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  How ManyYears Did You Waste Being A Jehovah's Witness?

  by minimus in

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  i was raised as a jw and i haven't been to a meeting in about 8 years..

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  The "Secrecy Policy”

  by Celestial in

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  i've given this recent lawsuit quite a bit of thought and come to sound conclusions.

  after examining other organization's child-protection policies (namely churches), what i've come to realize is there's a one-size fits all solution that's socially acceptable; all information obtained through witnesses and confessions by organizational personnel is be used to aid and abet law-enforcement.

  there's no in-between or anything short of this objective that's socially acceptable.

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  Thank you Lady Lee! You nailed it!

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  Hospitality after Public Talk - ???

  by RubaDub in

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  i see a lot of mentions about hospitality after the public talk and honestly, i guess it is a practice that was not in the ny/ct area i grew up in or here in south florida today.. i grew up with an elder father and grandfather who gave public talks and were generally well-liked.

  as a child, i never recall being invited to someone's house after the meeting.

  granted, it was rare to travel more than an hour but regardless, it was typical to get in the car and head home after the "amens.

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  Mynameislame,

  When did you visit Martha's Vineyard? I lived there in the early 70s. You may have stayed with us.

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  Ultimately it is the child who should stop the abuse according to the GB!

  by life is to short in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  on page 171 of the "learn from the great teacher" book published in 2003 it shows a picture of a very cute little girl holding a ragged ann doll.

  she is sitting on a chair in her bedroom with her hand out toward a man that is coming toward her.. the paragraphs say "so just as jesus needed protection, you also need to be protected from grown-ups-and even from other children-who may try to have sex with you.

  usually, these people will pretend to be your friends.

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  It's the same wrong headed thinking when the wt says a woman is responsible for being raped if she doesn't scream. Same ignorant logic. I remember a sister in my old cong. who had been raped. She was disfellowshipped because she admitted that she hadn't screamed.

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  Just wanted to say...

  by tec in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  ... how truly great this place is.. i have not been on many forums, but i think this one is unique and strong in a very important way.

  it is of course a support group for those exiting the wts, or trying to deal with remaining within it, first and foremost.

  but the awesome thing about this place is how it welcomes everyone.

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  Hospitality after Public Talk - ???

  by RubaDub in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  i see a lot of mentions about hospitality after the public talk and honestly, i guess it is a practice that was not in the ny/ct area i grew up in or here in south florida today.. i grew up with an elder father and grandfather who gave public talks and were generally well-liked.

  as a child, i never recall being invited to someone's house after the meeting.

  granted, it was rare to travel more than an hour but regardless, it was typical to get in the car and head home after the "amens.

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  I should mention that I was born in 1952,,,so I grew up in the 50s and 60s... There were hardly any kids in the cong. because you were supposed to wait till after the big A to have kids. So if the speaker had kids it was very rare.

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  Hospitality after Public Talk - ???

  by RubaDub in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  i see a lot of mentions about hospitality after the public talk and honestly, i guess it is a practice that was not in the ny/ct area i grew up in or here in south florida today.. i grew up with an elder father and grandfather who gave public talks and were generally well-liked.

  as a child, i never recall being invited to someone's house after the meeting.

  granted, it was rare to travel more than an hour but regardless, it was typical to get in the car and head home after the "amens.

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  Growing up, my family had Sunday dinner every week. We alternated between my Grandparent's house (grandma was of the annointed) and our house...(Dad was an elder) Both Mom and Grandma were excellent cooks... and if there was a speaker from out of town he would invariably be invited. If the speaker was local, then someone from the cong. was invited. There were always guests at Sunday dinner.

  I don't think there was a congregational policy.... In our case I just think my family liked to have company.

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  The "Secrecy Policy”

  by Celestial in

  1. watchtower
  2. scandals

  i've given this recent lawsuit quite a bit of thought and come to sound conclusions.

  after examining other organization's child-protection policies (namely churches), what i've come to realize is there's a one-size fits all solution that's socially acceptable; all information obtained through witnesses and confessions by organizational personnel is be used to aid and abet law-enforcement.

  there's no in-between or anything short of this objective that's socially acceptable.

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  So... the wt wants to protect jw kids from a toy..(sparlock) but they refuse to protect them from the pedophiles in thier midst by warning others in the congregation about the danger...

  Yeah...that makes perfect sense..... Oh..and if you question this outrageous nonsense and leave the organization...you are mentally diseased!

  Quit making excuses for these idiots and face reality!

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  Sparlock worked his magic this weekend!

  by 00DAD in

  1. watchtower
  2. scandals

  yes it's true, i got to experience first hand the awesome magic powers of sparlock, the warrior wizard!tm.

  this last weekend a friend of mine asked me if i could take him to the mechanic's to pick up his car after being serviced.

  now this friend of mine (who is not and has never been a jw) is the the one and only friend that i've remained in constant contact with through the dark quarter century of my life when i was a witness.

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  Where can I buy a few of these? I have 5 grandchildren with a jw grandfather...

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  I Started the Complaint Process to the New York Times

  by Band on the Run in

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  2. child-abuse

  i was bitterly disappointed that the times only ran a dinky ap article rather than a nyt staff reporting article.

  the difference is night and day.

  ap articles appear to be cobbled together press releases with no context or history from a neutral source.

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  You go girl!

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