A friend that flirts openly with you though would not be a kind relationship to your wife. You had to shut that down and she forced you do do it quite firmly.
To all husbands, JW or not, letting your wife know that you like and respect her is necessary. Be overt in other than sexual ways as well as the sexual. And yes, she needs more than to get the tell tell poke when you spoon to tell her that you love her. You could sleep with your dog or a tent full of men and wake up with morning wood. That doesn't make us feel particularly cherished:)