i've been seeing an amazing man for a few months now.
i recently found out that before we met, my boyfriend had been thinking about getting back together with his ex-girlfriend.
(who is going through a divorce of her own right now) they have a two year old son together.. he says that if his child weren't involved, he wouldn't even consider going back to her.
You are too good and sensible to be a door mat or waste too much time on this.
"Fighting" over a man or a relationship or an idea is wasted time. It's all on him. If he chooses not to make that mistake again, would you feel secure in the relationship?
would this be frowned upon these days if a person decided to go to the police academy?
Thank you for the answer. I wanted to know if a jw in good standing could decide to go to a police academy and become an officer. I think most policeman carry guns. What happens to people who collect guns or go shooting then? They must give up their hobby?
would this be frowned upon these days if a person decided to go to the police academy?
Would this be frowned upon these days If a person decided to go to the police academy?
i am shunning them.. after some recent developments with my family, and resulting anxiety, i am now the one who has made it clear i want no contact with them.. i am making this clear because i can't say at this point that they are shunning me and i won't claim that anymore.. i did this for the sake of my own sanity (no comments please) and because i need to move on with life without organizational bullshit games that are designed to manipulate and isolate people.. i am not advocating this, i am not saying that this is right and good, it was what i needed to do to survive.. over the winter, i had made this decision, wrote a letter, but could never muster up the courage to do it.. today on the phone, after being told that the reason i could not have family support while hannah had been having her health issues was because they didn't want to offend jehovah, i told my mother that was why i want nothing else to do with any of them.. and that was the end of the conversation.. so..the end i guess.
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There comes a time when you hve to take back your power and get control of your own life. You teach people how to treat you. So you have just told them you don't find this treatment acceptable.
so, last night we were working in our garage, we want the whole garage as a banquet hall for our 4th blowout instead of only half like last year.
going through boxes, i found the mother-lode of old jw books!.
my old collection of lit!.
You might want to sell them on Ebay.
i've been studying with the jw's for a few months and i've attended a few meetings but things are feeling somewhat strange...i don't quite get the jist of things but i feel that i'm learning more of what the watchtower teachers and less of what the bible actually says.. i never open my bible.. i'm always reading the watchtower pamphlets.
i really like the people i've met in the congregation and the guy thats been doing the studies with me has been an awesome friend.. .
but i'm just having some issues.. i mean.. they translated their own bible to suit their own doctrines it seems.
I would get a signed, legal lease. Seriously. You would not be the first to depend on a jw and end up screwed.
Jws are really good at teading people & figuring out what they are looking for, then adapting themselves in order to manipulate others. You will not win an argument with them, they spend many hours a week being brainwashed & taught how to twist & manipulate. I don't think you need a father figure. I think you need to figure out what you are interested in and like for yourself. I think you can find better "friends" that don't judge you or try to pursuade you to adopt their religion or point of view.
I hope you stick around Mike.
i'd like to get your thoughts.
we are torn parents.
having both been raised jws, we said that we'd allow our kids to do what they wanted to in sports.
Ariana, Jehovah created horses for people to ride.
since leaving behind jw beliefs, i have been interested in learning other belief systems.
i am really interested in native american beliefs as i have native blood in my background, and i feel more at peace and closer to god when i am in nature.
from what i have read, it is not a set religion with rules and such, but more a cultural/community based faith.
Every Native American tribe has very different beliefs. For instance, some consider one animal a good omen but another tribe will consider that same animal bad luck. You cannot lump more than one tribe into "Native american beliefs". I would investigate your own particular tribe if I were you.
hey all,.
no pressure, no guilt, but for those of you who can, and those who feel like they would like to make a difference for someone special on this board (aka "family" to many of you), could you please consider helping a 'sister' in real need?
flyinghighnow needs some short-term help financially.
I hope this situation improves fast! (((FHN)))
for whatever reason.
do you question it sometimes and think you should try to "reach out" to them again?
i was this morning and then came across the thread above and was reminded why i need to stay away.. but, still, i read threads of people who have managed somehow, despite being d'f'ed or faded or d'aed and think i might try to be more understanding, supportive, reach out or something.. despite all the problems growing up in a fairly dysfunctional family, i still feel a deep attachment to them and hope against hope that they might come to their senses (if they ever had any to begin with) and get help and leave the cult of jehobo; and we might reconcile,etc., etc., blah blah blah dream dream dream.. i deeply wish for them all freedom and happiness and healing and feel so helpless to free them of their bonds and yet see so much possibility for it, if only they could be reached somehow.
Some of us have just decided not to participate in any more of these hot/cold scenes. These people are choosing to act like this. These same circular conversations get sickening. Some of us choose not to be abused.
Life is short and good. Hang around positive people and be happy.
