i got reinstated some time ago.
to get back my family.
went to a couple of meetings, then called saying i'd be out of town for a while.
Hi Rowan and welcome!
Ignore them. Don't return their calls. Hopefully they will just forget about you after a little while. I had elders calling here a few months ago... they called every single day for a couple weeks, then they stopped and I haven't heard from them since.
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hello everybody i just discovered this site a few days ago and am now formaly introducing my self.
i am 23 years old, i was born and raised in the truth, then about 2 1/2 ears ago i got discfellowshiped.
i didn't know anything else besides the truth.
Hello JUG and welcome to the forum!
Nice to meet you, and I hope we hear lots more from you! Enjoy!
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looks like a good place to start, maybe you guys can help me figure out what to do with my extremly messed up family.
my family are either jws or were at some point.
im sure you can see why this leads to a completly disfunctional family.
Welcome to the forum sickofhurting!
Everyone seems so assured of their beliefs here. I hope to get to that point some time in my life, along with growing a spine when it comes to my family.
I don't think everyone here is so sure of their beliefs! LOL! Guess we put on a good show, huh?
I've decided that my life is a journey, and I'm in charge. I'm not letting anyone tell me what I believe anymore. That applies to religion, my conscience, my kids, my marriage, everything.
When it comes to your kids, you say you know that you don't want them exposed to the JW upbringing you had. That's good! So, keep them away from JWs and by all means, keep them out of the KH! As far as respecting your elders - there is a difference between being respectful, and being a doormat.
Stick around, there are lots of wise people here (um, I'm not one of them, though... ) Enjoy!
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i had forgotten to look for toyota camrys in the parking lot as it was a saturday at noon.
and lo and behold... who should i see sitting at a table but a group on break.
i knew them all well but only 2 recognized me.
But are they not judging you? Are you saying that you don't want to get too judgemental with them when they do it to you?
Yes, they are judging me. But I know why they are. They don't know why I have left what they consider to be the one and only way to please God, and I can't tell them either. They are still JWs, they are still great, fun, loving people who would drop everything to help a friend. I'm just not their friend anymore.
brainwashing aside....what about just being a human being!
The reason for brainwashing is to take away the natural human aspects... It's so twisted. It's so evil.
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it's late.
it's been a rough few weeks for me.
moving away from my old jw life and world was the only way i could deal with this journey.
((((((((((freedomlover)))))))))
When I was about 10 years old, I got glasses for the first time. It was winter, and I remember sitting and looking out my bedroom window at the tree across the street that I saw every single day. It had no leaves, and with my glasses on, I saw every single branch and twig on that tree for the first time. I sat and stared out my window for hours...
I feel like that sometimes now, too. Like I'm looking at the world around me and really seeing it for the very first time. It's beautiful.
Lots of love from a fellow traveller!
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i had forgotten to look for toyota camrys in the parking lot as it was a saturday at noon.
and lo and behold... who should i see sitting at a table but a group on break.
i knew them all well but only 2 recognized me.
But, I take it your inactive and not da'ed or df'd right? Now would those same kind hearted people have said a single word to you had you been DF'ed or DA'd?
Ok, here's my problem:
I totally understand what you're saying. I'm not DF'd, and thus my friends still talk to me. If they were to ignore me, though, I know that (initially at least) I would be angry and hurt. But my friends would still be good people.... right?
This is what I think now, as a not-DF'd person. I'm trying to prepare myself so that if/when I'm DF'd, I won't become judgemental of the people whom I care for so much now. Yet, the person whom I considered my best friend here has been avoiding me since I stopped attending meetings. In her mind, I'm sure that I'm bad association. I'm annoyed with her because I'm the same person I always have been.... but she's the same person, too. And I know why she's avoiding me - she's brainwashed. So what right do I have to be angry?
I'm just kind of rambling here, I'm trying to work thru this in my mind. I love my friends, they're great people, and yet I know that they will all shun me if I'm DF'd. I'm trying to figure out why that makes me so angry and hurt.
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i had forgotten to look for toyota camrys in the parking lot as it was a saturday at noon.
and lo and behold... who should i see sitting at a table but a group on break.
i knew them all well but only 2 recognized me.
I guess I wonder if any of you have people you know who are still in that make you question your leaving due to their good behaviour and conduct.
Yes... lots of them.
I had some really, really good friends. Lots of them, in fact. Truly good people who love their families and their friends and who show it by their actions. Most of them live far from me now because we've moved, and they still don't know that I've faded, so we still talk by phone. But if I'm ever DF'd, they will stop talking to me immediately, because they believe that it's the right thing to do.
It doesn't make me question my leaving, though. I know without a doubt that the WTS is NOT teaching 'The Truth', in fact I believe they are a destructive cult. I will never go back.
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started on wednesday...already can't get to all the work that people are trying to give me.... shoulda done this a lot sooner :)
Congratulations!
It's great to be your own boss. Never have to worry if you'll get off for the assemblies..... oh wait, nevermind...!
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JH you're not a sheep you're a RAT!
silly....
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i know i'm not jwd's most popular participant but even i look at this place as a means of support sometimes.
i just wanted to say that this morning my father died of a heart attack while in field service.. i am on my way to new mexico with my daughter.
as some of you know i am df'd so you know how that goes when attending a jw funeral.
I'm so sorry for your loss, Eduardo. Travel safely. My thoughts are with you and your family.
Please let us know how it went when you get back.
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