We don't give any type of "boy" advice. That goes wrong, real quick. She runs off with them. She picks the same type of guy, the loser that villifies her family but wants to mooch off them as much as possible. The family finally blows up, and she runs off with them. She's been in and out of the swinging door more times than I mentioned.
To build her esteem, relatives near her just pick something to compliment her on. Any type of advice, however carefully worded, and she does the exact opposite.
We've pointed her to local programs and the welfare office has offered too. She hasn't gone. I've quietly offered to pay for her to go to a professional coach or counselor. Nope. I've pointed her to free word processing and spreadsheet classes so she can get on with a temporary secretarial group at the very least. She hasn't done it. I pointed her to basic resumes for high school people. Nope. She puts in applications, and doesn't get called back. I think it's due to her looks and the fact that so many others are looking for work. Honestly, I think as long as relatives pay for her essentials, roof, and food; and she gets enough from Uncle Sam, she is very wiling to just sit on her rear. She has never had a job and just a litte school, and she's almost 21 years old. I think employers have too many others to pick from. She lives near a major city, so there's plenty of jobs. You can feed a girl a fish, and she will never learn to fish until she's hungry.
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