Ghiagirl

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  Hello from Orange County!

  by Ghiagirl in

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  2. experiences

  would love to see if any users are from orange county area??

  been around newport beach, laguna beach, and costa mesa for the last 12 years!!

  been hesitant on posting my area, but i have nothing to hide my family, as well as my husbands know where we stand.

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  Also familiar with san clemente, san juan capistrano, mission viejo, aliso viejo, whittier, inland empire, huntington beach, etc.
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  Hello from Orange County!

  by Ghiagirl in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  would love to see if any users are from orange county area??

  been around newport beach, laguna beach, and costa mesa for the last 12 years!!

  been hesitant on posting my area, but i have nothing to hide my family, as well as my husbands know where we stand.

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  Would love to see if any users are from Orange County area?? Been around Newport Beach, Laguna Beach, and Costa Mesa for the last 12 Years!! Been hesitant on posting my area, but i have nothing to hide my family, as well as my husbands know where we stand. Thanks!
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  heartbroken and not sure what to do...

  by Khaleesi in

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  i don't know what to do.... i married last year and things have been very rocky.

  we dated for 4 years and did have normal issues but always had a lingering doubt something was just not right in our relationship-behavior to be more specific, he is not a jw, but i am.

  yes i know i married outside the "lord" but after my first marriage to a jw ended in divorce for physical abuse, i was glad i didn't married another jw.

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  hello! I have a close friend she is in her 40s and they discovered only a few years ago of their daughter having aspergers syndrome and after finding that out she definitely believes her husband is somewhere on the spectrum! They as well have issues in the bedroom, she is always ready to go but he shows zero interest! it is very frustrating for her. If your husband is open to get help give it a chance! It is something he can't help, just like anxiety and depression. I know over the years her daughter has done a complete 180! As for her husband i don't think they have had good communication or been open to try and fix it, but from what I've seen from their daughter, things can get better!!!!
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  Jws are judgmental

  by Ghiagirl in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  its funny how different i look at things now.

  i look back at myself when i was going to meetings and remember being so judgmental.

  maybe it was just me but peoples views and opinions really rubbed off on me.

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  Its funny how different i look at things now. I look back at myself when i was going to meetings and remember being so judgmental. Maybe it was just me but peoples views and opinions really rubbed off on me. I would look at others and judge them for things they have done or situations they were in. Out of my whole family i was definitely the least judgmental because deep down i really thought the whole religion was strange. But i guess when you are surrounded by people who judge each other instead of being understanding and loving it makes you think thats normal! Being away from the JWs I'm glad to say i get to be who i truly am and look at everyone and be accepting, loving, and understanding. Anyone else feel the same?
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  not going to school

  by Sabin in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  i don't know if it is the same where you are but where i live it is a common practise of jdub`s to withdraw their kid`s from school at about year 8 even younger in some cases.

  they say they are being home schooled & of cause they do cover a certain amount of school topics.

  don't get me wrong i`m not saying that it is wrong to home school a youngster, especially if they are being bullied or suffering in some way, but the jdub`s don't do it for this purpose, oh no their kid`s are out on the field service during what would be school hours.

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  My parents tried to homeschool me around grade 10 cause I was "getting in to trouble" aka being a normal teenager. But I convinced them not too. Now my brother is going to be a senior they got him to homeschool I believe freshman year! Never even got to experience high school. On top of that they want him to work for the family business. So basically have zero contact with the outside world. He is however happy homeschooling my family travels a lot and all his friends are homeschooled, of course. But it makes his chances of ever getting out so slim because that's all he knows and will never have the opportunity to build relationships outside of the jws for school and work! It's a trap!
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  Have my beautiful blessing from jehovah

  by Ghiagirl in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  as my husband always says sarcastically about our newborn son, how people contradict themselves.

  well he is a blessing but he is also the reason you are being shunned and were run out of the organization because you had premarital sex.

  my beautiful son is finally here, and who texts and calls us the day he is born??

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  Thank you all! I am hoping to become a regular poster. I am so intrigued by ex jw life. Not sure if it is because I am a born in or what. I am so happy to be free! And so wonderful to have the support and reassurance I'm not crazy! Sometimes I feel like maybe I'm wrong, but hearing everyone's experiences and having your support makes me realize I know the truth about the truth. Thank you all so much again!
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  A comforting thought

  by Truth and Justice in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i have not been on the board in a long time, and as i started reading some of the posts, i could not believe how many new faces or names have appeared on this site.

  it is certainly alot more than i could count.

  it builds more confidence in me, that the other have of my immediate family will open their eyes.

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  I left last year, honestly I would have never left if I never got pregnant, and if I never got harassed by the elders in my congregation even before I found out I was pregnant because I was dating a baptized brother and I was not yet baptized. The way they chased my now husband and I out is what led to us never going back. Having them call, email, text, send certified letters, come knock on our door at night....they couldn't wait to disfellowship my husband. Having them before the harassment pull me in the back room and ask me if I am having sex with my boyfriend!! Why would I tell you, you creepy old brothers. I don't even know you! I was not truly awake until I saw my husbands whole family drop him after one announcement. To see the pain and hurt he had for months and months even to this day. That is what woke me up. But if that never happened I may have never truly realized the organization for what it really is. Some people leave cause they want to live their lives but still think it is the truth. But I have so much respect for those who disassociate themselves. Making it known you left because they no longer want to be apart of a religion made up of lies. I understand why people fade I wish my husband and I could have because all of his family are witness's and only my immediate family is, but it could have made things a little easier. But at the end of the day we are truly happy to live our lives without having to watch our back or hide it!!!
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  I thought of what may happen if it was me

  by Truth and Justice in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  a brother goes to the thursday night meeting, and an elder says that he and a couple of elders would like to visit with him.

  " the elder says "well lets wait till after the meeting.

  " so he waits.

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  I also pity anyone still in. Even those who aren't awake yet. Some days I want to cry thinking of family and friends that are such amazing people, wasting their lives away, thinking that they know the truth. How lucky I am to have woken up, to think I will never have my family and friends back like I used to have them. That my husband and I will never go have a family dinner with our relatives, because they believe god wants them to shun their own blood. I was once a true believer and my heart aches for those blindly following lies.
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  Have my beautiful blessing from jehovah

  by Ghiagirl in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  as my husband always says sarcastically about our newborn son, how people contradict themselves.

  well he is a blessing but he is also the reason you are being shunned and were run out of the organization because you had premarital sex.

  my beautiful son is finally here, and who texts and calls us the day he is born??

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  As my husband always says sarcastically about our newborn son, how people contradict themselves. Well he is a blessing but he is also the reason you are being shunned and were run out of the organization because you had premarital sex. My beautiful son is finally here, and who texts and calls us the day he is born?? The same people who not only never saw me my whole pregnancy but never even sent one flimsy text message to ask how I was doing. Oh but you want to show up at my house and see my baby!!! All of my husbands family, well most of them, decide to pop up NOW. How sickening. My family shortly before I had the baby decided to drop the whole religion thing And respect where I stand. So that makes things a little easier on me. My husband being disfellowshipped though obviously changes how people associate with us. We want wants best for our son so if family wants to all of a sudden come around fine. But no popping in and out of our life and no trying to talk about or take our son to the meetings! The nerve these people have though to come around all of a sudden like nothing happened. Makes me so mad. I would like to know how other disfellowshipped people's family and friends treat them? I know of a couple people whose family still sees them on a regular basis. And others who are completely cut off. It's so sad that most people would keep in contact if it weren't for the organizations way to control it!!! I almost feel bad there people don't know any better and feel like it's the only choice they have.
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  Update rant almost a year out!

  by Ghiagirl in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  for those who know my story my hubby and i are almost a year out of the organization!

  my due date is right around the corner and still no word from my hubby's family.

  they are hardcore.

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  For those who know my story my hubby and I are almost a year out of the organization! My due date is right around the corner and still no word from my hubby's family. They are hardcore. Rumor has it they are putting forth extra effort to show no love or support because they KNOW he is going back. Haha yeah right! Hubby is about ready to join the guys sitting in front of the convention holding their signs we are always joking! Hubby is df'd and I am a removed publisher. So my family has made a small effort to get together, we have gone to lunch a couple times kept the convo light, however they snuck me a copy of the return to Jehovah!!!! But I appreciate them not pushing anything, at least not YET. They always find a way. I feel so horrible for my husband, although he is the one baptized and I'm not, he never truly understood the religion and only got baptized to please his family, he had no idea what he was getting himself into, he rejected the religion since he was 12, but the pressure of his Family got to him, he is one of those unlucky ones whose entire family is in the org. Luckily for me it's onlyy parents, sister and brother. I have all my aunts uncles and grandparents, expect my grandmas but they don't ignore me. Anyways he truly has no one and has heard not one word from his own mother!!!!!! Let alone anything from his 5 siblings!!! We have a baby due in the next couple weeks and nothing. Get this though. His nephew and his wife are expecting a baby as well just a few weeks behind me, and the family is all over that! Throwing baby showers, nonstop gifts, pictures and comments all over social media. Let me add in this couple who is married now, was actually having sex before marriage, they felt guilty so tied the knot, got married in the Kingdom Hall! And a couple years later felt guilty so the husband told his KOBE father, and his response.....does anyone know??? Can you believe it! Supposedly a meeting was set up with some of the cooler elders, and they got a slap on the wrist. Nothing. Funny huh! But my husband and I get attacked an stalked by elders trying to corner us into admitting we were having sex! Then disfellowshipping my husband when he never met or talked to them. Anyways... How heartbreaking. He has bad dreams every night and really takes a toll on him emotionally. I however have accepted my decision and that my relationship with my family will never be the same, I knew this before I married him. Him being df'd and knowing he is never going back would change my life dramatically. He is always trying to blame a certain brother or certain people in which we were kicked out because man were they after us! But i just tell him who cares! We got out that's all that matters. If things didn't happen this way we would probably be sitting in the Kingdom Hall right now! If anything thank them for pushing us to open our eyes! The more time passes the more free I feel! To be myself and not be looking over my shoulder constantly.