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  Where are you on the map? New Maps

  by Lady Lee in

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  ok there are so many americans on the map now i had to split you all in half.. valis was kind enough to let me place the maps on his website until i found a new home for them.. photobucket seems to be a good option - at least for now.

  so i have uploaded the new maps which have been updated to include everyone who has asked.. so if you were wondering where we are from.

  or how close you are to other jwd posters in your area just take a look.

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  GoingGoingGone

  Littlerockguy - You're on the map in Arizona...

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  Intro- any ex-jw's from nyc?

  by dezpbem in

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  hi my name is desi.

  i'm an ex-jw from the bronx.

  just thought i'd intro myself to the group.. are there any other ex-jw's here from nyc?.

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  GoingGoingGone

  (today is my birthday!!!!)

  Happy birthday, HL!!!

  And WELCOME Desi!! I'm not from NYC either, but it's nice to have you here... Enjoy!

  GGG
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  Just sayin Howdy

  by forsharry in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i saw that other people had done this and i figured it would be a good way to introduce myself.

  i've been reading many of the threads and let me tell you that it's comforting to read that others feel the same way i have felt about being in the organization.

  i'm not sure how much i can contribute as far as delectible tidbits of information, but i have replied to a couple of threads to, if nothing else, interject some 'humor' into things.

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  (((((((((((forsharry)))))))))))

  Welcome! Your story is not an uncommon one ... there are many here who understand exactly what you are feeling and exactly what you're going through.... I happen to be one of them. This place is wonderful. Enjoy it!!

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  Watching an addicted brain is fun! (quitting smoking)

  by AlmostAtheist in

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  2. friends

  so i'm quitting smoking.

  it's no biggee, i've done it before... .

  no seriously, i smoked my last one at lunch.

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  GoingGoingGone

  You go, Dave!!!

  I have never smoked, and I have the utmost respect for those who quit. My father in law quit after smoking for 40 years. He got pneumonia, and the doctor said he couldn't smoke while on the antibiotics he was on, and he made up his mind to quit that day and has never smoked again. I was impressed... He says it was really hard, but he feels better now than he did at age 30.

  I'm pulling for you!! You can do it!

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  Welcome Forsharry!!!

  by damselfly in

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  2. friends

  guess what?

  she's outspoken too.. http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/9/100181/1726447/post.ashx#1726447.

  love the kitty in your avator!.

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  GoingGoingGone

  Hi Forsharry and welcome! I love your avitar, too!

  Enjoy yourself here!

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  Elder Abuse and Special Committees

  by twinflame in

  1. watchtower
  2. scandals

  i thought i would share an experience from the congregation i was assosiated with in utah.

  about 17 years ago i caught my 15-year-old stepson molesting my 3-year-old daughter.

  of course, the first action taken was to call the elders.

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  GoingGoingGone

  (((((((((((twinflame)))))))))))))

  I can't even imagine what it must have been like for you to discover that your children were being sexually abused. Absolutely cannot imagine.

  I was continually made to feel like I was weak spiritually because I was unable to forgive him for what he did. I felt like a very bad person.

  One thing I do know, is that you cannot keep blaming yourself. It's not your fault. You were a victim, too.

  Hang in there.....

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  Do you find it difficult to tell your JW parents you love them?

  by misspeaches in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  does anyone find it difficult to express their emotions to their jw parents?

  my father has never been a jw and i feel comfortable enough to tell him how much i love him without hesitation.

  when it comes to my jw mum i feel like it is forced and then i feel resentful and then i feel guilty all at once.

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  GoingGoingGone

  Thank you, Lady Lee

  I used to think that growing up with no emotional support made me a stronger person. I've always been a pillar of support for my siblings and for my friends. And I do think that to a certian extent, it has made me stronger. I never rely on anyone, for anything, ever. I trust myself only. But that's not always a good thing. It took me forever to begin posting on sites such as this one, because I found it very difficult to accept help or support from anyone else. But you can't exit a cult all by yourself, no matter how strong you are. So it's been a learning experience, in more ways than one.

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  Do you find it difficult to tell your JW parents you love them?

  by misspeaches in

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  2. friends

  does anyone find it difficult to express their emotions to their jw parents?

  my father has never been a jw and i feel comfortable enough to tell him how much i love him without hesitation.

  when it comes to my jw mum i feel like it is forced and then i feel resentful and then i feel guilty all at once.

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  GoingGoingGone

  We must be related!! How wonderful to know it's not just me and my unbaptized siblings who have the poster child of "bad moms" out there.

  OK they tie for first place!!!

  I have finally made the choice to keep my distance from her, for my own mental health as well, and for once in my life I don't feel guilt over it.

  Lady Lee and Freedomlover -

  I think we have a 3-way tie. I could tell you stories about my mother that would stand your hair on end. And I have now cut her out of my life for my own mental health. I'm here for whatever she needs, but I will not have her in my life anymore. She is definately mentally ill, but so charming and manipulative that it takes quite a while for people to see it. If ever.

  Just writing this is stirring up all kinds of emotions. I thought I was more 'done' with it.

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  Shunned again, and you won't guess where. EVER.

  by kwintestal in

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  2. friends

  well, we were going about our business today as we usually do on a monday.

  mrs kwin went to work, kids went to school, i stayed home and made apple sauce and beer.

  2:30 comes along and it's time to pick up everyone and, oh yeah ... we have that appointment today.

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  GoingGoingGone

  Um... kwin..... Weren't you UNdisfellowshipped? Or wasn't she there for that announcement?

  I think you should tell her that she is treating her spiritual brother in a very unloving way.....

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  Question for Freedom Lover (Mrs ITIS)

  by Severus in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  but i have, as many others, followed your husband's story with much interest.

  please accept my apology if i am too forward, but i would like to hear your viewpoint of this story.

  i too have an intelligent, thinking wife that is still afraid to look beyond the organisation for hope.

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  GoingGoingGone

  Hi M.J. -

  Just thought I'd throw this out there...

  Back in 1992, I read a book called 'Wild Swans' by Jung Chang. It's a true story of 3 generations of women in China - the author's grandmother, her mother, and herself. She describes the clandestine activities her parents engaged in in helping bring Communism to power in China, the hardships they endured, and later the prestige they enjoyed because of their earlier 'legwork'. In time, however, her father witnessed Communist policies and practices that he found to be corrupt and destroying the lives of the common person, and could not take part in these. That put him in pretty hot water. He finally blurted out something against Mao to some of his well-placed collegues, which was the ultimate crime. From that point on, this once die-hard Communist was persecuted, his family ostracized, and he died an early death.

  As I began to read this book, I had no conscious doubts about the JWs. But the description of the worship of Mao, of the rise of hardworking 'common people' to the ranks of 'ruler', the consequent doubts that arose in the minds of said people and their inability to express them, and the persecution that arose when they finally broke down and said what they thought... It was all too much. There were waaaaaaay too many parallels to be drawn. I remember literally shaking at times, with the realization of what type of organization I was actually stuck in. I had honestly never seen it as a 'controlling' type of organization before that, believe it or not.

  At any rate, my point is that there are all kinds of ways to place subtle doubt. Some may not even have to do with religion at all.... You never know what might hit a nerve....

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