Nice link sickoflies...thanks!
Maryjane
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Were YOU An Arrogant JW?
by minimus inyou know the type: a goody 2 shoes.
one that wouldn't associate with other witnesses because they weren't mature enough?
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This Year The Push Is REALLY On To Invite EVERYONE To The Memorial!
by minimus inthe word's out to invite anyone and everyone-----as this could be the last celebration (per my mother as she heard it at the hall).
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In NYC on business April 2 - 5....
by rwagoner in.
staying in midtown manhattan.... know any good pubs/coffee houses/cigar bars/aposto hang-outs ?.
randyw
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What food do you enjoy?
by greendawn intell us what you enjoy eating and what are some of the specialities or interesting recipes in your country or region.
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Told one of my Return Visits that I wont be coming around anymore
by XBEHERE inwe were out with a group on saturday and circumstances came up that i had a chance, for a change, to do one of my rv's alone.
i knocked on the door and she came out asking if i was dropping off the new magazines.
since i had them i said yes and then proceeded to tell her that i can't drop them off anymore.
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Maryjane
Way to go! I doubt she'll rat you out to the dubs and might even tell her friends the story about the JW who didn't believe in the mags anymore!
When I was active in my local congregation, there was an ex-jw "apostate" who went around to all of her RV's and Bible Studies and apologized for teaching them "this". I only had 1 study and she was shaky so unfortunately I couldn't do the same...but hooray for you!
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Abusers and Abusees love the org...
by tall penguin inin my experience, those who become jw's as adults (not born in) could be described as abusers or abusees.
more often than not, they have unresolved issues of abuse from their past and gravitate to the structure of the org to re-experience the controlling, abusive environment of their past as the victim or the perpetrator.
from what i've seen, the more these past abuse issues are dealt with, the less of a hold the org has on a person.
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Maryjane
I grew up in a highly dysfunctional household with all the abuse/neglect that goes along with it. When I was 12 I went to live with my grandmother who basically just provided me with food & shelter (not guidance) so I effectively raised myself (as parents gave little guidance also). Had an aunt who was a JW so I had bible studies on & off throughout my childhood. After a failed engagement, I dived into JW'dom head on. They became my surrogate "family", but at the end of the day, I never really fit in with them. Having "the truth" and being so "certain" about everything was very comforting back then and artificially raised my self-esteem. Today I still struggle with depression/self-esteem issues and am trying to not be so submissive in nature, yet even in my personal relationships I tend to be drawn to strong personalities that dominate me. At least I am aware of it and trying to choose more positive relationships.
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Did your reading skills suffer from your JW experience?
by Maryjane ini was a staunch jw and rarely read anything other than the wt/awake and newspapers (reading level - 6th grade maybe?
) prior to becoming a jw i could easily read a book a week...now it takes me forever just to get through one novel.
has anyone else lost their reading attention span?
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Did your reading skills suffer from your JW experience?
by Maryjane ini was a staunch jw and rarely read anything other than the wt/awake and newspapers (reading level - 6th grade maybe?
) prior to becoming a jw i could easily read a book a week...now it takes me forever just to get through one novel.
has anyone else lost their reading attention span?
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Maryjane
I was a staunch JW and rarely read anything other than the WT/Awake and newspapers (reading level - 6th grade maybe?) Prior to becoming a JW I could easily read a book a week...now it takes me forever just to get through one novel. Has anyone else lost their reading attention span? Maybe it's just old age creepin up on me
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THIS COULD GET INTERESTING
by onesong ini got up the courage to send this paper i've been working on to every witness i have an e-mail address for (including my family and a former co).. listen to this!!!
within 20 minutes i already got a reply from a jw sister who expressed how "dumb she now feels" after reading it.. obviously not that i want her to feel dumb but her eyes are opening!
for the first time i think i see some progress.. based on the book "combatting cult mind control" by steve hassan .
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Maryjane
Great idea! Good luck with the results!
That was the 1st book I read when I walked away from the dubs (and it helped be build up the courage to read "Crisis of Conscience")
Steve Hassan is an ex-moonie (hence I didn't feel as if I was reading "apostate" material) but his experience applies to the cult experience across-the-board.