JWdaughter

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  heartbroken and not sure what to do...

  by Khaleesi in

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  i don't know what to do.... i married last year and things have been very rocky.

  we dated for 4 years and did have normal issues but always had a lingering doubt something was just not right in our relationship-behavior to be more specific, he is not a jw, but i am.

  yes i know i married outside the "lord" but after my first marriage to a jw ended in divorce for physical abuse, i was glad i didn't married another jw.

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  Refusing intimacy with a wife. . .I was the wife for 20 years. It wasn't aspergers, it was rejection and control. I should have ended it long before. At least he will see a doctor, but it seems intractable. I'm sorry. A stubbornly cold marriage partner is soul killing. How else can we take it other than personally?

  The rejection was like a knife. It kills self esteem and takes the fun out of everything because your always wondering how they even feel a bout you. Is he gay? Is he getting it elsewhere? Does he like me at all?

  There willunlinkely be a recognition of anniversary. You do your thing, he won't.
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  A new member

  by Kurteousmaximus in

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  hi... i am new and after nearly 20 years after being disassociated at 15 i would like to make contact with others who have similar difficulties.

  my mother was disfellowshipped shortly after my rebellion and had all ties with both her mother and brother cut and that remains the case.. just really hacked off with not being able to put things in the proper place in my life after all these years.

  for the record i don't know if i believe in god but am searching for some peace as i seem to self destruct on a regular basis.. any ideas anyone?.

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  Welcome! I left right before my 16th birthday, too. I hope you are able to put that experience in its proper place. It does feel a little heavy in your life for something you "put behind" you at 15, doesn't it? This place might help you get some perspective.

  Welcome again!
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  heartbroken and not sure what to do...

  by Khaleesi in

  1. social
  2. relationships

  i don't know what to do.... i married last year and things have been very rocky.

  we dated for 4 years and did have normal issues but always had a lingering doubt something was just not right in our relationship-behavior to be more specific, he is not a jw, but i am.

  yes i know i married outside the "lord" but after my first marriage to a jw ended in divorce for physical abuse, i was glad i didn't married another jw.

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  If he is willing to talk to a doctor with you, it might make you understand the passengers better and get help with intimacy. If that is something he is unwilling or unable to do then you have some tough decisions ahead. Don't wait or let it drag on, it is soul killing to do that.

  Welcome to our nuthouse. Congratulations on discovering ttatt. How does that impact your extended family life? Do you have any support or shoulders around you?
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  Oh the humanities...my wicked neighbor!

  by username in

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  2. humour

  i have been given a piece of birthday cake as it was his birthday yesterday!

  will i be a human hot dog now?.....

  this just got me thinking of all the stupidities of the watchtower teachings, someone very kindly offers you something as innocent as a slice of chocolate cake but we were supposed to turn it down because that peace of chocolate cake now had horns poking out the top of the chocolate frosting.

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  I think the root of JWs birthday teaching is strictly pure meanness.not even greed, just that Rutherford was a killjoy and a jerk. Like jihadists can justify their hateful agenda. Like men justify racism, slavery and sexism.mean people will find justifications for evil.
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  Introducing...ME

  by Heartsafire in

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  long time lurker here.

  i'm a fifth gen born-in baptized jw.

  to say i've been struggling with doubts is an understatement.

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  Welcome! No rush! Get your bearings and go slow. Welcome, again.
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  Do you have J-dar?

  by JWdaughter in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  today at work i had an interesting set of co workers.

  one was telling us about her side job selling sex toys(also a l&d nurse).

  the other one, very beautiful, intelligent woman told us of her 2 kids.

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  Non religious context?
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  So Microsoft made a laptop - Surface Pro 4 / Surface Book

  by Simon in

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  2. current

  microsoft definitely seem to be undergoing a revival and are coming out with some cool tech.

  it's good to see them turning things around and keeping apple honest.. the holo-lens looks fantastic - much better than full vr headsets by providing augmented reality instead (imagine 3d minecraft projected on a table or aliens running round your living room to shoot at).. more practical though is the update to the surface tablet and the surprise release, the surface book laptop / tablet.

  yeah, it's confusing - one is a tablet that becomes a laptop and the other is a laptop that becomes a tablet.. i promised our eldest a laptop for his high-school graduation and to use now he's starting university and took him to the apple store a few months ago but the macbooks i was leaning towards weren't available at the time.

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  I do product testing(user experience) for MS sometimes and have been excited to see the improvements to Surface. Best thing, they listen to every dumb, side, hmmm kind of comment. Every thought as you are using it and how it could be better. They are awesomely curious about how to make things better. Write and tell them every thought you have on it. They are paying attention.
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  Do you have J-dar?

  by JWdaughter in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  today at work i had an interesting set of co workers.

  one was telling us about her side job selling sex toys(also a l&d nurse).

  the other one, very beautiful, intelligent woman told us of her 2 kids.

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  Today at work I had an interesting set of co workers. One was telling us about her side job selling sex toys(also a l&d nurse). The other one, very beautiful, intelligent woman told us of her 2 kids. Nothing explicitly said, she is from Jamaica originally and I thought she was JW. Just oozed it somehow. Husbands were brought up and she made a sidebar, dismissive remark about her husband being a (wait for it!) Window washer. I knew then that I was talking to a JW. I asked her how she met him. She was touring bethel, in NYC, and it was love at first sight. Long distance romance while she got her nursing training, then she moved here with him and his family.

  How is it that I have J-Dar so interestingly accurate? Do any of you notice this phenomenon in your life?
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  Super JW Cart

  by M*A*S*H in

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  i have a confession to make.

  a strange urge is building in my brain... each time i see a jw literature cart on the street it builds.

  it is becoming a stronger and stronger thought in my mind.

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  Just take lots of literature(to the recycle center). Public service, keeping it out of t h e hands of unsuspecting innocents.
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  Adjusting

  by cognac in

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  just feel like i could never make it on the outside world.

  i was never able to adjust, except in being a mom and in business.

  those are the only things that i feel strong in.

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  JWdaughter

  You ARE making it. It's not easy, and you are struggling because it is challenging! Everyday you are doing it and every day that you finish s a win. The only real 'finish line' is death. Every day until then is going to be filled with challenge and joy and work and rest. Success and failures. Sadness sometimes and sometimes the joy will surround you until you can barely catch your breath. Find a balance and ask for help if you feel overwhelmed. Even if help is paid or from a church or agency or doctor.

  Now you have a lot of burdens to sort out. Trust me, they will get sorted!