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  Girls help!!! What signs when a woman is interested in a guy?

  by Spectrum in

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  generally i find that if a girl is interested in me she makes it quite obvious by her actions and words.

  i'm fine with this.

  however there are times when a i really can't tell and this is the problem i'm grappling with at the moment.

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  seredipity,
  
  "However, if it was a one time thing, maybe she was really hurt by Julie and wanted to lash out to hurt Julie. People do that. I'm not saying it's right."
  
  No, julie wasn't that bad a person, in fact she really liked my ex and supported her but they fell out over something stupid and my ex just took it to the limit.
  
  "I feel sad for you that you found someone so complementary, but you didn't exhaust all possibilites to make it work."
  
  Thanks, but what can I say, must be Sod's Law. And yes I didn't, sometimes I think about finding her and starting all over again but then this depressing feeling comes over me and quickly change my thoughts.
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  Girls help!!! What signs when a woman is interested in a guy?

  by Spectrum in

  1. social
  2. relationships

  generally i find that if a girl is interested in me she makes it quite obvious by her actions and words.

  i'm fine with this.

  however there are times when a i really can't tell and this is the problem i'm grappling with at the moment.

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  Spectrum

  stolenyouth,
  
  "Hi me again, trust me if you come from a background with a difficult or abusive mother it will - not may - but will cloud your relationship with any woman you are intimate with. It is a recipe for disaster for both of you in the relationship. Trust me I've been there and its not pretty."
  
  I hear you on this one, unfortunately I don't know how I'm going to fair in a long term relationship if she has any of the negative traits of my mother. I've rejected so many women before a relationship even started the moment I saw these signs so I've have minimised heartache on both sides at the expense of staying a relationshipless. Was it a good thing? I don't know.
  
  "Unlike the poor girl to whom you said nothing - I am saying be caring and compassionate. Remember as they used to say in Sunday School ( of which I have fond memories before being dragged to KH hell), ...do unto others as you would have them do to you etc... would you like to have been just dumped because someone saw a side of you they didn't like without any explanation - no offer of help etc. I'm not saying the decision was wrong its all about the way. One day someone you love will see a side of you, an aspect they have overlooked, highlighted or magnified - what if they just dumped you with no explanation."
  
  
  This poor girl bites hard - likes to draw blood. I just saw an evil side to her (maybe its the mother thing) and just didn't want to know anymore. I just thought that in situations like this you just let go and move on. But you've made me think and I think I should have taken her to one side and discussed it with her. The chances are I would have got a hail of abuse but at least I would have tried. She was very upset when I disengaged from her, it was as though she couldn't figure it out as to why i'd lost interest, to me it looked like she was acting like a spoilt child - I'm going to abuse him and complain if he doesn't like it. So I thought I'm not an idiot she has to go.
  
  "As for being a PHd - what does that have to do with anything. Just because someone can work out pi to the nth degree means nothing - emotional intelligence EQ is not realted to IQ."
  
  OK point taken. My blame.
  
  
  "Or maybe she was just a horrible person but she obviously thought you were on her wave length to say what she said to you. How did she get that impression?"
  
  I think just a horrible person, believe me she is not in my wavelength at least not the nasty side of her.
  
  Thanks for this post, despite everything that happened you made me realise that i didn't try hard enough to salvage the situation or at least try to understand this woman's motives. I will consider these things next time.
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  The Origin-of-Life Foundation, Inc. The Secret $1,000,000 Prize

  by Deputy Dog in

  1. watchtower
  2. scandals

  from http://www.scienceagainstevolution.org/v9i11f.htm

  the secret $1,000,000 prize

  one of the best kept secrets of science is the origin of life prize sponsored by the origin of life foundation, inc. when we first ran across their web site (www.lifeorigin.org), we thought that the offer of one million dollars to anyone who could propose a plausible theory for the origin of life was just a slick creationist trick for showing that the emperor had no clothes.

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  Abaddon,
  
  Shame, it was a serious question for a serious answer but for some reason you've misunderstood me.
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  The Origin-of-Life Foundation, Inc. The Secret $1,000,000 Prize

  by Deputy Dog in

  1. watchtower
  2. scandals

  from http://www.scienceagainstevolution.org/v9i11f.htm

  the secret $1,000,000 prize

  one of the best kept secrets of science is the origin of life prize sponsored by the origin of life foundation, inc. when we first ran across their web site (www.lifeorigin.org), we thought that the offer of one million dollars to anyone who could propose a plausible theory for the origin of life was just a slick creationist trick for showing that the emperor had no clothes.

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  " Are you asking why the Lungfish is not an evolutionary Holy Grail? "
  
  Yes.
  
  I'm really not looking for a creation/evolution showdown! Can't you understand a simple question? Just messing with you!!
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  British College: Non-Muslims are "filth", "pigs" and "dogs"

  by Elsewhere in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  http://www.timesonline.co.uk/article/0,,2-2142403,00.html.

  the times april 20, 2006 .

  muslim students 'being taught to despise unbelievers as filth'.

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  Spectrum

  Hellrider,
  
  I think you have a point. As long as there is a source of clerics to interpret the Koran in its extreme form ( eg as the Spaniards and white South Africans did the Bible) then it doesn't matter how well meaning European moslems are as things can get out of hand extremely quickly. And in the end when the dust settles we'll find that both sides are to blame.
  The best thing is for moslems to secularise themselves move on and stop harking back to
  620 AD, and definitely stop saying that they love Mohammed more than their mother, father and siblings. Don't they know how ridiculous that sounds? Mohammed had 12 women to bonk, not exactly the paragon of virtue, never mind all the people he killed. A 7th century Solomon.
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  The Origin-of-Life Foundation, Inc. The Secret $1,000,000 Prize

  by Deputy Dog in

  1. watchtower
  2. scandals

  from http://www.scienceagainstevolution.org/v9i11f.htm

  the secret $1,000,000 prize

  one of the best kept secrets of science is the origin of life prize sponsored by the origin of life foundation, inc. when we first ran across their web site (www.lifeorigin.org), we thought that the offer of one million dollars to anyone who could propose a plausible theory for the origin of life was just a slick creationist trick for showing that the emperor had no clothes.

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  Abaddon,
  
  The lungfish I imaging has lungs and walks on land, why is this not the holy grail to evolutionist?
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  Girls help!!! What signs when a woman is interested in a guy?

  by Spectrum in

  1. social
  2. relationships

  generally i find that if a girl is interested in me she makes it quite obvious by her actions and words.

  i'm fine with this.

  however there are times when a i really can't tell and this is the problem i'm grappling with at the moment.

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  Spectrum

  Serendipity,
  
  Ok, i could have been explicit about it but her being a PhD I thought she would have had ample brains to figure it out pretty quickly.
  
  But you've made me think as she is of a different cultural background to me. Maybe in her mind engaging in vitriol is a way of releasing tension and frustrations that would otherwise end in blows or maybe even depression if kept inside.
  
  However the incident that made me think she was beyond redemption was a few days after she laid into me she started on another girl (call her Julie) by saying what immense pleasure it gave her that she was able to make Julie feel so sad. I wasn't around to witness this incident but when I found out the first thing I thought was this girl is boardering on schizophrenia.
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  Girls help!!! What signs when a woman is interested in a guy?

  by Spectrum in

  1. social
  2. relationships

  generally i find that if a girl is interested in me she makes it quite obvious by her actions and words.

  i'm fine with this.

  however there are times when a i really can't tell and this is the problem i'm grappling with at the moment.

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  Spectrum

  GD,
  
  "Or look them in the eyes and ask questions that will show their real intentions."
  
  Thanks, that's a good technique I'll try that one day.
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  Girls help!!! What signs when a woman is interested in a guy?

  by Spectrum in

  1. social
  2. relationships

  generally i find that if a girl is interested in me she makes it quite obvious by her actions and words.

  i'm fine with this.

  however there are times when a i really can't tell and this is the problem i'm grappling with at the moment.

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  Spectrum

  Sickoflies,
  
  Are you talking about the girl next door or the girl on the street corner?!!!!!!!
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  Girls help!!! What signs when a woman is interested in a guy?

  by Spectrum in

  1. social
  2. relationships

  generally i find that if a girl is interested in me she makes it quite obvious by her actions and words.

  i'm fine with this.

  however there are times when a i really can't tell and this is the problem i'm grappling with at the moment.

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  Spectrum

  DB1974
  
  Thanks, that's good advice. I think that girls perhaps like cool characters - I don't mean that in a macho way.