Pale-
I have to agree with LongHairGal...after a certain amount of time (years?) you'll be "relieved to not be bothered with Witnesses."
My sister and brother both "shun" me, although they were able to say "sorry for your loss" to me at our sister's funeral. I didn't respond. It was their sister also and I suspect they were putting on a show for the rest of the family, none of whom are JWs... although my mom flirts with it enough to keep the JW siblings hopeful (guessing).
At any rate, I've read your posts and you seem to be one of those who will be successful.... even if you have to "fake it to make it" on occasion.
While I don't know you at all, I am confident that you are in a better place being shunned by JWs than being a JW.... regardless of the cost.
Best regards.