""I wanted to be involved in charity work when I was a dub and it was prohibited.""
""I remember wanting to do a walkathon and since my dad was an evil unbeliever, my mother left the decision to the elders as usual""
Two questions, 1. Where are charity works prohibited?
2. Who's fault is it that your mother felt the need to ask the elders?
Charity is and was up to the individual, been there done that. The difference is that I would never reveal my charitable works as per Matthew 6:1-4
""6
"Take good care not to practice YOUR righteousness in front of men in order to be observed by them; otherwise YOU will have no reward with YOUR Father who is in the heavens.
2 Hence when you go making gifts of mercy, do not blow a trumpet ahead of you, just as the hypocrites do in the synagogues and in the streets, that they may be glorified by men. Truly I say to YOU, They are having their reward in full.
3 But you, when making gifts of mercy, do not let your left hand know what your right is doing,
4 that your gifts of mercy may be in secret; then your Father who is looking on in secret will repay you.""
Sorry things work differently where you are.