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Jw.com has it helped you?

by haujobbz in

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since i have been posting on this site i found a lot of posts interesting and vice versa,but i have also noticed that cetain ones on here arent helping themselves by continually looking at faults in their former beliefs,i find that this cant help you as a victim, im not saying i am not guilty of doing this i did do it at first but then realised it wasnt helping me overcome the trauma of my former beliefs, surely by trying to focus on the future and on how you can improve your state of mind maybe by self help books,counselling,and maybe speaking to ones on here who can possibly help you get through what they have been through, i mean surely you want to break free from the chains you used to be in.. dont get me wrong im not being harsh but only trying to help others,i mean jw.com is an open discussion forum to a degree,i also find it enjoyable on here,sometimes its not enjoyable because certain individuals are quite negative about views they dont agree on and i do expect that.. so has jw.com helped you or hasnt it.. are you addicted to this site and cant live without it.. also i do tend to take my previous beliefs lightly and have a joke about the things that were taught and went on,i try not to take it to serious at least im free from it and have my own mind that makes me so happy.

ugg

I AM NOT ALONE!! thanks to this site.....do i say negative things about the organization...YES..it is a release and way to heal...keeping things
in has almost killed me..to beable to speak honestly and face the
reality of things is some thing not taught by the organization....the
REAL truth has been an eye opener!!

14

Will anyone notice?

by gumby in

jw
friends

well?

ugg

yes!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! hhahahahahahah.....way to go...

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IF THE ELDERS WENT AFTER YOU ,WHAT WOULD YOU DO?

by minimus in

jw
friends

well?

ugg

this is like my biggest fear....i have only stood up to the elders once.
i am employed at 2 different places...it was christmas time...hubby
was gone with the brothers...i was working a double shift...days and
then all night...i left the trailor,,realized i had locked my keys
inside...

cold as hell,,,christmas eve,,,took forever to find some one home...
late for work,,,no cab service because it was christmas...ended up
calling the police begging for a ride..which they gave me....

got to work,,,no way to get home in the morning and no way to get into
the trailor...called my husband at the hoiday inn,,,,christmas gathering
of witnesses,,he got a ride back to town,,,with the co...hubby had
been mean before he left...so seeing him did nothing for my attitude...

they came in to my place of employment...there is only 2 of us in the
building,,,and i was alone on my end...and they just started on me...
i was very tired,,upset,,,ect ect...i asked them 3 times to leave me
alone,,,they did not....

so,,,i stood up and said i was going to call the police on them...i was
not joking and it showed...i repeated it,,and said they had 5 minutes
to leave the building and that i had the legal right to have them
removed from the premises....they left...

their conclusion? i am violent and mentally ill...it made my husband
look like a saint...he lies about me to them all the time and they
believe him....i went up against the elders,,,just this one time,,,
and i lost...you cannot win...

eventually they WILL come after me...i do not believe that they will
let me stay in hiding...time will have the answers to the rest of the story......

i did not mean to write a novel....sorry....i just started to vent...
not only do i not like elders,,,,i am afraid of them...very afraid...
they have power...and their power is not questioned...SHUDDER!!!!

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Friends, may I have your hugs?

by sunshineToo in

jw
friends

i'm getting married on oct.13.

i only have less than two months to get ready for the wedding, and i didn't have anything ready last week.

as you may know i am da'd.

ugg

omg...sunshine...that is so awful....yes yes yes,,,,i am giving you the biggest warmest hug with all the love i can send...my heart is just
aching for you....oh my,,,,i wish i could be your mom....my thoughts
will be with you....(((((((((sunshine)))))))))

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Double Dog Dare: My Bio

by onacruse in

(xenawarrior and minimus, take note that i am a man of my word!

chronology: i am 50. was born and raised a jw, reg pub @ 6, baptized @ 10, reg pio (b4 hs graduation) and giving public talks @ 17, went to bethel @ 18, left bethel @ 20, married (1st time) @ 21, df'd @ 29, divorced @ 30, reinstated @ 30, remarried @ 32, df'd again @ 48, divorced again @ 49. one heck of a roller-coaster, eh?.

disfellowshipping: both my df'ings were for apostasy.

ugg

onacruse,,,,you have spoken of your mom,,,but how does your dad and
family treat you now???????? what about your step children???????
how did you get your heart to quit hurting so you could function??

i do not mean to get too personal onacruse,,,, i just am wondering how
to cope to make changes that a person feels that might be needed.

you have gone through so much,,,i hope you continue to grow and be
the person you want to be....hope the best for you...

26

Cruel and Unusual Punishment

by Swan in

jw
friends

i just woke up from a nap.

in the dream i had, i was with my mother.

i was talking with her.

ugg

no religion should seperate families.....that is just so sad,,,,yet so common.....give her a call....

many hugs to you.....

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I'd like to introduce myself.......

by DJ in

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friends

my name is donna.

i was directed to this forum through freeminds.org by randy watters.

i found his site to be very helpful to me and i highly recommend it to other newbies.

ugg

you will like it here....thoughts are with you....hang in there....

18

Bright side of a BAD day

by Erica in

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friends

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it started out having a bad day.... no babysitter had to miss work , friend came over so i went to get a haircut, she followed me there and took care of michael, on the way home, on the freeway, i was on the the third lane to the left and the car engine shuts off and i had to get three lanes over to the right, in major traffic, i barley made and the car dies.. i started to panick cause it's dark and i have michael and i'm on a freeway.... so i get michael and start walking and praying, and this man pulled over and i started to get even more nervous but i accepted the ride, he took me to a gas station and well his truck was really high , like three in a half feet, well i had forgotten about that so when i steped out of his truck i fell with michael in my arms he started screaming and i started to ball my head off.. okay here's my point like 3 people there helped me, the gas station let me use there phone and gave me something to drink, a couple wouldn't leave until they knew i was taken care of offered me money for a cab or tow truck, they waited like 15 minutes.. i thought of you all, who really didn't know me, but were there for me when i needed it the most, there are some really great people out there, and it doesn't matter what religion you belong to.