My husband and I were asked. It is part of having an elder give your wedding talk. I believe they ask even if you are not getting married in the KH. But if you admit to having sex with your intended, they will not let you marry in the KH.
Lo-ru-hamah
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Getting married in the kingdom hall ( ..."have you had sex?")
by slimboyfat in.
we plan to get married in the kh in the autumn.
will the elders quiz us as to whether we have had sex beforehand?.
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New here,i hope someone might help,my abuser hung himself
by Linzlou24 inhi,ummm ive just discovered this site and im not sure why im even writing this but im at rockbottom and i dont know how feel,maybe im just searching to find someone who might understand and help me understand because i feel so alone and ashamed,confused and sad,even people might find me bad because of how these events turned...but im not bad inside,ive always been such a soft caring person at heart,im a good person just always been lost,alone and confused....ill try not babble too much but from the beggining dad was here one minute,not the next and then not at all,to this day still never bothers,mum remarried when i was about 4,this was the guy who sexually abused me at 7,{mum never knew},they had a baby together...i found my brother dead in his cot,he died from cotdeath,and it was just all downhill from there with my life,that was after my brother i was abused by him....they split when i was around 8 and i guess my mum looking back now on it now just went on her own mission but it wasnt easy for me,she fell for another guy and we moved from one place to the next,every time i started a new school and made friends,it was time pack up and go and start all over.....
mum settled again and remarried a third time when i was around 12,id started a new high school,maybe its just those teens but i went off the rails with mum,i was terrible,didnt mean to be,but i blamed her for all my hurt and life and id rebel at everything,drinking started,running away started and i just wish now i could have felt close when alls i wanted was to love and be loved back...the next bit until now{im 25 now} is what is killing more than ever and id very much appreciate your thoughts because im lower than ever and still scared....mum is very much here in my life now...its only been a few months but shes heartbroken and the love and understanding has been tremendous off her,she blames herself but i blame me.....
when i started the new highschool i met this girl,she became my friend at the time and it was so good to have a friend id do anything she said....anyway she needed some money once and said i know this guy you can come to with me and he will pay you to touch your boobs,thats when it started i agreed because if i said no then shed probably laughed at me,so i went....,it sounds strange{he was nearly 50} but he was very very nice,and said i dont like the person whos brought you up here,shes nasty...,i hated him touch me but i was scared....but at same time i felt i could really trust him,me and this girl never did stay friends....theres another big big part in all of this,but from 13 this guy became the bestest friend i ever had in my whole life,but everything was a big secret,its lasted years...he had an hold over me,though i knew he was supposed be my friend i knew he musnt really be one else he wouldnt put me through the torture of crying and not coping when i had my baby...my babe is 8now but still when i let him touch my boobs so i can buy the best part of my life something nice or take him somewhere that man would buy bigger and better and undermine all my hurt....
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Lo-ru-hamah
Dear Linzlou,
My heart breaks for the pain that you have gone through and continue to have to deal with. Please seek out assistance from a professional source to help you through this. You made a great step for coming here for friendship, and as you continue to seek friends, you will find, that there are people out there that will love you for you and not what they can get out of you.
"Friendship is alway a sweet responsibility, never an opportunity."Much Love,
Loruhamah
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Film Scenes that got burnt onto your memory
by greendawn inwhat were some film scenes that pleased or horrified you so much that they stayed vivid in your memory for a long time?
the one i always recall is the scene where anthony hopkins (playing as hannibal lector) lobotomised ray liotta (paul krendler) cutting off pieces of his brain and giving them to him to eat.
he also took some of liotta's cooked brain in a plane and gave them to an unsuspecting passenger boy sitting next to him to eat.
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One other, left a terrible impression -
I can't remember the name of the movie, but Liam Neason and Jessica Lange, scottish movie. There was a terrible rape scene in it, Jessica Lange acted it out so well, I was completely shaken for days. Scared the hell out of me. And still can't remember the name of the movie????
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Film Scenes that got burnt onto your memory
by greendawn inwhat were some film scenes that pleased or horrified you so much that they stayed vivid in your memory for a long time?
the one i always recall is the scene where anthony hopkins (playing as hannibal lector) lobotomised ray liotta (paul krendler) cutting off pieces of his brain and giving them to him to eat.
he also took some of liotta's cooked brain in a plane and gave them to an unsuspecting passenger boy sitting next to him to eat.
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Lo-ru-hamah
Three scenes from Room with a View.
The First - Of course, the kiss in the field of poppies
The Second - The preacher getting out of the water from his bathe - hysterical
The third - The final scene - Very sexy
Then there was the scene with the incredibly beautiful Italian guy.
I just love that entire movie, I think that it must all be etched
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I want a refund . . .
by cruzanheart inafter reading all those threads and articles about how much money the wtbts has squirreled away and invested and after volunteering to serve birthday cupcakes and punch at a homeless shelter run by the combined efforts of first presbyterian church and first methodist in downtown dallas, i have decided that i want my money back.. i want back every single cent that i ever contributed to that jabba the hut of an organization that just sits on its money and never uses a penny of it to benefit its members or the rest of humanity.
i want back the $10,000 that my dad "loaned" the society in the 1970's that they -- 10 years later -- strongly suggested he just give to them to save them the trouble of writing a check.. i want to be paid for the 13 years of regular pioneer service that i wasted on that organization.
let's see, at roughly 100 hours a month (that's what the requirement was back then), 1200 hours a year times 13 + 15,600. hmmm, okay, i'll take minimum wage for it -- isn't that $6.50 an hour now?
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Lo-ru-hamah
We are forgetting another rather large contribution that a lot of us spent time on as well. The countless Kingdumb Hall Builds we worked on. In fact, I have worked on so many that I cannot even remember how many total. My father and brothers both worked in Brooklyn on the buildings that they are now selling for $200,000,000 a pop, where is their portion of that. It would be nice to have a check for all that work.
Loruhamah
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Comments You Will Not Hear at the 3-5-06 WT Study (Patience)
by blondie inhis faithful servants--only jws, not "so-called" christians.
7 a second point that we can draw from peter's words is that jehovah is patient because he desires all to attain to repentance.
"consider the patience of our lord as salvation," wrote peter to fellow christians.
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Lo-ru-hamah
Blondie,
Beautiful highlights. Thank you for your hard work in preparing this for us. Though, it really sickens me to read what in a not so distant past I believed.
Thanks Again
Loruhamah
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Do you believe in negative energy?
by xjwms inall of you people are the best, ... because you always have the right answers fast....... last week i had that run in with bro & sis pioneer...and they really beat me up, .
this week a brother called me, with a stupid tax question that i know he had the answer to.
he had not seen me since last year at the memorial...and said...."are you fatter since i seen you?".
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Lo-ru-hamah
When I was a waitress I noticed that when I was having a bad day, it seemed that all of my customers were having a bad day. I feel that it was negative energy. IMO, it exists. My husband and I were talking about this the other day, and if he felt that different stones could effect that energy. He said "Our bodies are made up of all kinds of metals. In fact, some people are allergic to different kinds of metals, so there is evidence that they affect us in some way or other." So, with that stated maybe you could purchase certain stones to help you deal with these people. Tradition has it that Blue Topaz promotes harmony and brings forth leadership qualities enabling you to grasp control of any situation you confront in life. In short, their energy is about manifestation and balance. So, take it or leave it, I am not sure either way.
May your day/week improve. Shalom
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Meeting Clothes
by Nosferatu ini absolutely hated the concept of "meeting clothes".
all my meeting clothes were hand-me-downs from other brothers.
i always hated getting hand-me-downs from the fat jw kids who were older than me.
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My parents always bought us nice clothes for the meetings. When I moved out and got married, I continued buying nice clothes for the meetings. I loved to dress my infant/toddler son in the old fashioned clothing for the meetings. Spent absolutely too much money on his clothing. Now that we are out, it is amazing how little money I spend on clothing. They were constantly bombarding us to simplify our lives and now that we are out, our life is simplified. If only the R&F knew it was that easy.
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Anyone from south louisiana?
by JUG in.
i'm from south louisiana and i was just curious to se if any one else was..
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Lo-ru-hamah
My husband is from the Lafayette area. Though he moved away years ago.
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My Photos - life in the Australian bush
by unclebruce inthis is tathra wharf looking back over tathra township.
my 40 acres is in the hills to the right.. 130 years old and possibly the only one remaining on the entire australian coast.
it's my favorite fishing place.
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Lo-ru-hamah
Your place looks awesome. Somewhat remenicent of "Man From Snowy River". What an incredible location for a home. I am livid with jealousy. Congratulations.