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  How do you answer this question??

  by LuciousJ in

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  ok, i'm now da'd as many of you already know.

  it's so fresh that my stomach turns everytime the subject comes up about religion.

  however, something that does puzzle me a bit.......is how do you answer people when they ask you the question "what religion are you?

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  Allot of the replys made me smile!!

  Kudos!!

  It's funny I have not had anyone ask me that either. I have been out for 3 years.

  But for the JWs who wanted to press the 'belief's' issue as I was getting out I just told them in no uncertain terms that 'I have no use for religion in my life'. Of course that didn't sit well with many of them because for some reason allot of them around here don't like to think of themselves as 'religious'. They confuse 'religion' with 'spirituality'. Just like they don't like to call the KH a church. But that's exactly what it is by most people's definiton except for JWs.
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  How Did You Choose Your Alias?

  by hambeak in

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  i' curious how everyone came up with these unique alias names.

  my partner gave me mine because my favorite meat is ham.. hambeak

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  Mine is a reflection of what I am always doing
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  Reveal something interesting that we didn't know about you

  by JH in

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  ok, i'll start with myself.

  i'm a nut job, hey i bet you never knew that !!!

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  I'm the 'plucker' Crump was referring to. And yes ... I like it best bare with no hair at all. Ms Crump was right ... kind of like a 'cold turkey' but with allot more heat added.

  And to the other question I don't get neck cramps "much" because I do the plucking mostly to keep it Brazilian bare in between waxing. (I absolutly hate getting waxed!!) I just pluck a few everytime I potty.

  But like i said ... my plucking days are over because I am going to get laser hair removal down there just like I did under my arms.

  No more being a plucker!!! Wooo Hoooo!!!
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  Reveal something interesting that we didn't know about you

  by JH in

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  ok, i'll start with myself.

  i'm a nut job, hey i bet you never knew that !!!

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  *SMACK*

  tehehehee
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  Reveal something interesting that we didn't know about you

  by JH in

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  ok, i'll start with myself.

  i'm a nut job, hey i bet you never knew that !!!

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  I don't know if this is interesting or just plain sick but here goes...

  I have had this compulsive habit of plucking my pubic hair for about 3 years. But this month I stopped cold turkey because I am going to have it lasered off starting on the 16th.
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  Moving on...

  by Zico in

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  i've been reading this board regularly since it was introduced to me in march of this year.

  at first, i was finding it pretty difficult coming to terms with the fact that my whole life had been a lie, but really, i suppose there's not much point in worrying about this now, what's done is done, and i'm still easily young enough to make a life in 'the world' despite a slow start.

  the problem is that i have no idea how to go about.

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  First of all .... B-R-E-A-T-H-E. You don't have to solve it all today.

  School (trade or college) is a great place to start meeting new people and learning how to accept them for who they are without having the JW glasses cloud your view. So that will start to take care of the no friends outside of JW issue.

  I love the idea of using 'wanting to marry and have kids in a few years' so that you can stay 'clean' in the (b)org. (assuming u are a male) I think any JW parent would be able to swallow that. So maybe going to school for electrician even if it is just part time.

  You don't necessarily have to pretend to regular pioneer maybe pretend to regular auxillary. That will facilitate your schooling, keep your parent's nerves calm, and give you time away from home to have friends and do things with them once you go to school. It will also probably help you to get strong enough within yourself to come clean with your family and JW friends in your own due time.

  Remember no matter what you decide ... you are having to unravel 20 years of grooming to be a certain way. 20 years of mind, thought, and perception control not to mention actions. That is not going to happen over night. Take it one step at a time at your own pace and be patience and kind to yourself.

  Good luck!

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  Do you look your age?

  by Virgochik in

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  how many of you guys are like me?

  raised in the truth, (or joined later), but here we are, finding ourselves in our thirties, forties, or fifties....and the end hasn't come.

  we were never supposed to get this old!.

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  I must admit I don't do anything to stay looking young even though no can believe (just by looking) that I am as old as I am.

  I can never remember being upset with being my age. If anything when I was younger and in the "truff" I wanted to be older so I could be out on my own. Now I enjoy my age and my newly appearing grays. I actually made it this far in life and am happier and healthier then I have ever been before.

  Staying young is definitly not something I want to do. I want to continue to enjoy each and every moment and as I get older ... I just get older ... not big deal and no big loss.

  I will be 36 this year .... yippee ... with the battle scares of coming out of the 'borg' and the growth pains of this journey - I am just ecstatic to be alive and to be able to enjoy every moment of it to the fullest.

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  Show us your picture

  by Honesty in

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  that is, if you are able to without the prospect of facing a three-man kangaroo court appointed by jerhover to keep the congregation clean from apostate influences.. i'll go first: .

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  Wow! I actually have a pic to post. Now let's see if I run into operator error.
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  My big date!

  by Sparkplug in

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  i had an big date with my kids tonight.

  i just really do love them.

  we went to the theater and saw les miserables.

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  What a BEAUTIFUL family!!!!
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  I'm so angry!!!!!!

  by lola28 in

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  well it looks like my plan to fade might not work after all.

  yesterday afternoon i was in my office when two elders stopped by for a visit.

  they came into my job and began to question me in front of my boss and my new assistant!

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  I am so sorry you went through that. It sounds like a pure MESS! :-(

  Remember they don't have authority over you unless you let them and give them that authority (make you feel like a child). It takes a while for many to take their power back. To stand as an adult in the face of the 'elders' that we have been taught for so long to be submissive to.

  You are a grown ass woman ... you have the right to not talk to whomever you so choose not to talk to at whatever time you so choose. Eff them. Their own creed is not to witness to people on the clock at work unless they have received permission from the supervisor.(business territory rules)

  So if at all possible be assertive next time. Because if it is your boss protecting you at work they will probably just corner you somewhere else unfortunately ~ until you stand up and show them that you are not one to be eff'd with (you can do that and still fade in most cases.) I did.

  I wish you peace.

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