin,from my melanie who died when she was 42(cancer).

they are doing well born by ceaserian at 2.40p.m today!!!!!

!.

JWdaughter

Congratulations! Many blessings upon the happy family-all of you. May God protect those children and help them grow in wisdom! I have a twin brother and we had a lot of fun growing up.

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How do I edit my profile

by nonjwspouse in

such as addiing a quote, or place of origin, etc.

?.

JWdaughter

Yeah! I don't like the little blue monster next to my name.

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Rolf Furuli's accusation about VAT 4956 being tampered with?

by possiblepineapple in

i'm sorry but can someone here explain what this is about.

i saw someone on here called scholar on here saying that it somehow destroyed both coj and hermann hunger but how?

how does rolf furuli know that it was tampered with?

JWdaughter

What is his "hypothesis" regarding the motivation of someone changing the DATE on a clay tablet that is thousands of years old? A big conspiracy going back to (???) just to prove the WT wrong? Huh? I am sorry not to get deep into this but just on the surface, it looks like a ridiculous accusation in the first place.

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How can i continue my fade vs the rubber band theorem that pulls my wife in

by DS211 in

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im at a crossroads my friends.

im beginning to feel that my oppurtunities to get my wife out are waning.

weve misssed many meetings she still smokes a cig a day.

JWdaughter

Just keep finding better things to do on meeting times and FS times. Like fun, family things. She is obviously just feeling guilty, but has no actual desire to be in the KH.

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I think my faith might be returning. Feeling very confused.

by jambon1 in

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i've been out the organisation for around 8 years.

when i first left, im positive that i suffered from some sort of post traumatic stress.

i was very angry at myself for accepting the really bad parts of the religion that i strongly disagreed with.

JWdaughter

Don't mix up a belief in a creator with religion, esp. the JWs. I definitely had some crises of faith after my experience in JWs and other churches too. Don't think it is all part and parcel of the same thing.