Posts by kristyann

i recently went to mexico for vacation and my sister in law told me that they were constructing a new kh.. i questioned her on how was it done, and this is what she told me:.

they saved the money for long time, then they sent the money to the wt.. wt then bought the land and the materials (but everyting is under wt name).

all brothers and sisters will work for free.. after everything is completed they still have to pay a "suggested contribution" to the wt for the use of the kh.. i think the law in mexico recently changed and now the wt can own property that is why they are pretty active building kh's.

kristyann

Hahaha, well said, fairmind.

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Feelings for ex-significant others

by kristyann in

i have not been on much lately, but i have missed so many of you!.

okay, everyone, this doesn't really have much to do with jws... it's more just a personal "problem" of mine.

so if you're not interested, just don't bother reading it... don't read it and then tell me how boring it is.

kristyann

I have not been on much lately, but I have missed so many of you!

Okay, everyone, this doesn't really have much to do with JWs... it's more just a personal "problem" of mine. So if you're not interested, just don't bother reading it... don't read it and then tell me how boring it is. And believe me, I am well aware that it is a very stupid problem... but I didn't really know who else to ask, because anyone who knows me in person would probably be so upset with me! I am wondering if anyone else has ever had a similar problem or can tell me what to do to STOP having this problem... talk some sense into me and make me snap out of it.

Okay... I have a boyfriend (we'll call him Chris) and next month we will have been together for 2 and a half years. I really do love him and we get along well and everything. He is great, extremely loyal, he would do pretty much anything for me... but lately I keep thinking about the boyfriend that I had BEFORE him (we'll call him Greg). I haven't seen this ex-boyfriend in almost 3 years... it ended badly... he treated me pretty poorly... but my friend recently found his profile on "myspace" or whatever, and showed it to me, and now I can't get him off my mind.

This ex-boyfriend is not even really a winner... I have no idea why I can't stop thinking of him! I find myself really MISSING him. Also, he lives in New York City and I live in Buffalo so we are about eight hours apart so it's not like there's really any chance of anything happening again or any chance of running into each other.

Greg (the ex-boyfriend) came here a few years ago for college and that's where we met. He always tried his hardest to make me feel bad about the fact that he was from NY and I am from Buffalo... according to him, this made him much better, even though I am much more sophisticated than him, to tell the truth. I think he felt insecure around me very often, so that's why he tried to use where we are from against me. I was obviously insecure, too, to let him always talk like that to me. He also always felt the need to tell me and everyone else how much money his family has and how rich they are (this is pretty much true, they are wealthy, but he always told me about every five minutes).

He's also not even really physically attractive, so that can't be what I am after. I don't know, he was the first person I ever had sex with (and I was his first) and I really regret that because I think it made me so much more attached to him. Plus I don't think that I should have been doing that in the first place, it was wrong. Even though I don't think he was that attractive or anything, we had a very exciting physical relationship and everything. I mean, it was really great. But I don't even know why.

He also drank way too much for my liking and I don't think he was the most loyal person ever, though he never cheated on me. He ended up going back to New York (after complaining about how much he missed it for a whole year, and I wondered why he ever came in the first place). That's when it ended, and it ended pretty badly, because I found out from a bunch of people that he never planned on staying in Buffalo for a long time anyway, even though he told me that he did. He planned on going back to NY after that year all along, and he just wanted someone to be with while he was in Buffalo. He was actually going to ask some other girl out, but then he found out that I liked him, and he decided to go for me instead, because according to him, I was "much hotter" and he couldn't believe someone like me would like him, and he thought his friends would be much more impressed with me than the other girl. So I guess it seems he pretty much used me.

So as you can see, that relationship was hardly ideal. It was pretty bad. But I haven't really thought of him much at all for so long. It's been almost 3 years since I've even seen him, and he has gone back to New York and never come back and we have had no contact since the first couple of weeks he was back there. I am sure that he has moved on with his life, and I have absolutely no reason to be thinking of him. But I am thinking of him... all of the time. I don't miss the bad stuff, but we just had such an exciting relationship. I think I am still really attached because he was my first, and so I really regret that so much. I keep thinking about him partying or being with other girls... I don't know how much of that he's doing, since he wasn't exactly even a looker, but I'm sure he's found other people. But I think about him with other people, and I get sad and jealous. I keep entertaining these thoughts of us getting back together after a bunch of years, realizing that we love each other after all and that we're meant to be and then staying together for the rest of our lives. I know that this is so unrealistic and it sounds like a movie or something, but it COULD happen, right? I have heard crazier stories.

I know that this is totally and completely retarded! I have a great boyfriend and I have never cheated on him... and never wanted to be with anyone else while we were together, until this little thing recently. I feel terrible and guilty because I know my boyfriend would be so hurt if he knew this. I mean, he has messed up and hurt me in some ways, too, and he's not perfect, and we forgive each other. But I still just feel that this is so wrong... and not only that, it is making me so SAD. I miss this old boyfriend so much all of a sudden and I am getting nostalgic about all our times together.

Please don't be mean to me about it... but will someone tell me what to do? How can I stop feeling this way about this ex-boyfriend? Has anyone else ever experienced anything like this?

I hope that at least someone responds to this... but I don't blame you if no one even read the whole thing. So if no one responds, that's okay, and I'm sorry to bore you with my problems... and I realize that they are stupid problems to have and that I should just be thankful for what I have... but I really don't know what to do and I was wondering if anyone else had gone through anything similar. I am so sad and I want it to stop!

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Tiny Tim's daughter

by GentlyFeral in

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when i was reading this topic, i clicked on the embedded page and somehow found myself at deathclock.com, where i found this.

(the on-topic bit is at the end, where it recounts his funeral.

gently feral

kristyann

Big surprise that a weirdy like that had a JW for a kid...

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Never throw away those Watchtowers and Awakes!

by free2beme in

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it is a sin to throw away your watchtowers and awakes.

you must let them build up and up and up, until you need to store them in boxes that will be places in corners of the attic or basement.

when you find them years later, still do not throw them away or you will die at armageddon!

kristyann

These JWs used to come into this restaurant I worked at and give the employees their literature. It never happened to me, though... but I know a girl that worked there was afraid to throw them out when someone handed something to her. She wasn't a JW or religious in any way, but if anyone, JW or any other religious affiliation, gave her a tract or something, she was afraid to throw it out and refused to. Someone else would. She seemed to think it was okay to hand it to someone else and ask them to throw it out, but she couldn't physically put it in the garbage herself. Isn't that weird?

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Spring Fever

by JH in

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the weather is so nice today.

sunny and 45f or 8c.

the warmest day in the last 5 months.... the streets are all wet from the melting snow.

kristyann

Are you kidding me? I have had spring fever all winter. We had one of the mildest winters here ever in Buffalo... there really was hardly any snow except for a few times... I mean, around Christmas, there was no snow on the ground by me. It was amazing! But any snow is too much for me... even though I am grateful for how mild it was... there's no snow here today and it's pretty warm out! I am so excited!

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Does "reverse psychology" work on JWs?

by kristyann in

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i have a question here... and some of you might think it sounds stupid or offensive or something... but i am going to ask, anyway, mainly because i am curious.. my boyfriend's family members are all still wrapped up in the jws, although they don't particularly follow many of the rules.

anyway, they were abusive and so we have pretty much washed our hands of them and given up.

we don't talk to them and haven't had any contact with them at all for quite awhile now... and we're fine with that now, because even though my boyfriend feels it is necessary to forgive them in his heart, he does not feel it is wise or prudent or necessary to have contact with people who are not changing and will just continue to abuse him and treat him like garbage.

kristyann

I have a question here... and some of you might think it sounds stupid or offensive or something... but I am going to ask, anyway, mainly because I am curious.

My boyfriend's family members are all still wrapped up in the JWs, although they don't particularly follow many of the rules. Anyway, they were abusive and so we have pretty much washed our hands of them and given up. We don't talk to them and haven't had any contact with them at all for quite awhile now... and we're fine with that now, because even though my boyfriend feels it is necessary to forgive them in his heart, he does not feel it is wise or prudent or necessary to have contact with people who are not changing and will just continue to abuse him and treat him like garbage. However, we do have a couple of friends that are still in the JWs, too... and we still like them.

These friends don't really participate in many of the activities, either. They are sort of on the fringe of the Witnesses as well. They pretty much do what they want in so many aspects of their lives, yet they still defend the JWs to the end and go to the meetings and stuff. They still allow themselves to be controlled in many other areas. We have tried to show them how ridiculous the JWs are, tried to help them out of it... my boyfriend has tried to explain why he left, but it hasn't worked, and at times, they became very offended when he was never anything but polite to them. They took great offense to what he was saying, though.

Then a guy we talked to recently told us that he helped get some of his friends out of the Witnesses by not saying anything negative about the JWs at all. In fact, he says that he used to actually show them more and more WT articles that encouraged JWs to become even more involved in the Watchtower organization. For instance, silly articles about how people quit their secular jobs to become pioneers and stuff. Or really stupid articles about how some guy wrote to the Watchtower asking for permission to hire Jehovah's Witnesses because he knows "Jehovah's Witnesses are the only honest people anymore, and they're the only people I can trust." So basically, this guy kept showing articles to them like this... but instead of pointing them out and saying how stupid they were, he pointed them out and acted like they were GOOD articles.

He claims that this worked... that this helped get his friends out of the Watchtower organization. He says that by showing them this stuff over and over again, they started to realize how stupid it was... but they would have only gotten defensive if he had come right out and SAID it was stupid. This way, they felt that they were coming to the conclusion on their own. He said that if you TELL them directly how dumb and evil the WTS is, they will only get defensive and want to do what you're telling them not to do even more. But if you they know you're okay with them doing it, they won't feel the need to do it so much anymore... they won't feel the need to prove you and everyone else wrong.

I am wondering... does anyone think that this would really work? Does anyone have any similar experiences? To me, it sounded extremely risky and dangerous. I would fear that showing an article to a Jehovah's Witness that encourages people to pioneer only and to quit their secular job would ENCOURAGE the JW to go ahead and quit their secular job...or it would make them feel guilty because they do have a secular job... but he claims that in his situation, it was the exact opposite. He claims that showing them the most ridiculous articles and acting like there was nothing wrong with them helped pull his friends out of the WTS.

Does anyone know if this works? I am not considering trying it, because I feel it sounds a little risky, a little sneaky and manipulative... plus I would just be so scared that my doing so would push someone into the WTS even further. But does anyone know if something like this DOES actually work? Or is this guy full of it? Does it maybe just depend on the people, on the specific situation? Has anyone heard of anything like this before?

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How not to apply for a job.

by JeffT in

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we just got a resume in the office (did i mention that i got a new job about a month ago - can't remember) any way this couple applied for an apartment managment team job.

the resumes were faxed in: handwritten on lined paper (our admin person says they must have a handwritten font on the computer).

she has one time frame 1997-2003 that lists her occupation as "housewife" during the same time period he has listed "went fishing in alaska with father in law.

kristyann

I was told in a class that if people are "housewives," "moms," or whatever, that they should include this on the resume. Maybe not using those terms, but I heard that they are supposed to include it. After all, it really does take a lot to raise a family and take care of a house and keep it running smoothly. Why aren't you supposed to include it?

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I wish I could quit you

by rimbaudbunuel in

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i wish i could quit you

kristyann

Isn't that a quote from the gay cowboy movie? "I wish I knew how to quit you" or something?