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  Anyone from the Washington, DC area

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  it would be nice to correspond with someone from my area.

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  findingmyway

  I'm in B-more almost every weekend. Are you still a O's and Ravens fan?
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  Anyone from the Washington, DC area

  by findingmyway in

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  it would be nice to correspond with someone from my area.

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  findingmyway

  It would be nice to correspond with someone from my area.
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  Trouble explaining my life story to my boyfriend of almost 2 years

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  well, the time has come to explain my former jw life to my boyfriend of almost 2 years.

  he's getting a bit tired of being there for me during my meltdowns and not knowing or fully understanding why i am having a meltdown.

  i can no longer explain it as pms...he knows me too well now.

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  findingmyway

  THANK YOU ALL FOR YOUR KIND, ENCOURAGING WORDS. I AM LOOKING FORWARD TO HAVING THAT CONVERSATION NOW. I KNOW I WON'T REGRET IT!
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  Trouble explaining my life story to my boyfriend of almost 2 years

  by findingmyway in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  well, the time has come to explain my former jw life to my boyfriend of almost 2 years.

  he's getting a bit tired of being there for me during my meltdowns and not knowing or fully understanding why i am having a meltdown.

  i can no longer explain it as pms...he knows me too well now.

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  findingmyway

  Eva,

  He must be in angst over this because he is the one who is open and I am the reason for our communication barriers. There is just so much shame and embarassment. Not that I wasn't ashamed and embarassed living as a JW, but now that I know that this isn't what I want - to admit that this is how I lived the majority of my life - even as an adult does cause some level of embarassment.

  I understand that it isn't my fault, but it's something that I try to hide nonetheless.
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  Trouble explaining my life story to my boyfriend of almost 2 years

  by findingmyway in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  well, the time has come to explain my former jw life to my boyfriend of almost 2 years.

  he's getting a bit tired of being there for me during my meltdowns and not knowing or fully understanding why i am having a meltdown.

  i can no longer explain it as pms...he knows me too well now.

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  jgnat,

  One of my best friends is also df'd and she said the same thing...share everything...even the gory details. I don't know why I feel like I should shield him from this, but it may be the best therapy for me. This board has been awesome. I lost my password, so I had to create a new profile. I formally used 9thWonder. I can't wait to put all this behind me.
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  Trouble explaining my life story to my boyfriend of almost 2 years

  by findingmyway in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  well, the time has come to explain my former jw life to my boyfriend of almost 2 years.

  he's getting a bit tired of being there for me during my meltdowns and not knowing or fully understanding why i am having a meltdown.

  i can no longer explain it as pms...he knows me too well now.

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  findingmyway

  CYP,

  I think this board may be a bit much for him.
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  Trouble explaining my life story to my boyfriend of almost 2 years

  by findingmyway in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  well, the time has come to explain my former jw life to my boyfriend of almost 2 years.

  he's getting a bit tired of being there for me during my meltdowns and not knowing or fully understanding why i am having a meltdown.

  i can no longer explain it as pms...he knows me too well now.

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  findingmyway

  I'm thinking I just need to sit him down, shut him up, swallow a glass of wine and start from the top. So much to tell, but I guess I'll leave out the gory details (you know, JDC meetings, etc.).
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  Trouble explaining my life story to my boyfriend of almost 2 years

  by findingmyway in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  well, the time has come to explain my former jw life to my boyfriend of almost 2 years.

  he's getting a bit tired of being there for me during my meltdowns and not knowing or fully understanding why i am having a meltdown.

  i can no longer explain it as pms...he knows me too well now.

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  findingmyway

  I guess that's why he's so concerned about the amount of influence that my family has over me...he doesn't know that I have made a conscious decision to never go back. He will also probably want me to make an announcement of some kind (which I suppose I may have to do) to my family that this isn't what I want and I don't want them filling my son's (I have an 8 year old) head with their doctrines.

  That does make sense.
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  Trouble explaining my life story to my boyfriend of almost 2 years

  by findingmyway in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  well, the time has come to explain my former jw life to my boyfriend of almost 2 years.

  he's getting a bit tired of being there for me during my meltdowns and not knowing or fully understanding why i am having a meltdown.

  i can no longer explain it as pms...he knows me too well now.

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  findingmyway

  It's all so scary because all I have ever had was my family and my so-called JW friends. I don't know why I equate opening up to him to letting go of my family. There are not guarantees with him and then what am I left with.
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  Trouble explaining my life story to my boyfriend of almost 2 years

  by findingmyway in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  well, the time has come to explain my former jw life to my boyfriend of almost 2 years.

  he's getting a bit tired of being there for me during my meltdowns and not knowing or fully understanding why i am having a meltdown.

  i can no longer explain it as pms...he knows me too well now.

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  findingmyway

  Well, the time has come to explain my former JW life to my boyfriend of almost 2 years. He's getting a bit tired of being there for me during my meltdowns and not knowing or fully understanding why I am having a meltdown. I can no longer explain it as PMS...he knows me too well now. See I am df'd and he can't stand the fact that I am not close with my family because of their religious beliefs. He refuses to allow our relationship to go any further until I explain all this "religion stuff" to him. He wants to be there for me, but he doesn't want to take our relationship to the next level until he knows what he's getting into. It helps that I now know that, as much as I would love to be reunited with my family, I no longer want to be one a JW and I know that means that I will never be able to put my arms around my parents and siblings again.

  I know many of you are wondering why I have yet to explain all this to him. The problem is I don't want him hating my family (because I don't hate them), but I don't know how to explain all this to him without stirring emotions of disgust and hurt in him. Also, I have never been able to talk about all this to anyone. But the affect that my upbringing and has had on my childhood and my adult relationships is profound. I simply cannot open up to anyone because my experience has been that whenever I do, I am betrayed by the people who I thought were supposed to protect and nuture me...namely, my parents. They got me to open up and confess and then they turned me in to the elders on more than one occasion, which led to my being df'd in those instances. If you can't trust your parents and if they will turn their backs on you, then what makes anyone else any different.

  All he wants is complete openness and honesty, but I struggle with that. Any thoughts?