Under_believer,
I don't know the particulars about Stafford's elder situation. I do, though, know my own. I had elders who were very understanding and patient. Without going into detail here they could have disfellowshipped me if they had wanted to but they didn't. They exercised quite a bit of allowance and left me alone though they knew I opposed the GB. Perhaps Stafford has a similar situation, I don't know.
My only point here is that Stafford should be allowed the dignity of his own conscience and his own decision making. Who are we to find fault?
IW