Lot,
I am currently disfellowshipped and have been for 8 yrs. I have struggled most of my life even being raised in the truth with what I should do. I often look in the sky and wonder if Jehovah is smiling at me or hurt by my conduct. I asked my father since he is an elder why he thought I may be on the outside for so long since I am currently livingmy life wholesomely and his response to me was that I lacked faith.
I am so fearful of not making it into paradise, I have just said "What do i have to lose by going back?" I want to be low Key with it all but I know what you are feeling. My advice is to live and be happy with what decisions you make and know that there is always a calm before and after the storm.
No matter what choices you make someone always has something to say about them. My mother is apostate and divorced my father 21 yrs ago. I just look at her and see her pain and her stubborness and she claims she is happy. I dont want to be like her. Pray and follow your heart. Patience is the best thing and know that the good qualities you have learned from the organization are helpful in your day to day living. Just dont be a fake!!!! Live to your happiness and respect your wife and her feelings as well.
Sincerely,
CC