Its sad that your marriage is suffering like this, but that is life. Nothing is certain. Not your money, not your health and not your marriage.
Having been through this and other crisis in life I have come to believe that there are happy times in life and sad times. It cycles.
Anyway, divorce is not that bad. Really. It is not like anyone dies...or is murdered.
You both stay alive. You just no longer live under the same roof. Kind of like before you met.
When no children are involved the task of divorce is not as difficult.
Marriage counseling only works when the couple is committed to staying together despite a big shift in their relationship.
But it is very hard when one mate is interfered with by an organization which constantly demonizes
the other mate. Very hard.
But like I say divorce is not that bad of a choice. It can be a very freeing thing really.
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by sacolton inover breakfast, my wife and i discussed the feeling of distance between us.
i haven't kept her for going to meetings or anything of the sort.
yet, since i've left the organization - she has been more distant from me.
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If what you said was the complete transcript of the conversation between you and the book study people, then you did not create a bad scene.
You stated your feelings and did the right thing to leave and take care of your child.
Im sure the brother who came with a cold is not an a--hole, nor is his wife.
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11/15/08 WT: Sick? Too damn bad - get yer @$$ back to the KH, slacker!
by sir82 inthere's been a few topics on the "search out the inactive ones" articles in this wt, but i haven't seen anything on the 3rd study article, titled "maintain a scriptural view of healthcare".. i was unaware that the bible had anything to say at all about healthcare, but oh how wrong i was!.
unfortunately, no scanner - perhpas one of the other intrepid posters could scan and post it.. but here are a few choice quotes:.
paragraph 6: "...we know it is wise to avoid letting our health become an obsession or a constant concern.".
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I remember when I was in, that individuals who keeled over and died right out in Field Service were highly praised and regarded for their faith. "Faithful to the end he was!" they would say while they wiped a nostalgic tear. So that was the goal we were to strive for, to die right in our seats.
They are all of them BONKERS!
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Offical - My wife is having a Mental breakdown!
by Witness 007 inyes the story so far....my wife hurt her back at work 6 months ago and since then has been more agressive and moody then normal....she decided she doesn't need anyone and is leaving me {divorce}....i have decided that this is what i want also.. she was organising full time work and a home loan to pay me my half of the assets.....until saturday morning!!!
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Good-bye to a Great Dog
by jgnat inattached is one of my best paintings, a contrast between my brooding son and a happy dog.
the dog is gem, my daughter's dog for over four years, who was just put down last week.
i just learned yesterday, and i woke in the middle of the night, crying, wanting to give a tribute to her.
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What a sweet gesture for a beautiful soul, Gem's.
I hate it that our pets die! They are so good to us and give us so much love!
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i hope this breaks your heart
by chickpea inhttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=prdowbexrkm.
my family is in a nascent period of adapting to our child's .
revelation that he is an ftm transgendered person...... above all else he is still just a person...... it is a scary reality that the majority of the world.
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Humans can be unspeakably cruel. It is the exceptional human being who can see another's point of view or put himself or herself in another person's shoes and have compassion.
Thank you Chickpea for your loving insight into the plight of those transgendered.
I will remember this lesson
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What new fruits/veggies/foods have you tried? We tried Pepino Melon...yum!
by FreedomFrog ineach shopping trip, i get one new veggie/fruit or new dish and we (me and the kids) will taste test things.
we've found many things we've liked doing this.
tonight we just tried a pepino melon and it was very good.
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Good discussion! I am three weeks into vegetarianism (trying to lose weight, lower my blood pressure, and feel better about not eating wee creatures) I also read that cancer does not grow in a body on a low protein diet. Many cancer patients are put on low protein diets. I thought maybe we are eating too much protein when we digest pounds and pounds of dead animals.
I will keep reading your posts about all the fruits and veggies there are to keep one happy!
And I will try some new ones!!!
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My seperation/Divorce up-date. Un-believable what she wants!
by Witness 007 inmy wife asked for a seperation last week.
she rattles off a huge list of wrong things, like dress better when going out {wear a jacket?
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That selfish girl needs a lesson. Im sorry she is treating you with such disrespect for all you have contributed to the marriage.
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Another Longtime Lurker
by liveforevermybutt inwell i finally decided to post.
i have been looking at this site for many years(4 or 5 i guess) but never really felt the need to post until now.to give a little background i was raised in a strict jw family.
my dad was an elder for most of my childhood, po for most of it) thankfully he fell away when i was 15 or 16. so there was no pressure from him to get baptised.
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Another Longtime Lurker
by liveforevermybutt inwell i finally decided to post.
i have been looking at this site for many years(4 or 5 i guess) but never really felt the need to post until now.to give a little background i was raised in a strict jw family.
my dad was an elder for most of my childhood, po for most of it) thankfully he fell away when i was 15 or 16. so there was no pressure from him to get baptised.
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It seems your old friend just keeps making stupid bad decisions.
This last one included.
Drop the loser.
Do not respond to him. He will turn you in. He is not a loyal friend.