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noni1974
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How Did You Find New Friends?
by daringhart13 ini'm painfully curious on this subject.. when you have devoted your entire life, your entire social circle, everything you know......to this religion....when you fade away, how did you make new friends?
how did you replace all those people you thought were your friends?.
on top of fading away....... i lost a 'relationship' with a 'sister' due to not wanting to continue as a jw.
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noni1974
I made a friend at work. She helped me through the hardest part of the first couple of years with the shunning. She didn't completely understand, but she helped me learn how to be normal. I also had a friend that was an EX JW who never got baptised who I knew since the age of 10. I also had a friend who was a JW at the same time I was who got DF ed shortly after I DA ed myself. I've known her since I was like 22 or 23 years old. We adopted each other and now we are sisters in every way except blood lines. I live with her now. My best friend as a JW is now out also so all of the friends I had growing up are out and we still talk. My best friend and I reconnected after a 12 year gap a couple of years ago. I found her on myspace. Her ex-husband didn't like me so he made her drop me as a friend when we were 21 years old.
The real friends I made on the outside a very few. I did make a friend at my new job and we hung out tonight. We went to dinner and had a drink then we went to an astronomy class together. It was fun. I saw things I could never see in the sky in Cleveland.
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What kind of cereal do you eat in the morning?
by asilentone inmy favorite is strawberry fields (kashi brand)..
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I eat steel cut oats with a few walnuts thrown in for flavor.
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Do you think you are forever damaged by the Watchtower??
by noni1974 ini've been out since 1998 so i've had time to learn how to be normal.
i've had time to get over the pain and hurt of shunning by those who claimed to love me.
i really can't blame them because my mom was born in too.
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Terry I also lived in a fantasy world for many years. I stopped living in that world and have moved on to change my own reality to suit my old dreams. I have real goals for the first time in my life. I'm slowly working towards them. The only thing stopping me, was me. The WTS hasn't had a place in my life for 12 years. I can't use that as an excuse anymore. No one can drag you back into the WTS unless you let them. Guilt only works if you let it work.
Yes I lost years to the WTS. I lost 23 years to them, but I'm determined to not lose anymore. I don't hold any grudges against them because I want to be free. Holding anger inside makes you still a victim. I refuse to be a victim. I refuse to let them rule my brain now that I'm out. I made peace with the fact that I was raised a JW. It wasn't something I could help. I had no control over how I was raised. I do have control over how I spend the rest of my life though.
Do I like the WTS?? Hell no! I wish they would implode and release my family, but I'm not holding my breath waiting for it.
Getting an education is my number one priority right now. I don't think it's ever to late to do that for anyone.
WTWizard I lost opportunities also. I was pulled out of school. I lost the opportunity to get a education when I was young. I let my lack of a high school diploma makes excuses for years. I never thought I could really get my GED because I didn't think I would pass the test. I let that stop me for years from even trying. Then last year I went through a major depression. My life sucked. I hated it. The only way I could think of changing it was to make an effort to change it. So I bought books to help me study for the test. I came to a point where I thought I needed help, so I signed up for classes to help me. They make you take placement tests before they put you in a class. I passed all of those tests. I was told I was ready to take the test. I was shocked. I was even more shocked when I passed it on the first try without ever getting into those free GED classes I thought I needed. I know there are still wholes in my education that I need to work on. Once I speak to the advisior for the college I'll be getting into classes to help me pass the COMPASS test for college. My goal is to not let oppportunities pass me by anymore. I'm making my own opportunities now. No one else can do it for me. I don't hold my lost opportunities against anyone else. I was the one who lost them. I was the one who didn't grab the bull by the horns and go after what I wanted.
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Do you think you are forever damaged by the Watchtower??
by noni1974 ini've been out since 1998 so i've had time to learn how to be normal.
i've had time to get over the pain and hurt of shunning by those who claimed to love me.
i really can't blame them because my mom was born in too.
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noni1974
I don't. I think I'll always have a few issues because of my family being stuck in the WTS, but I don't think I'm forever damaged because I was born and raised a witness. I've been out since 1998 so I've had time to learn how to be normal. I've had time to get over the pain and hurt of shunning by those who claimed to love me. I've had time to get over the anger and realize that my parents only did what they thought best for me with, what they knew at the time. I really can't blame them because my mom was born in too. I was a 4th generation JW on my mom's side. I've learned to forgive them for not being the parents I would have liked. and accepted them for who and what they are. They are only human.
For years I sat around and waited for life to happen to me. I waited for good things to happen, like getting a good job. I thought about this last year when I was turning 35. I had no education to speak of, I didn't even graduate from high school. I realised that I was waiting for life to happen and I was the one preventing me from having a good life. I realised that most of the successful people in this world don't just fall into that success. They go after what they want. I knew that if I wanted my life to change for the better I would have to stop making excuses for myself, and go after what I want. So I did. I got my GED and I've signed up for college. I will be getting a 2 year degree starting next spring. I would be going sooner but I have some residency issues, because I just moved to a new state and I have to wait until I've been here a year so I don't have to pay triple the price for classes. In the mean time I have an appointment to speak to an advisor, at the school that I want to go to, on April 21. I am planning on taking free classes to help me get ready to take the entrance exam that are offered by the college. I'm going to get all the info on grants and student loans and get all of that done before I go to school. I'm excited about my life again. I have a goal and I'm working towards that goal. One step at a time.
Am I sad because I have family I would like to share this with and they shun me?? Sure, but I knew a long time ago that the love they claimed to have for me wasn't real love. I've been out long enough to have made some real family connections with people who are not related to me. I'm lucky because my parents don't shun me. They have been nothing but supportive for my goals of going to college. I have adopted a sister and nieces and nephews. My "adopted" sister has shown me real family love. She's an EX JW too. She wasn't raised a JW like I was, but we met at the KH and have remained close all these years.
I don't blame the WTS for my lack of education. I blame myself and the mistakes I made years ago. They haven't have any power over me for almost 12 years now. I'm the one who was wallowing in the mire of my own life for all these years. It was my own lack of self confidence in my own brain power that stopped me from doing this years ago, not the WTS. I'm dyslexic, so I thought I would not be good at going back to school. I never thought I could do it. Now I know I can. I may be dyslexic, but I'm smart, I think I'm very smart. I just learn a little differently than most people.
I think as an adult I'm the one who is in charge of my happiness, not anyone or anything else. So when I look at my life, I look for those things and people that don't make me happy, and I either change them or get rid of them. I think there comes a point in life where you have to take stock of who you are as a person and see what is making you unhappy is changeable. If you don't change it then you can't blame other people for your unhappiness. I know this isn't easy. I know it hurts to accept your own failings as your own, without blaming someone or something else. I know because, I've done it.
You have to look at your life and see what is holding you back. If whatever it is doesn't make you happy, then for your own sake change it! There is no easy way in life. There are no "do overs" in real life. You either succeed or fail on your own. I encourage everyone to take stock of their own life and change what needs to be changed. You are not forever damaged because you were a JW. I think accepting the fact that you were a JW, and letting go of the anger and pain is way more healthy then stewing in it for years and years, and letting that be an excuse why you didn't do something. No matter what you were in the past you can't change it now, so let it go, and change what you can now. Make yourself happy. Live for yourself, because those people you are trying to hold on to are not going to be there forever. You and you alone are going to have to face your regrets later. No one else can do it for you.
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noni1974
Why does it look like all men?? Where are they going?? How on earth did all of those guy's climbe onto that truck?? Does the driver know about all those hitch hikers?? What is all that stuff they are sitting on?? Why doesn't the truck tip over backwards??
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Your Grandparents
by snowbird inwhat are their first names?.
mine are henry and daisy, thomas and katherine.. sylvia.
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noni1974
Father side : Paul and Charlotte
Mothers side: David and Marybelle. It could be Mary Belle but I'm not sure, Her family has a habit of calling people by their first and middle names. So it could either be Marybelle or Mary Belle.
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noni1974
Oppps don't know what happened. Sorry!!!
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noni1974
I don't like to race. I can't run that fast.
If your asking about my color. I'm white.
If your asking about my heritage, I'm German, Irish, Welsh, and English. My last name is German. I might also have a little bit of Polish in me but I'm not really sure where my great grandmothers family came from. Her last name was Eastern European but we aren't sure which country her family came from. I just recently found this out.