Posts by Christina77

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Interfaith Relationship

by Christina77 in

i am currently involved in a relationship for the last year and a half with a man that i found out about 2 months ago is a jehovahs witness (and i am catholic).

the only reason why i found this out, was that i was pushing the issue as to why his parents do not know that i exist.

this really irritated me since he has a very close relationship with his parents.

Yes, I am fully aware that he can get disfellowshipped for this. Truthfully, he should have thought about that along time ago. If he now wants this lifestyle, he should have acted appropriately then too. Since he hasn't he really deserves whatever comes to him, and I will be blamed for corrupting him even though I knew nothing of what his beliefs were because he wasn't honest with me. Since I have been inquireing about his religion, I don't understand how he would get involved with me in the first place. Especially due to what he can be punished with.

He has not pushed anything on me to convert, but who knows what will happen when his parents find out about me. I really don't have any desire to follow this lifestyle. And for my daughters sake, this would be very bad. My Ex would definitely use this against me to gain custody and to lose my daughter would be like putting a knife in my chest. So I am very happy with my religion even moreso that I have been faced with this predicament.

I really hopeso too, it is a real shame that he can't be open to me. He doesn't see it at all. He thinks he is very honest with me. It is almost like a mental block from everything that pertains to them. He just can't seem to open up to reality, that I need to know what will happen.

In time I will see.

Thanks
Christina

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Macho Macho Man.....

by tyydyy in

just curious,.

do women still go for the tough guy image.

just a little bit scary but the kind of man that other men move aside for.

Christina77

My man always makes my heart race when he steps into the room. He once showed up at my job unexpectedly to take me to lunch... I couldn't handle it, and I couldn't get out of work quick enough!

He isn't very muscular, and that is fine with me. He thinks his arms are too scrawny, but I think they are perfect. Yet all his friends have their bets on me that I can kick his ass and he admits to it as well... He definitely is the sweet and sensitive type and I love him for it. He would never get a tatoo... but I want one!

A lot of the guys I used to date were the fireman/cop image. That was way too much for me to handle. I want to know that he would never hurt me, and that I can fight back if need be. I definitely needed a change for the good, and I snagged a good one that I am very happy with.

The image I don't think really isn't important, as long as the whole package is just right!

Christina

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Interfaith Relationship

by Christina77 in

i am currently involved in a relationship for the last year and a half with a man that i found out about 2 months ago is a jehovahs witness (and i am catholic).

the only reason why i found this out, was that i was pushing the issue as to why his parents do not know that i exist.

this really irritated me since he has a very close relationship with his parents.

Christina77

I do respect him and his beliefs, I don't put down anyone for what they follow. I have many friends that follow religions that are different than mine and I respect all of what they need to follow (If I can keep Kosher for my Orthodox Jewish friends, I can respect this). I think everyone should follow a religion, if they believe in it. Religion is the basis for how one acts, respects others and how they fit in society.

If you were referring to my comment about turing off the TV program, you read it out of context. That is what I would have thought he would respond to me if I turned it off on my own. Once I realized what was on, I really didn't know what to do. I just thought it was hilarious after the fact. It was just a coincidence that it was on at that moment and his reaction wasn't what I expected.

I am just annoyed with the fact that he doesn't share anything with me and does infact live two separate lives. He needs to find out a way to merge them into one, and very soon. This will directly effect me in the future and this is what bothers me. We do love eachother very much and I don't want to be without him. It is just very hard for me to deal with, since he doesn't open up to me and puts me in the dark. This is the only thing that I disrespect him for, because he was not honest with me and that really hurts.

I really don't want to lose him, I want to understand him. I want to make this work and that is why I came here, to get answers to my questions that he won't or can't answer. I really am starting to understand why he did what he did, I don't agree with it, but I see what his point is.

I never asked him to drop the religion, and with the same respect I told him that I will never drop mine. This made me realize that I can't live without what I grew up believing and I don't think he can either. I wouldn't expect him to, and I know that it will always be a part of him no matter what happens.

And for the books... I will read whatever is the best sources to find the answers. I looked up the books that you had previously referred to and I couldn't find any of them on my own. Although, I was able to read the pamphlet on the watchtower site. I just feel very weird asking him for them myself.

Thanks again,
Christina

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Just my luck.....

by LDH in

well guys and gals, i had to get a (routine) pelvic culture a week ago.. they test for beta strep bacteria when you're 37 weeks.. i tested positive, no big deal.. they put me on ampicillin and told me i have to have an iv antibiotic at the hospital.. guess what the ampicillin gave me?.

yup.. lisa.

disgusted class

Christina77

My OB did recommend it when I was pregnant... it helps to flush out the system and if it works, don't knock it, right...

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Just my luck.....

by LDH in

well guys and gals, i had to get a (routine) pelvic culture a week ago.. they test for beta strep bacteria when you're 37 weeks.. i tested positive, no big deal.. they put me on ampicillin and told me i have to have an iv antibiotic at the hospital.. guess what the ampicillin gave me?.

yup.. lisa.

disgusted class

Christina77

LDH -

Cranberry juice works on it as well... so drink up... and good luck!!!

and Joel... sorry to say but you can get one too and it isn't a pleasant experience.

Christina

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THE MALE BRAIN

by Sirona in

Christina77

Oh that was too funny!

Thanks for the laugh,

Christina

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Blood Type

by Christina77 in

is it normal for those that refuse blood to not know their blood type?

that is usually one of the first things that the hospital lets parents know about their kids and when you go for any blood work it is on the top of the sheet.

i have a very rare blood type and i questioned my boyfriend about his for future knowlege when we have kids.

Christina77

Hey ashitaka -

I think that comes from another allele... but good thinking.

Christina

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Blood Type

by Christina77 in

is it normal for those that refuse blood to not know their blood type?

that is usually one of the first things that the hospital lets parents know about their kids and when you go for any blood work it is on the top of the sheet.

i have a very rare blood type and i questioned my boyfriend about his for future knowlege when we have kids.

Christina77

Thank you

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Blood Type

by Christina77 in

is it normal for those that refuse blood to not know their blood type?

that is usually one of the first things that the hospital lets parents know about their kids and when you go for any blood work it is on the top of the sheet.

i have a very rare blood type and i questioned my boyfriend about his for future knowlege when we have kids.

Christina77

And Wendy -

Just so that you know, he did bring this upon me since he was not honest with me when we first met. I stated that in my other post but if you haven't found it... I found out in the beginning of August that he was a JW, when I pushed the issue that I haven't met his parents after being with him for a year and a half... That is why I say that he brought this on ME. He knew from our first conversation that I was Roman Catholic and I asked him what his denomination was, and at that time he was in his stage that he was thinking about leaving so he told me that he didn't follow anything... and I as fine with that, once he told me that he did have a belief system... and didn't tell me that is why he brought this on ME... and it really hurts, and I was extrememly upset that we would have to break up.

ok, thanks again,
Christina

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Blood Type

by Christina77 in

is it normal for those that refuse blood to not know their blood type?

that is usually one of the first things that the hospital lets parents know about their kids and when you go for any blood work it is on the top of the sheet.

i have a very rare blood type and i questioned my boyfriend about his for future knowlege when we have kids.

Christina77

My previous post can be found if you open it up show all topics, instead of ones from the last week or so, or by clicking on the little thing next to my name that looks like it is a few pages stacked upon eachother. It is under Interfaith Relationship.

I do know that there is specialized testing if you are looking for your blood type, and I have my blood tested all the time due to my job as a health care professional. Also for other health reasons, because of my degree my MD often lets me look at the results and it is right on top, what my Type is... I don't know if this is always done at every doctors office, but I see it often enough and I see it on my patients charts on a regular basis that I assumed that this is a normal occurance.

I am here to get all the info that I can and I do take what I am given to better my knowlege... I am sorry if my writing doesn't sound that way, but I try to answer everything that is asked in the posts. And I really do want to hear what you have to say, it is very important to me.

By the way that he acts, I can't see how he is an active JW... that is what doesn't make sense to me. He brakes all the rules and I don't think that is right. And especially since he brakes them, even more so that his parents should know about me, and he should drop this false image that he has created by being such a good JW when he is not.

I have told him that I will not convert, and even moreso that I am raising my daughter Catholic. It would be too confusing to her, and would be horrible to deny her all that she has come to know as a normal life.

I am not looking to bring in another kiddie right now, I am thinking earliest in another 4 years... I want to finish my education and there is no way I can do that if I get pregnant again. I just posed the question because it came up in our converstation about our future and I asked him what his blood type was and he didn't know, and he has no desire to find out. I just wanted to know if this is a common practice.

With my daughters father, I got pregnant at the age of 17. Sex was pushed on me... he was 2 years older than I, had massive family problems, drank, cheated on me, was a pathological liar, couldn't hold a job, stole from me, etc. it was a very disturbing relationship. Unfortunately, I found out all of his problems after I got pregnant. I was very glad to get out of when I did...

I am very glad to find such a wonderful man as I have found in my boyfriend. He is everything that I have every wanted, and has been a great support for me. I really don't know what I would do without him. I have no intention on leaving him, and we have a wonderful relationship otherwise. I know this will cause us some major problems in the future. I am willing to coexist, but who knows what will be pushed on him by others and that is what I am scared to find out. And that is his problem, he is very scared and doesn't know what is going to happen. I just hope that because of his love for me, that he will find in his heart what caused to drift away in the first place when we became involved. It would probably be better in the long run.

Reality has set in for me, and that is why I am looking for help, and I do greatly respect all that has been given to me by all those that have posted replies.

Thanks Again,
Christina