I recently decided to take matters into my own hands with my husbands family who have nothing to do with us. His mom has seen my son twice since he has been born and his dad has never met him. His family will pop in every few months, on top of that like in my last post ask for for money. what really pissed me off is my his family suddenly is best friends with his ex wife who is a jw. Even though his ex wife cheated on my husband with a ministerial servant, had an abortion, and continues to make my husband and I's life a living hell. But because she is a jw, all of a sudden They sit and tell me that SHE wants what's best for my family?! Excuse me. So basically I sent my husbands mother a text telling her I am disappointed you do not try to see our son, although we make it very easy if you wanted too. And I told her I do not appreciate her and her family telling my people my husband and I do not allow any of them to see our son. So on top of everything they are all lying to people. And we obviously know why....because these people are too ashamed and embarrassed to tell people they shun their son and grandson because of religion. Jehovahs people are supposed to be honest though aren't they? That brings me to mentioning shunning, his mother tries to flip things back on my saying, well you were raised a witness, I don't know where shunning came from. Wtf?! Are these people brain washed or just stupid. So in reply I said, well yes I was raised, I specifically remember sitting at an assembly one year, and the title of one talk was, Shun Your Loved Ones that are Disfellowshipped, if your family having nothing to do with mine isn't shunning, then I don't know what shunning is. And of course...no reply. Even on jw.org, they deny shunning! I don't even understand. Someone please explain. Also if any others deal with ex mates you share kids with that are jws. I just can't believe I have my husbands mother telling me his ex wants what's best for my family. You have that nasty woman and shove it. She makes my life a living hell, but suddenly because my family doesn't go to your meetings we are incapable of parenting and my husbands ex knows and wants what's best for us. Screw you people. Ignorant.
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jws deny shunning, yet lie to not look bad
by Ghiagirl ini recently decided to take matters into my own hands with my husbands family who have nothing to do with us.
his mom has seen my son twice since he has been born and his dad has never met him.
his family will pop in every few months, on top of that like in my last post ask for for money.
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Jehovah's Witness Teens 13 and 10 Commit Suicide in Wisconsin
by Tenacious ini found the following story while researching the jw mindset and subsequent behavior due to their weekly exposure to mind control techniques.
the story is a bit old but it does speak volumes in terms of the mental anguish the average jw teen must endure as a jw.
links to website and original newspaper follow:.
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I can't even believe what I just read. I am so so sorry for your loss. I have a little boy myself and i can't imagine the pain you feel. Good for you for making a stand even though it is hard. Do what is best for your little girl. I don't really pray but you are in my thoughts -
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Scientology, FLDS, jws what's the difference?
by Ghiagirl ini feel a little better i didn't believe in polygamy or that a volcano erupted and we flew out of them and came down to the earth or whatever scientologists believe.
but at the same time all 3 groups have the same cult qualities.
anyone who doesn't believe is called an apostate, members get shunned whether it's disfellowshipping or disconnecting.
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There isn't really! I feel a little better I didn't believe in polygamy or that a volcano erupted and we flew out of them and came down to the earth or whatever scientologists believe. But at the same time all 3 groups have the same cult qualities. Anyone who doesn't believe is called an apostate, members get shunned whether it's disfellowshipping or disconnecting. Everyone is shielded from reality, no reading outside of organizations literature or books. I know a lot saw the Scientology documentary I forgot what it's called but recently prophets prey has been playing on showtime about the FLDS. I feel so sick seeing the similarities to the jws. How does no one see! Even the creepy songs sound the same!!!!! I recommend watching it for those who haven't seen it. Feeling so thankful to be awake, sometimes it can be easier to not know ttat, but really I'm so much happier now!!! -
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jw family loves to ask df'd ones for money!
by Ghiagirl inwell it finally happened!
we have been waiting about a year for this, my dfd husbands family asked us for money.
even though his own father hasn't met our 8 month old son.
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I love so many of the valid points made!!! Good comebacks. They are a giant family too and they are all witnesses, yet all of them are broke! Hmmmm. I see a pattern. Still considering what to do but definitely making me think. Thanks everyone! -
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jw family loves to ask df'd ones for money!
by Ghiagirl inwell it finally happened!
we have been waiting about a year for this, my dfd husbands family asked us for money.
even though his own father hasn't met our 8 month old son.
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Yes we may end up helping. It's impossible to reason with these people. The fact they think there is nothing wrong with them asking for money is mind boggling. If we do it is a one time deal. But it kills us to even think about doing it. -
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jw family loves to ask df'd ones for money!
by Ghiagirl inwell it finally happened!
we have been waiting about a year for this, my dfd husbands family asked us for money.
even though his own father hasn't met our 8 month old son.
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Well it finally happened! We have been waiting about a year for this, my dfd husbands family asked us for money. Even though his own father hasn't met our 8 month old son. And most of his brothers and sisters haven't as well. Makes me sick. So you saved no money because the new world is coming? Just rely on your kids to pay your bills each month! Don't get me wrong I would always help my family no matter what! But the nerve they have, with no shame too! Thinking we are in the wrong as always. I'm about to blow my brains out with the drama I get left and right. I can't believe I once thought it was the truth! It tears families apart. Yet they blame us, the ones going through constant heartache for the empty space in our lives. I thought it was getting easier. But it's still hard. If I can save anyone from making the mistake of getting baptized! Please. Don't do it. I'm not one to say all jws are bad. But what the organization turns people into is what makes me sick, so brain washed. So ignorant, so blind. Sorry this is a rant I am just so angry and so sad. I get told from my family my whole life I am a selfish person. Because I wanted to live my life my way? My sister told me she doesn't like the person I have become and we are not close because we have different views and opinions and I'm a selfish person. But I know I'm not....at least I don't think so. I feel psychically ill anytime I try to reason with these people. Family is family. It's that simple. With no religion there would be so many fewer issues! I'm sorry but I hate religion I hate it. I don't know what I believe. Just be a good person, honest respectful nonjudgmental accepting. I'm a good mother, good wife and good friend. I am happier with who I am today then who I was when I was stuck in that god damn cult. -
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Hello from Orange County!
by Ghiagirl inwould love to see if any users are from orange county area??
been around newport beach, laguna beach, and costa mesa for the last 12 years!!
been hesitant on posting my area, but i have nothing to hide my family, as well as my husbands know where we stand.
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Also familiar with san clemente, san juan capistrano, mission viejo, aliso viejo, whittier, inland empire, huntington beach, etc. -
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Hello from Orange County!
by Ghiagirl inwould love to see if any users are from orange county area??
been around newport beach, laguna beach, and costa mesa for the last 12 years!!
been hesitant on posting my area, but i have nothing to hide my family, as well as my husbands know where we stand.
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Would love to see if any users are from Orange County area?? Been around Newport Beach, Laguna Beach, and Costa Mesa for the last 12 Years!! Been hesitant on posting my area, but i have nothing to hide my family, as well as my husbands know where we stand. Thanks! -
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heartbroken and not sure what to do...
by Khaleesi ini don't know what to do.... i married last year and things have been very rocky.
we dated for 4 years and did have normal issues but always had a lingering doubt something was just not right in our relationship-behavior to be more specific, he is not a jw, but i am.
yes i know i married outside the "lord" but after my first marriage to a jw ended in divorce for physical abuse, i was glad i didn't married another jw.
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hello! I have a close friend she is in her 40s and they discovered only a few years ago of their daughter having aspergers syndrome and after finding that out she definitely believes her husband is somewhere on the spectrum! They as well have issues in the bedroom, she is always ready to go but he shows zero interest! it is very frustrating for her. If your husband is open to get help give it a chance! It is something he can't help, just like anxiety and depression. I know over the years her daughter has done a complete 180! As for her husband i don't think they have had good communication or been open to try and fix it, but from what I've seen from their daughter, things can get better!!!! -
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Jws are judgmental
by Ghiagirl inits funny how different i look at things now.
i look back at myself when i was going to meetings and remember being so judgmental.
maybe it was just me but peoples views and opinions really rubbed off on me.
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Its funny how different i look at things now. I look back at myself when i was going to meetings and remember being so judgmental. Maybe it was just me but peoples views and opinions really rubbed off on me. I would look at others and judge them for things they have done or situations they were in. Out of my whole family i was definitely the least judgmental because deep down i really thought the whole religion was strange. But i guess when you are surrounded by people who judge each other instead of being understanding and loving it makes you think thats normal! Being away from the JWs I'm glad to say i get to be who i truly am and look at everyone and be accepting, loving, and understanding. Anyone else feel the same?