hello everybody,i've been lurking for a while and since i really adore reading the biggest part of the posts, especially this italian ( american) guy about his experiences at bethel in the 70's, i feel a little bit guilty for not participating with my contribute.
i am really so sorry for the people that are suffering because of the wts.my story is a " happy ending " story, i married a jw almost 30 years ago and i am here to tell that we are still very happy.
she is very liberal and our 3 kids are " normal ".
Hi roberto,
I remember your interesting posts on my "raising kids"-thread a while back. I guess because of our liberal JW wives it took both of us a little longer than usual to figure out it's a cult and not a religion.
What is your wife's thinking about the blood issue and her dad's decision to not have surgery? Does she herself carry a no-blood-card?
we both are 21 years old.
we both are 21 years old.
i am almost done with my study and working on to become one of an unbaptized publisher.
...but I have also felt many doubts about truth during our relationship. Not doubts about Jehovah God, but some of watchtower conducts and teachings...
Good. Don't forget that, if you follow your path towards JWdom. WT literature often tries to equate Jehovah with "his" organisation. Some people - after reading it often enough - believe that. But it's not true. You can leave the organisation without leaving Jehovah. You can follow the bible and live your life according to what Jesus told us, without the JWs and their additional restricting set of rules.
John 14,6:
Jesus said to him, “I am the way, and the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me.
No need to go through the Watchtower...
we both are 21 years old.
we both are 21 years old.
i am almost done with my study and working on to become one of an unbaptized publisher.
What do you have in mind? I think we need a little more input here. And answered questions like:...and can't stop questioning myself about my decision being JW for the first time thinking that I can't even love someone in a way that I want to when I love her with all my heart.. I need support ...
Are you trying to become a jw FOR this girl? Or do you truely believe the religion has 'truth'? If this girl wasnt on the scene, would you still become a jw?
what does your girl friend have to say about the high control issues in the JW religion re dating you?
Look, you both are apparently deeply in love. So it's probably very difficult to use your brains right now, but this is exactly what you need to do! Try to step back and look at the situation: There is huge potential for deep conflicts here, mostly for her (her parents, her congregation). And there will be pressure, again mostly for her (pressure to leave you, pressure to at least get you baptized as soon as possible, pressure to get married rather sooner than later). So, you need to be there for her. Hopefully she feels safe and confident enough to talk to you about these things. And be aware, getting baptised and married as soon as possible, might look like a not too bad solution now, but most likely you will deeply regret this in the future.
mum phoned last night to see how we all are.
after fifteen years away from meetings and my old jw life you'd think my fade could be called 'successful' and for the most part it is.
.. my resentment at being lied to and having wasted over thirty years of my life has left me like a glass of water full to the brim, it only takes a tap to make a mess.
Simon wrote:
One thing I've realized though is that it's not unique to JW families and upbringing. Sure, there are JW specific elements to it but most families are messed up and dysfunctional in some way it seems but everyone pretends that everything is fine and puts on a good show for public consumption.
I think there are things that are important to us and it's our choices to make. We think of our dog as part of our family and have friends who are the same so know exactly where you are coming from. At some point parents stop having the right to push their viewpoints on us - it's as simple as that.
THIS.
In most cases in any family (JW or non-JW) at some point parents will stop pushing their viewpoints on their children. It seems though that percentagewise in JW families they do it longer and more often they never stop, compared to non-JW families. It's up to the (adult) children to teach their parents abound boundaries, because the WT will not.
i was browsing through stuff on jw.org recently and ran across some expressions that really grate on my nerves: loyal love, loving-care, and loving-kindness, as in: "please exercise loving-kindness toward your servant.
" who talks like that?
they must be relics of the fred franz era.
Worldly
Divided household
Many JWs don't even realize how offensive this can be to UBMs and their JW spouses.
it's amazing how the expression "the truth" has become such an ingrained term used by witnesses.. "we have 'the truth'".
"is he 'in the truth'?".
most here have found out so many facts about the organisation, and felt the effects of being "gut-punched" as we realised these facts.. so how do you feel about the expression "the truth" now?.
And then there are the "Two by Twos" https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Two_by_Twos
"Two by two, hands of blue..."
Never miss an opportunity to talk about one of the greatest TV series ever...
the english version seems fairly balanced.
to me it almost has an apostate feel, citing coc or describing doctrine changes and interesting details about wt history.
but the german version?
the english version seems fairly balanced.
to me it almost has an apostate feel, citing coc or describing doctrine changes and interesting details about wt history.
but the german version?
The English version seems fairly balanced. To me it almost has an apostate feel, citing CoC or describing doctrine changes and interesting details about WT history. But the German version? Copied right out of WT magazines! Example
The religion makes no provision for members to criticize or contribute to official teachings[35] and all Witnesses are expected to abide by the doctrines and organizational requirements as determined by the Governing Body.[36] Watch Tower Society publications strongly discourage Witnesses from formulating doctrines and "private ideas" reached through independent Bible research.[37][38][39][40] Members who promote privately developed teachings contrary to those of the Governing Body may be expelled and shunned.[37][41][42]
Laut dem 1993 erschienenen Buch Jehovas Zeugen – Verkündiger des Königreiches dienen Rückfragen und begründete Zweifel einzelner Zeugen Jehovas sowie neue Informationen zu einzelnen Sachgebieten als Anstoß für die Leitende Körperschaft, die Lehre immer wieder neu anhand der Bibel zu überprüfen. Die Leitende Körperschaft nimmt diese Überprüfungen in „begründeten Fällen“ zum Anlass, einzelne Lehrpunkte zu ändern.
Google translation (slightly edited by me):
"According to the 1993 book "Jehovah's Witnesses - Proclaimers of the kingdom" queries and reasonable doubt of individual Jehovah's Witnesses as well as new information on individual topics serve as impetus for the Governing Body, to re-examine the doctrine time and again on the basis of the Bible. The Governing Body uses these checks in "well-founded cases" as an opportunity to change individual points of doctrine."
Not sure what to say. LOL?!?
If anybody manages to get German JWs start researching the Org with wikipedia, they will just stay sound asleep.
i occasionally come on this website because i have my eyes on a particular user.
because of that, i end up reading a lot of people's post.
although very interesting and hurt breaking, a lot of them are very strange.
All of them claim to love their wives or husbands, but they insult them. To me, that is hypocrisy. If you love someone, but they make you feel like less of a person, why stay with them and disrespect them behind their back? That is why of the many reasons I stopped reading posts on this site. Stories like that made me very angry. That is one thing I've never agreed with. As long as you are still married to each other, you shouldn't be complaining about how they treat you unless you are willing to leave. If not, you shouldn't be bashing them.
Well, we are dealing with a cult here. I believe these people in unhappy marriages are mostly bashing their spouses cult persona while still loving the authentic real person behind it. And they stay because they hope, they can make the cult persona disappear one day.
a few years after i quit the meetings my mum needed her medical directive signed and witnessed and she asked if i'd do it.
i was surprised to say the least!.
i think she was just angling to include me and maybe find some lever to get me involved again.
Just wondering, because I am not 100% familiar with all this DF business:
If the JW is unconscious and somebody else takes the responsibility, maybe even with a court order to overrule the bloodcard, and the transfusion is done, then what? The JW will get DFed no matter what? Or what are the consequences for him/her in this scenario? I mean how can he/she even repent of the transfusion if the decision was taken from him/her?
