Well it finally happened! We have been waiting about a year for this, my dfd husbands family asked us for money. Even though his own father hasn't met our 8 month old son. And most of his brothers and sisters haven't as well. Makes me sick. So you saved no money because the new world is coming? Just rely on your kids to pay your bills each month! Don't get me wrong I would always help my family no matter what! But the nerve they have, with no shame too! Thinking we are in the wrong as always. I'm about to blow my brains out with the drama I get left and right. I can't believe I once thought it was the truth! It tears families apart. Yet they blame us, the ones going through constant heartache for the empty space in our lives. I thought it was getting easier. But it's still hard. If I can save anyone from making the mistake of getting baptized! Please. Don't do it. I'm not one to say all jws are bad. But what the organization turns people into is what makes me sick, so brain washed. So ignorant, so blind. Sorry this is a rant I am just so angry and so sad. I get told from my family my whole life I am a selfish person. Because I wanted to live my life my way? My sister told me she doesn't like the person I have become and we are not close because we have different views and opinions and I'm a selfish person. But I know I'm not....at least I don't think so. I feel psychically ill anytime I try to reason with these people. Family is family. It's that simple. With no religion there would be so many fewer issues! I'm sorry but I hate religion I hate it. I don't know what I believe. Just be a good person, honest respectful nonjudgmental accepting. I'm a good mother, good wife and good friend. I am happier with who I am today then who I was when I was stuck in that god damn cult.
Ghiagirl
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jw family loves to ask df'd ones for money!
by Ghiagirl inwell it finally happened!
we have been waiting about a year for this, my dfd husbands family asked us for money.
even though his own father hasn't met our 8 month old son.
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Hello from Orange County!
by Ghiagirl inwould love to see if any users are from orange county area??
been around newport beach, laguna beach, and costa mesa for the last 12 years!!
been hesitant on posting my area, but i have nothing to hide my family, as well as my husbands know where we stand.
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Also familiar with san clemente, san juan capistrano, mission viejo, aliso viejo, whittier, inland empire, huntington beach, etc. -
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Hello from Orange County!
by Ghiagirl inwould love to see if any users are from orange county area??
been around newport beach, laguna beach, and costa mesa for the last 12 years!!
been hesitant on posting my area, but i have nothing to hide my family, as well as my husbands know where we stand.
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Would love to see if any users are from Orange County area?? Been around Newport Beach, Laguna Beach, and Costa Mesa for the last 12 Years!! Been hesitant on posting my area, but i have nothing to hide my family, as well as my husbands know where we stand. Thanks! -
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heartbroken and not sure what to do...
by Khaleesi ini don't know what to do.... i married last year and things have been very rocky.
we dated for 4 years and did have normal issues but always had a lingering doubt something was just not right in our relationship-behavior to be more specific, he is not a jw, but i am.
yes i know i married outside the "lord" but after my first marriage to a jw ended in divorce for physical abuse, i was glad i didn't married another jw.
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hello! I have a close friend she is in her 40s and they discovered only a few years ago of their daughter having aspergers syndrome and after finding that out she definitely believes her husband is somewhere on the spectrum! They as well have issues in the bedroom, she is always ready to go but he shows zero interest! it is very frustrating for her. If your husband is open to get help give it a chance! It is something he can't help, just like anxiety and depression. I know over the years her daughter has done a complete 180! As for her husband i don't think they have had good communication or been open to try and fix it, but from what I've seen from their daughter, things can get better!!!! -
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Jws are judgmental
by Ghiagirl inits funny how different i look at things now.
i look back at myself when i was going to meetings and remember being so judgmental.
maybe it was just me but peoples views and opinions really rubbed off on me.
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Its funny how different i look at things now. I look back at myself when i was going to meetings and remember being so judgmental. Maybe it was just me but peoples views and opinions really rubbed off on me. I would look at others and judge them for things they have done or situations they were in. Out of my whole family i was definitely the least judgmental because deep down i really thought the whole religion was strange. But i guess when you are surrounded by people who judge each other instead of being understanding and loving it makes you think thats normal! Being away from the JWs I'm glad to say i get to be who i truly am and look at everyone and be accepting, loving, and understanding. Anyone else feel the same? -
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not going to school
by Sabin ini don't know if it is the same where you are but where i live it is a common practise of jdub`s to withdraw their kid`s from school at about year 8 even younger in some cases.
they say they are being home schooled & of cause they do cover a certain amount of school topics.
don't get me wrong i`m not saying that it is wrong to home school a youngster, especially if they are being bullied or suffering in some way, but the jdub`s don't do it for this purpose, oh no their kid`s are out on the field service during what would be school hours.
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My parents tried to homeschool me around grade 10 cause I was "getting in to trouble" aka being a normal teenager. But I convinced them not too. Now my brother is going to be a senior they got him to homeschool I believe freshman year! Never even got to experience high school. On top of that they want him to work for the family business. So basically have zero contact with the outside world. He is however happy homeschooling my family travels a lot and all his friends are homeschooled, of course. But it makes his chances of ever getting out so slim because that's all he knows and will never have the opportunity to build relationships outside of the jws for school and work! It's a trap! -
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Have my beautiful blessing from jehovah
by Ghiagirl inas my husband always says sarcastically about our newborn son, how people contradict themselves.
well he is a blessing but he is also the reason you are being shunned and were run out of the organization because you had premarital sex.
my beautiful son is finally here, and who texts and calls us the day he is born??
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Thank you all! I am hoping to become a regular poster. I am so intrigued by ex jw life. Not sure if it is because I am a born in or what. I am so happy to be free! And so wonderful to have the support and reassurance I'm not crazy! Sometimes I feel like maybe I'm wrong, but hearing everyone's experiences and having your support makes me realize I know the truth about the truth. Thank you all so much again! -
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A comforting thought
by Truth and Justice ini have not been on the board in a long time, and as i started reading some of the posts, i could not believe how many new faces or names have appeared on this site.
it is certainly alot more than i could count.
it builds more confidence in me, that the other have of my immediate family will open their eyes.
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I left last year, honestly I would have never left if I never got pregnant, and if I never got harassed by the elders in my congregation even before I found out I was pregnant because I was dating a baptized brother and I was not yet baptized. The way they chased my now husband and I out is what led to us never going back. Having them call, email, text, send certified letters, come knock on our door at night....they couldn't wait to disfellowship my husband. Having them before the harassment pull me in the back room and ask me if I am having sex with my boyfriend!! Why would I tell you, you creepy old brothers. I don't even know you! I was not truly awake until I saw my husbands whole family drop him after one announcement. To see the pain and hurt he had for months and months even to this day. That is what woke me up. But if that never happened I may have never truly realized the organization for what it really is. Some people leave cause they want to live their lives but still think it is the truth. But I have so much respect for those who disassociate themselves. Making it known you left because they no longer want to be apart of a religion made up of lies. I understand why people fade I wish my husband and I could have because all of his family are witness's and only my immediate family is, but it could have made things a little easier. But at the end of the day we are truly happy to live our lives without having to watch our back or hide it!!! -
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I thought of what may happen if it was me
by Truth and Justice ina brother goes to the thursday night meeting, and an elder says that he and a couple of elders would like to visit with him.
" the elder says "well lets wait till after the meeting.
" so he waits.
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I also pity anyone still in. Even those who aren't awake yet. Some days I want to cry thinking of family and friends that are such amazing people, wasting their lives away, thinking that they know the truth. How lucky I am to have woken up, to think I will never have my family and friends back like I used to have them. That my husband and I will never go have a family dinner with our relatives, because they believe god wants them to shun their own blood. I was once a true believer and my heart aches for those blindly following lies. -
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Have my beautiful blessing from jehovah
by Ghiagirl inas my husband always says sarcastically about our newborn son, how people contradict themselves.
well he is a blessing but he is also the reason you are being shunned and were run out of the organization because you had premarital sex.
my beautiful son is finally here, and who texts and calls us the day he is born??
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As my husband always says sarcastically about our newborn son, how people contradict themselves. Well he is a blessing but he is also the reason you are being shunned and were run out of the organization because you had premarital sex. My beautiful son is finally here, and who texts and calls us the day he is born?? The same people who not only never saw me my whole pregnancy but never even sent one flimsy text message to ask how I was doing. Oh but you want to show up at my house and see my baby!!! All of my husbands family, well most of them, decide to pop up NOW. How sickening. My family shortly before I had the baby decided to drop the whole religion thing And respect where I stand. So that makes things a little easier on me. My husband being disfellowshipped though obviously changes how people associate with us. We want wants best for our son so if family wants to all of a sudden come around fine. But no popping in and out of our life and no trying to talk about or take our son to the meetings! The nerve these people have though to come around all of a sudden like nothing happened. Makes me so mad. I would like to know how other disfellowshipped people's family and friends treat them? I know of a couple people whose family still sees them on a regular basis. And others who are completely cut off. It's so sad that most people would keep in contact if it weren't for the organizations way to control it!!! I almost feel bad there people don't know any better and feel like it's the only choice they have.