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  Michael Sam Story on the ESPY'S. He was raised a JW.

  by integ in

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  michael sam...the football player who came out as gay, received an award on the espy's sports award show last night.

  they had a video presentation documenting his struggles and it was brought out in the video piece that as a jehovah's witness, he was prohibited from playing in organized team sports...but that he went and defiantly played anyway.

  so, sam not only had to overcome the gay issue but also that of being a witness.

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  Wow! I wonder if he'd come to an Apostafest?
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  My frist email letter from my JW Dad. So sad...

  by suavojr in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i am in my early 30s and woke up to ttatt in late 2012. my dad just turned 65 in june!

  wow, i never saw that being possible.. .

  he just got himself a computer and was able to get internet in a remote location where he is serving as an elder with my mom (where the need is great) i was happy to see how he was able to send me a few notes saying hi and i was able to share some pictures of my wife and family, etc.. .

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  What I told my dad (in a nutshell), after he kept pounding me with JW arguments.

  "Dad, glad you have found the JW religion and it gives you comfort and hope. I don't want to take away any comfort or hope that you derive from it. I have carefully studied the JW religion. I have fundamental disagreements with it. I am not going to discuss with you my disagreements. When you keep trying to Witness to me, it makes me feel like you don't appreciate the time and thought I've spent on the subject. I hope that we can have a relationship fo mutual respect for each other, and allow each other to continue onwards with our spiritial journey."
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  What is the "new" date JWs are "hinting" at for Armaggeddon?

  by booker-t in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  after the 1975 "we did not say point blank armaggeddon was coming we only suggested it might come" fiasco what is the new date jws are "hinting" at for armaggeddon?

  i know now they do not point to any specific date but hint that maybe it might occur such as before 2000 the preaching work will be finished.

  this is a suggestion not a prediction so they can wiggle out of this one.

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  I was told by an elderly dub (80) that he might not see it in his lifetime, BUT HE WAS CERTAIN I WOULD SEE IT!!! (He yelled the last part so I capitalized it)
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  37 years later, I finally got the CULT thing

  by Freedom77 in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  hi all, just happened to come across this site again after 10 or 12 years - i see some old posts of mine under a diff username (can't reopen the account, forgot the freakin' password).

  i left the borg in 1977, age 21, haven't looked back but every now and then i am amazed to find there's some old, old attitude from the jw days that i find is still clinging to my pants leg like a stray sticker.. looking over some of the posts here and some linked ex-jw sites yesterday it finally hit me - it is an effing cult.

  when i was in, we were always accused of being that, so naturally we totally spouted the society's line and got all defensive, etc.

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  If you can see reality, then you can change anything. Welcome, to being able to change everything.
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  Stuck in JWs are in a toxic relationship

  by skeeter1 in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  are "stuck in" jws in a toxic relationship?

  this past two weeks, i've been realizing that a few of my jw relatives are very toxic people (they fit the description below).

  i realized that alot of ex-jws who are stuck dealing with jws may also be in a toxic relationship.

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  Are "stuck in" JWs in a toxic relationship? I think so.

  This past two weeks, I've been realizing that a few of my JW relatives are very toxic people (they fit the description below). I realized that alot of ex-JWs who are stuck dealing with JWs may also be in a toxic relationship. (This may not be news to alot of you, but it was for me). Defining the problem, you can then work towards a solution with how to deal with these people.

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  “A hallmark of a toxic interaction is that both people have created a conscious or unconscious story with judgment, fear or blame about the other person and boundaries that were crossed,” Tatsumi said.

  Signs You’re Surrounded by a Toxic Person

  Gale shared these signs:

  • You’re emotionally affected by their drama
  • You dread (or fear) being around them
  • You’re exhausted or you feel angry while you’re with them or after your interaction
  • You feel bad or ashamed about yourself
  • You’re stuck in a cycle of trying to rescue, fix or care for them.

  Tatsumi shared these additional signs:

  • The other person doesn’t respect the word “No” as a complete sentence
  • When you’re with them, you feel like you’re “walking on eggshells”
  • You ignore your own values
  • You emotionally “check out”
  • You feel like you’re being controlled, or you’re being overly controlling.

  Again, it’s important to explore your own role in the interaction. For instance, how do you compromise your own values or boundaries? Do you lash out because you feel misunderstood or not listened to? Do you withdraw because this is how you react to criticism?

  What to Do With Toxic Relationships

  Gale offered these suggestions for navigating toxic interactions:

  • Tell the person how you feel in an assertive way. Use “I” statements. For example: “When you act/do/say _____, I feel _____. What I need is _______. The reason that I am sharing my feelings and needs with you is_______ (because I love you, I want to build a healthy relationship with you etc.).”
  • Set and maintain boundaries.
  • Focus on taking care of yourself.
  • “Find ways to protect yourself from their unhealthy behaviors.”
  • Reflect on the relationship, and consider how you’re caught in an unhealthy cycle of relating to the person. For instance, you might be making excuses for them or trying to fix them.

  “If the person’s toxic behavior doesn’t change, or the relationship is just too toxic for you, send them forward in life with love and compassion, and then move forward with your life,” Gale said.

  Ending the relationship may be painful, particularly if you have a long history with the person, she said. “Ultimately though, you will have created space for much healthier and far more nourishing relationships in your life.”
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  Hello and Thank You!

  by Vintagewife in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i've been lurking here for about 3 months and decided it was time to register and become active.

  i left the organization 17 years ago.

  like so many of you, i had endured less than christian behavior from the strong cliches that ran our congregation.

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  Vintage, you would be the humble one. Becuase, I would have punched his lights out.
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  Hello and Thank You!

  by Vintagewife in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i've been lurking here for about 3 months and decided it was time to register and become active.

  i left the organization 17 years ago.

  like so many of you, i had endured less than christian behavior from the strong cliches that ran our congregation.

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  Wow & Wow! Yes, there seems to be two types of JWs. The truly humble and the raging bulls.
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  "Witness to Murder" an upcoming program on US TV about a JW family will air August 20th...

  by AndersonsInfo in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i was informed yesterday that a us cable tv channel named investigation discovery will be broadcasting a 7-part series named "deadly devotion.

  " one program in the series is "witness to murder" which will air wednesday evening, august 20th, probably at 9 p.m. est.

  check the schedule on the internet which lists the date and time of broadcast two-weeks ahead.

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  Can't wait to watch it. Thanks for posting this.
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  Local Needs 07/08/2014

  by piztjw in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  i don't know whether i should laugh, or run screaming into the night.. tonights "local needs" was titled "are you following 'the slave' "?.

  the theme scripture was 1 peter 2: 21. it was applied that by following jesus steps closely we would then be able to keep up with 'the slave'.

  now i don't know about others, but if i were to follow one person and that meant to keep up with someone else, it would mean that the person i was following was following the other person.

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  I'm not a techno geek. My understanding is that it would be expensive to be able to show the website at someone's door. You are going to need a fast internet data plan on your phone or I-pad. A flip phone isn't going to cut it.

  -Apple Phone $500-$600

  - Dataplan about +$100/month (or more)

  -Ipad $800-900 (more impressive becuase of bigger screen)

  In all that's a setback of $1200/year recurring and $1500 of hardware as a one time set up. Phones don't last, batteries don't last. So, now you are going to have to save up for the next phone & pad to come out.

  I feel very sorry for the JWs. I don't have a fancy phone and I don't pay for internet on my phone. Why? Because it costs too much. I use my house internet, and that's it.
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  God & St. Francis on Lawn Care . . .

  by skeeter1 in

  1. social
  2. humour

  imagine the conversation the creator might have had with st. francis on the subject of lawns:.

  god: hey st. francis, you know all about gardens and nature.

  what in the world is going on down there in the midwest?

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  Imagine the conversation The Creator might have had with St. Francis on the subject of lawns:

  God: Hey St. Francis, you know all about gardens and nature. What in the world is going on down there in the Midwest? What happened to the dandelions, violets, thistle and stuff I started eons ago? I had a perfect "no maintenance" garden plan. Those plants grow in any type of soil, withstand drought and multiply with abandon. The nectar from the long lasting blossoms attracts butterflies, honey bees and flocks of songbirds. I expected to see a vast garden of colors by now. But all I see are these green rectangles.

  St. Francis: It's the tribes that settled there, Lord. The Suburbanites. They started calling your flowers "weeds" and went to great lengths to kill them and replace them with grass.

  God: Grass? But it's so boring. It's not colorful. It doesn't attract butterflies, birds and bees, only grubs and sod worms. It's temperamental with temperatures. Do these Suburbanites really want all that grass growing there?

  St. Francis: Apparently so, Lord. They go to great pains to grow it and keep it green. The begin each spring by fertilizing grass and poisoning any other plant that crops up in the lawn.

  God: The spring rains and warm weather probably make grass grow really fast. That must make the Suburbanites happy.

  St. Francis: Apparently not, Lord. As soon as it grows a little, they cut it... sometimes twice a week.

  God: They cut it? Do they then bail it like hay?

  St. Francis: Not exactly, Lord. Most of them rake it up and put it in bags.

  God: They bag it? Why? Is it a cash crop? Do they sell it?

  St. Francis: No Sir. Just the opposite. They pay to throw it away.

  God: Now let me get this straight. They fertilize grass so when it does grow, they cut it off and pay to throw it away?

  St. Francis: Yes, Sir.

  God: These Suburbanites must be relieved in the summer when we cut back on the rain and turn up the heat. That surely slows the growth and saves them a lot of work.

  St. Francis: You are not going to believe this Lord. When the grass stops growing so fast, they drag out hoses and pay more money to water it so they can continue to mow it and pay to get rid of it.

  God: What nonsense. At least they kept some of the trees. That was a sheer stroke of genius, if I do say so myself. The trees grow leaves in the spring to provide beauty and shade in the summer. In the autumn they fall to the ground and form a natural blanket to keep moisture in the soil and protect the trees and bushes. Plus, as they rot, the leaves form compost to enhance the soil. It's a natural circle of life.

  St. Francis: You better sit down, Lord. The Suburbanites have drawn a new circle. As soon as the leaves fall, they rake them into great piles and pay to have them hauled away.

  God: No. What do they do to protect the shrub and tree roots in the winter and to keep the soil moist and loose?

  St. Francis: After throwing away the leaves, they go out and buy something which they call mulch. The haul it home and spread it around in place of the leaves.

  God: And where do they get this mulch?

  St. Francis: They cut down trees and grind them up to make the mulch.

  God: Enough. I don't want to think about this anymore. Sister Catherine, you're in charge of the arts. What movie have you scheduled for us tonight?

  Sister Catherine: "Dumb and Dumber", Lord. It's a real stupid movie about.....

  God: Never mind, I think I just heard the whole story from St. Francis.
  Reprinted by permission of
  El Ojo Del Lago News
  Guadalajara, Mexico