Posts by JWdaughter

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baby or no baby?

by Dudu in

that is the question for the next months ... i am 32 and i will turn 33 on december....i am freaking out!!!

my hubby and i have no children and we are not looking for one right now because im studying a masters.

i will finish subjects in june and after that i will write my thesis (6 more months).

Do you actually want kids? Soon would be a good time to start-biologically. It might not do your career any good-but women get past that all the time. You have a little over a year before you are done with thesis (if all goes as you plan. Don't get too comfy with any plans you make).

I had a baby at 33. No biggie. It's not really old in this day and age-but its also a good time to get on with your biological plans. Do not try to get through a pregnancy with 2 jobs and your final classes/thesis on the line. If you can't stop working, you really don't have time for a baby anyway. Prioritize your life-its more than just your thesis. You don't/shouldn't work 24/7. You will retire in 30 years and it will be too late for kids.

Can I suggest a simple test from your doctor to measure your fertility levels/baby readiness? I don't think it is exhorbitantly expensive and it will give you an idea of if you have the luxury of time in this.

What do you want to do after your thesis? Anything exciting or particularly challenging? (now I am just being nosy and interested in you!)

The worst thing about pregnancy after a certain age is having it called a geriatric(!) pregnancy. Oy!

If you quit work when you are doing your thesis, I don't think a pregnancy would be that overwhelming. Don't try to do that and your job(s). I know women who have gone through residencies and/or medical/law school while raising a family. Don't count out the idea of a thesis after or during a pregnancy or while raising a family.

You are doing awesome this far! I see no reason why that would not continue with or without a family.

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Positive proof that prayer works!

by 3rdgen in

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about a week ago my adult daughter called me crying.

it seems her beloved expensive cat had jumped out of her second story window and disappeared.

"oh dear!

JWdaughter

Cat got hungry. It came home after catting around-as cats do.

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"The Waters" of Jehovah are drying up in Australia...65% young ones leave!

by Witness 007 in

at the international convention last week i caught up with my old congregation and asked about the young ones...there were 2 answers.

1. they flat out left got a boyfriend etc.

and 2. havent seen them for awhile meaning they faded or went off the grid so as not to be disfellowshipped.

JWdaughter

Sad, but inevitable. My aunts congregation was just assimilated by another. There had been 5 congs. at the hall she met in. There are now 3 with the latest assimilation. Its a poorer area in an area of high property values and at one time, 5 congs were necessary. No more. There are still 2 at the hall that separated when I was about 7 or 8. Same two. Dont know if there was any branching off and re-approachments in the meantime. I get very little info. In our family-used to be lots(dozens) of JWs clear into my generation. So many so that family reunions were getting really awkward there for awhile. There are now 3 including the distant murderous cousin (never charged or dFd for it).

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is the big show on 1914 at Service Meeting evidence of factions in the GB?

by Wasanelder Once in

sometimes the gb do end runs around each other, as when freddie franz didn't agree with the whole governing body concept and spoke against it at the gilead graduation.

could this video/demonstration at the service meeting tonight on why they believe in 1914 and how to explain it to others be an effort to bolster that belief because there is a challange coming against it by factions within?

i guess we can't really tell but i wouldn't put it past the boneheads running the society.

JWdaughter

1914 is embarrassing and while obsolete for all practical purposes, it is still a teaching oftheirs that many others hinge upon.It is stupid though-so how much better tohave someone else dothe thinking for them and present the "reason why we believe 1914 matters" talk without anyone having to turn on their brain cells. They can't abandon it yet, but no one really wants to do all their stupid maths and leaps of reasoning to explain the nonsense. So,they now have carefully scripted/or video'd nonsense so that none of the r&F or 'elder ones' have to do any heavy lifting nor will they botch the current rationale for the entire thing (lets face it, anyone over 40 has a lot of (WT) history of that date to get muddled into things and mess up whatever the current light is on the subject.)

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This weeks service meeting! More craziness.....

by stuckinarut2 in

so this weeks service meeting is so full of "crazy".

a whole 15 min part devoted to trying to indoctrinate everyone on how to "explain our beliefs on 1914".

then another 15 min part called "a tool to help us explain our beliefs about 1914".

JWdaughter

All of the explanations will soon be on videos that they show in the halls because this stuff is too hard for non-professionals to repeat with a straight face. Seriously-their simple bible beliefs cannot be explained by the R&F JW adequately-because it is totally illogical and irrational and stupid. Anyone charged with coming up with an explanation for it would lose all faith in the teaching unless they were medicated or something.

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Man grant divorce from wife who refused sex

by usualusername in

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a court in dubai has granted a divorce to a man who says his wife is possessed by spirits and refuses to have sex with him, reports suggest.. after persistently denying him sex, the woman finally told her husband to discuss the issue with her parents, the gulf news daily reports, without naming the couple.. they told the man that his wife was, in fact, possessed by a jinn, and that several religious scholars had unsuccessfully tried to exorcise the spirit, the paper says.. upon hearing this, the husband lodged a divorce case with the dubai sharia court.

his lawyer told a hearing: "the woman and her family cheated my client.

they should have been honest and clear about the fact that the wife was possessed by a jinn.

JWdaughter

He was granted a divorce because his wife refused sex. The "jinn" thing-that she has mental illness is also actually grounds to void a marriage in this country and many others. Among JWs from a post I read a few months ago, refusing a husband sex is not grounds for a 'scriptural' divorce.

That this made the news is only because the woman's excuse was brought up in court. There was never a marriage.

In such a situation, traditionally, the man would get back his marriage gift (in full or part, depending on circumstances) and they would simply part with not recriminations or big public to-do.

The man did not insist on or 'take'his marital rights. He respected her wishes. Except for giving her alimony:)

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A question for my friends in the USA about cowboys.

by punkofnice in

as a kid growing up in the uk we used to play 'cowboys and indians' and watch high chaparal and bonanza along with other cowboy films.

later, in the 70's kung fu would be shown with caine going through the 'old west'.

we even had a chocolate bar that was marketed with a 'cowboy' theme...milky bar.. as far as i know the 'wild west' as shown on tvdidn't actually exist.. are there people that believe it did?.

JWdaughter

I have seen the Alamo and the quote from Davy Crocket "You may all go to hell. I shall go to Texas".

The Alamo is a tiny building and it was part of the mission system here in Texas. In San Antonio there are several within a few miles of each other. We have hispanic cowboys now and supposedly the difference between a real cowboy and a fake is how shiny new his boots/truck is. There are still cowboys and Indians and ofttimes(in Texas, anyway) they are the same guys.

Being a cowboy is a JOB and there are still cows, still cowboys all over the world. The basic conflict in the 1800's was won by whites as they control most of the land now. The conflict was about land then (and where I am from, fishing rights, now) but it usually IS about land-everywhere in the world, isn't it? Just different native populations-results vary!

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Old Books

by Jeannette in

i have about 30 old books that i have collected over the years and i don't know what to do with them.

i wouldn't mind getting a little money for them, after all, i did contribute and spend tons of money in car gas.

i have: you may survive armageddon into god's new world; what has religion done for mankind?

JWdaughter

It's funny how much "food" they put out that has no value. It's like JWs have been eating fried pigskin and cotton candy all these years.

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December 1,2014 watchtower saying buying house is bad

by hoser in

page 15.

"take for example a christian couple in asia.

in their younger years, they admired those who could afford to own a house.

JWdaughter

The article was about a couple that "in their younger years". They are not so young now, presumably. Maybe they can't work now. Too bad they didn't buy a home to live in and their kids are bugging them for money to help support their ministry as Pioneers or Bethelites (If they haven't shunned them for being DFd).

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"Jehovah's Witnesses do better after surgery without transfusion" - Article (July 3, 2012)

by Da.Furious in

this article from 2012 published by the birmingham news showed up on my facebook page.. what i would have liked to see in the statistics is the inclusion of total jws refusing blood transfusion and their survival rate not only the ones taht surviced, taking about only survivors is not like for like comparison in my opinion with patients who take blood transfusion and then dont survive.. .

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JWdaughter

I haven't looked at this particular referenced study, but if related to the one I DID look at, they really skewed the results by readying the JWs with nutritional and other medical preparation for some time before surgery to make sure that they were as well prepared as possible (all proped up with as much help as possible). It wasn't really a fair study as the patients who took blood did NOT get any special preparation beyond normal. EVERY single patient would have had significantly improved results had they had the same preparation. So, to me, it looks like a study that was commissioned by the borg. If this is the same one-there you go.