I have seen what you are describing, but I still think Elders are more wicked. They are the ones with the real power to destroy people's lives. The Elderettes just have empty power that some of them use to try to make themselves seem more important than they really are, by their connection to their Elder husband.
Women have no power or importance among Jehovah's Witnesses. Their identity is dependent upon their husband's position in the congregation. And whoever came up with that system is the real wicked one.