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What are you reading - Summer 2006?

by eyeslice in

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always a popular thread the what are you reading at the moment thread?.

my favourite reads for the summer of 2006:.

the history of love by nicole krauss.

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Dark Star Safari: Overland from Cairo to Cape Town

Paul Theroux

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The Judicial Committee Has Been Formed

by LennyinBluemont in

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well, the hard, rusty gears of theocratic justice has begun to turn, and the teeth have caught me.

for those of you who read my earlier threads, in february of 2005, a "sister" i had known for almost 30 years contacted me and wanted to know what i had learned in the years since i had faded.

after granting me full assurance of confidentiality, in writing, i disclosed to her the un scandal.

Whole congregation members disfellowshiped?

by Sacchiel in

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has there ever been such a thing where the entire congregation is df'd?.

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I knew of a mass disfellowshipping in the Westchester (Miami) congregation in the early 1970's. I don't know the details.

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Moms: watch the message you send to your children about dieting

by Fleur in

this should be obvious but i wonder sometimes if we moms realize how much influence we have directly over our children no matter what we say because of our own body image and our own food issues.. recently i have been losing weight after discontinuing several medications known to add weight to you.

my daughter picked up on the fact i have also eliminated a lot of the sugar (most of it) from my diet and has begun wondering if she needed to go on a diet.

she is very athletic and has not a bit of body fat, so i sat her down straight away and explained to her that the weight i gained was unhealthy for me and that the medication was the main reason, that it has nothing to do with her or her body.. i am so worried about navigating the coming teen years with body issues for her because i had such bad problems with this in my own teens and adult life too.

skeeter1

I was very underweight when I was a child. So much so, that I stopped growing and my parents put me in a children's hospital to see what was wrong. I weighed 30 pounds as an 8 year old. The doctors found nothing wrong. When I was a teenager, I made Ms. Hilton look fat. I was a bag of bones, a literal graveyard. But, I ate everything in site. Partly, I wanted to look bigger so the opposite sex would find me attractive. It did not work. It was so stressed over my lack of weight - nothing looked good on and I was not "attractive" to the opposite sex. In my early/mid 20s, the pounds finally started to come on. Unfortunately, my learned eating habits were not "good". I had to learn how to eat and stay healthy.

One thing that my JW parents were good at, is that they did not "harp" on me about my lack of weight. They took me to the doctors to confirm I was healthy, and they left me alone after that. They did one thing right.

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Lying about going to meetings...what are your thoughts?

by stillAwitness in

as many of you know, i live on my own now and yesterday was quite a scare since my bf and i are $35 short on the rent!

lol!

we are already 5 days late but thank goodness i just started my very first waitressing job and made my first $45 tonight.

skeeter1

The landlord will probably "forgive" $35 of being short on rent, especially if you give it to him/her next week. It would cost him at least that much in lawyers/filing fees to file an eviction complaint at the local courthouse. So, I really do not think he/she is going to mind being a dollar or two short on rent.

Your mother will not forgive you lying to her about your heart. Plus, I think your mother will hold the $30 loan over your head more than your landlord.

Skeeter

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Moms: watch the message you send to your children about dieting

by Fleur in

this should be obvious but i wonder sometimes if we moms realize how much influence we have directly over our children no matter what we say because of our own body image and our own food issues.. recently i have been losing weight after discontinuing several medications known to add weight to you.

my daughter picked up on the fact i have also eliminated a lot of the sugar (most of it) from my diet and has begun wondering if she needed to go on a diet.

she is very athletic and has not a bit of body fat, so i sat her down straight away and explained to her that the weight i gained was unhealthy for me and that the medication was the main reason, that it has nothing to do with her or her body.. i am so worried about navigating the coming teen years with body issues for her because i had such bad problems with this in my own teens and adult life too.

skeeter1

Kids mirror what the parents say & do. They also mirror what other people around them say & do

My 2 year old LOVED Dunkin Donuts. We limited consumption to one donut a week, expalining it was "healthy" only if you ate one a week. We reinforced the words "healthy" and "unhealthy" throughout the day.

So, one day we were dining with this 2 year old child at a Steak & Shake (ok, not the most healthy). A very "unhealthy" man stood up to leave. He was BIG. The child yelled (at mega decibals), "Look ma, he ate too many donuts!" I've never been more embarrassed in my life.

Moral: Watch what you say, your spouse says, the tv/magazines, day care providers, teachers. The "world" is a hard place. Whether you use the word "FAT" or "unhealthy", they get the picture.

Skeeter

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Celebrating holidays

by dobbie in

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just wondering if you still abstain from celebrating christmas birthdays etc or if you do celebrate them how long did it take to feel comfy with doing it after you'd left the jws?i'm fading at the moment but although me and hubby have talked about spending xmas with our nonjw families and i told him i was going to start sending bday cards to my family, the thought of it scares me like its a big huge sin.does it ever feel natural to celebrate holidays?i used to love all that sort of thing before i was a witness but when my mum and stepdad wished me happy bday last month it felt really odd and i was uneasy.i find it v confusing cos i can sort of see that jesus wasn't born in dec. but maybe he can have 2 bdays like the queen!also not being able to send fathers day cards this year was the final straw for me i felt so bad about it so i have lots of making up to do but just hope i can enjoy it all without feeling bad.

i know they say some bday things have pagan origins but there are things jws can have or do that also are pagan.wedding rings for example.thanks

skeeter1

My mother-in-law & I were discussing this topic. She and her husband "studied"/attended meetings for a few years. They did not celebrate holidays. Then, they saw the sham and left the congregation for various reasons. Now, she regrets having missed her kids birthdays for those few years. Giving birth is such a special day to a woman. As she said, "It's the closest I'll ever be to God was the day of my kids births." She said she was robbed of throwing a big party to celebrate on that day. I agree.

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