Good for you Lola--being considerate to others is most important. However I would like to say that love can be shown in a variety of forms.
When I left about a half dozen others have left as well and all of us in a different way. Some much like the way you did, others like myself had to stand up and say this is wrong. Yes it's caused much pain to people but growth can only happen thru pain. Their pain is not because of my actions but because of the belief system they have.
So everybody has a different way and purpose and that's a beautiful thing. I hope the best for you!