You probably would like to think that you have all become so intellectually wise and understanding of people - but don't kid yourselves - you haven't changed(with certain exception of ones who have been sincere). You simply are on another team, but with the same tactics and argument sense you had as a witness. You condemn the very thing you are.
The only real difference, johnnyc, if we ever had true integrity, is we were PLAYING for a team and now we aren't.
We are all healing, too. We are all working OUT the poison that the religion spent DECADES insinuating into our minds. You have somehow let it get in your mind that we are holding ourselves UP because that is what you are USED TO, johnnyc, not because that is what we are doing or even who we are. You have been conditioned for years to perceive everything through a hierarchical lens, and you've been taught defense is the "go to" position; we were ALL trained to use defense at the first sign of controversy.
But out here in the real world, as you will hopefully soon discover, there is a constant fray of ideas being proposed, considered, shredded, dismissed, supported, promoted, and demeaned. Especially will you see this play out in discussion forums.
I am not your enemy just because I don't agree with you about case law being the end all "decider" of meaning and proper usage of terms out here in workaday REALITY. I disagree with you. I have been out of a high-control religion (or, at least, borderline cult) since 2005, whereas you are just now finding your way out. I am now used to the ever present need to stand up for my own beliefs and opinions, whereas you are still getting used to the notion of HAVING your own beliefs and opinions to stand up for.
You have the added stress of being in a relationship that likely would not survive your departure from JWs, which sucks massively. And to top it off you are alienating a group of people who can EMPATHIZE with where you have been and who KNOW FIRSTHAND where you are headed by making them suspect you are nothing more than a JW apologist in doubter's clothing (which I do not believe, by the way).
As you said in your profile, "Wow, this is starting to sound sad . . ." Well put. And it is not looking like you are doing very much to make it sound less that way. Which I understand completely, having been down that road myself a time or two. Your confusion and frustration is totally understandable, but you are misdirecting it out of convenience. You would irreparably burn bridges if you railed at your family and mother like you have done to us, and I get that. You have to work out the frustration SOMEHOW, and I get that. But we are not your enemy. You need to get THAT, okay?
Please, calm down, for your own sake. No one has attacked you here, yet, even though you have attacked others.
Respectfully,
AuldSoul