Gidday aussie, I'm pleased you posted. I get the impression that your boyfriend has been telling you about JW matters for the two years you've been together and you've found this distressing.
Most here will tell you that you have no hope of a happy relationship with him if he returns to the 'cult'. You may find that the emotional investment you have made will count for little UNLESS he is a very strong and principled man.
Welcome, and you are not alone.
Pete
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I Feel so alone
by aussie inhi everyone, well im totally new at this but i thought i would give it a go anyway.so here is my story(short version).
well i have been with my boyfriend for 2yrs now and the last 4months he has started to get back into witnessing.
i have said from day one that i dont want to be one, but i did attend a meeting, memorial and some studys i did this for him to see what it was all about.
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New Release: "Come Be My Follower"
by truthseeker inanother delightful, spiritually meaty 192 page publication from the "faithful and discreet slave class".
front cover - jesus waving.. .
back cover - do you feel lost and in need of direction?
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6 "He Learned Obedience"
'..In order to continue following him, you will want to promote an obedient, cooperative spirit in your local congregation.'
Thanks for that truthseeker. The above quotes leapt out at me from what you posted. True to cultlike form the need for control and obedience is paramount.
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"still, it's not the end" - annoying JW comments
by needproof ina good man i used to know from the jw days died today of cancer.
he was in his mid thirties and i feel really bad for his wife.
he was a great guy.
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Threestars-'One of the most bizarre things I ever heard was a comment that surely Jehovah will "erase all memory of our non JW and DFed loved ones after they are destroyed at armageddon. That way we won't have to be sad over them and can truly enjoy living in the paradise earth." '
That's a ghastly thought and shows the Witness cultlike attitude. I have heard this discussed also and it gave me the creeps. Much of what we are is because of our memories of events and others. I think the reasoning was based on the scripture that says 'the former things will not be called to mind'
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Another Watchtower Flip Flop.
by gumby init's no wonder so many witnesses need medication since they must rely on the faithful slave do make decisions and do their thinking for them.. evidently jehovah changed his mind once again in the articles shown below and thanks to the fds they let the publishers in on it.. the watchtower march 1, 2002 p.30 .
is it correct to say that jehovah's mercy tempers his justice?.
although this expression has been used, it is best to avoid it since it seems to imply that jehovah's mercy softens or restrains his justice, as if his mercy were superior to the harsher quality of justice.
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Truly spew inspiring gumby!
Warlocks quote- 'As during Noah's day when Jehovah tempered his justice by deferring execution for 120 years, so today he tempers his justice by deferring his war, called "the war of the great day of God the Almighty." (Rev. 16:14) Since 1918, he has shown undeserved kindness toward disobedient mankind by holding back his executional forces in the heavens in order that some "flesh would be saved."
Some of you may recall the thread from a few days ago that pointed out that far from the opportunity of being saved, the delay means MILLIONS more people who have never been witnessed to will die a miserable death. The population growth far outstrips the WT to explain 'the truth' to everyone by a long shot.
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Throwing Good Music Away
by choosing life ini went to a used cd store tonight.
i was like a kid in a candy store.
they had a lot of the old records that i threw away because of a cult, now on cd.
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Farewell To Kings was my first taste of Rush. Closer to the Heart I think.
Turn Devo's 'Whip It' backwards. It's a good example of backward masking. The verbalisation is very clear and natural!
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rude people at the door
by BR25 inwhy you were part of the jw faith and you were by yourself at a persons door ,who was really rude toward you, did you ever say anything nasty back instead of saying have a nice day?
also did you ever want to just knock someone out?
any experiences or thoughts of what you wanted to do?
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I always wanted to say to the ones who didn't even let you speak 'I'm sorry sir, we were just about to deliver your lottery winnings to you. Too bad you failed the final test.'
And the Pentecostals were the freakiest! They always behaved like my stoner mates from way back! Wide eyes, wouldn't stop talking and making no sense. (Not that I made much sense either) -
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Need to vent
by lola28 init's been one of those days, the kind that make you wish you never got up in the morning.
as many of you know my younger sister has lupus and had to go on meds late last year thankfully she has gotten much better these past few months, but it seems that there's always a trade off, we get good news only to be hit by bad news.
a few weeks ago she went to her doctor for a check up and they did a few tests, late last week they called me because they had some bad news, there was sugar in her urine and her blood, it seems that this is a result of the steroids that she is on for the lupus.
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Lola, crying because of empathising with anothers pain is not selfish. The emotion you feel is expressed on their behalf. Conversely, lack of emotion would show you as cold and unfeeling.
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What Do I Do Now?
by R.F. inas some of you may know, i'm currently an active jw that is tired of the lies, deception, and overall bs of the wts.
right now i'm finding myself going into the angry stage as to how manupulative the org is in the lives of so many and how they ruin them.
i feel a little helpless sometimes now that i just wonder how things will turn out.
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It's a sort of limbo for you now. I'm glad your fiancee is listening and thinking. She's the one I'd be thinking of first. Will she go with you or not? Could you stand to lose her because of your fade or would she be relieved too and..... I don't know either.
I guess you have to be straight up with her sooner than later and let the cards fall where they may.
"...o matter how much I did, I never felt I was doing enough for God and so many activities I wanted to do I pushed aside."- I hear that soldier. The org. sets you up for perpetual and exhausting failure.
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Hi guys!! It's me! Can I play too???
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What is the best thing you have done since leaving the truth?
by mtsgrad inas a fader i felt delighted at clinking glasses at a pub.
it may seem trivial but it meant a lot to me.
what is the best thing you have done since leaving the truth?.
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