I know what you're going through; I've been in the organization since I was a little kid, nearly 40 years! I even went to Bethel, but I'm thankful, because it was there that I soon realized that things were not at all as they appeared from the outside!
According to the Society's teachings in the 1960's, I was quite assured I would never see old age, but survive into God's New World. Perhaps you had similar hopes. Feeling any younger yet?
However, Paul makes an interesting statement at 1 Corinthians 13:13: "Now, however, there remain faith, hope, love, these three; but the greatest of these is love." If we believe this, then we would have to conclude that we should be able to have true faith, hope, and the type of love that is fundamental to true Christianity.
But where can we go? Which group should we associate with? These may be the wrong questions to be asking. Why? Well, consider this illustration at Matthew 13:24-30:
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24 Another illustration he set before them, saying: “The kingdom of the heavens has become like a man that sowed fine seed in his field. 25 While men were sleeping, his enemy came and oversowed weeds in among the wheat, and left. 26 When the blade sprouted and produced fruit, then the weeds appeared also. 27 So the slaves of the householder came up and said to him, ‘Master, did you not sow fine seed in your field? How, then, does it come to have weeds?’ 28 He said to them, ‘An enemy, a man, did this.’ They said to him, ‘Do you want us, then, to go out and collect them?’ 29 He said, ‘No; that by no chance, while collecting the weeds, YOU uproot the wheat with them. 30 Let both grow together until the harvest; and in the harvest season I will tell the reapers, First collect the weeds and bind them in bundles to burn them up, then go to gathering the wheat into my storehouse.’”
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Of course, the Society applies this illustration to some imaginary events in the 1914-1919 era. But ask yourself this, have the "reapers" really pulled out the weeds yet? Interestingly, you'll notice that the "slaves" wanted to correct matters by trying to pull the weeds out themselves. If these "slaves" represent Jesus' true disciples, individuals who are truly serving God (compare Matt. 25:14), then it is understandable why they might want to try pulling out the weeds on their own! But Jesus said to wait until the "harvest season," whereupon he would tell the "reapers," who are "angles" (Matt. 13:39, 41), to " collect out from his kingdom all things that cause stumbling and persons who are doing lawlessness," to finally "pitch them into the fiery furnace" -- see Matt 13:36-43 (You might also want to consider a similar illustration, that of the "dragnet" (see Matt. 13:47-50).
To summarize, we're still living in the time when no one organized group can claim to be the only one God is using. Furthermore, like a literal mixture of "wheat" and "weeds," it may be difficult to even identify "wheat" like Christians among the devil's "weeds". But Jesus indicated that they would be there. Therefore, why not search out for such like ones? But a word of caution, you won't find them under the banner of some named "organization."
Finally, just a few comments on Matt. 25. As you are probably aware, the Society's discussion of Matt. 24-25, defies any manner of reason! By your comments, it seems that you're trying to reconcile these illustrations with the Society's regrettable "class" distinctions. However, I'll briefly point out a couple of things that might help in having the correct view.
There's a common, fundamental thread that runs throughout the illustrations of Matt 24-25, starting with verse 36: "Concerning that day and hour nobody knows, neither the angles of the heavens nor the Son, but only the Father." With this in mind, Jesus uses a number of illustrations to highlight various aspects about how true disciples should live their lives, while not knowing when his arrival (his parousia) would take place.
Matt. 24:37-39 -- Noah and family didn't set dates for the flood, but waited until God brought it upon earth; in like manner, Jesus' arrival (his parousia) would come in God's due time, and therefore no human or angle can determine when this will be.
Matt. 24:40-44 -- Because no date can be determined, true disciples would be carrying out daily activities when he actually does arrive, but living in such a way that when he does come, they would be "taken along," saved. Proving ourselves "ready" means we would not be caught off guard when our master returns "at an hour" we "do not think it to be."
Matt. 24:45-51 -- Note that there is only one slave in this illustration. "But if he is a bad servant and says to himself, 'The master is a long time coming,' and begins to bully the other servants and to eat and drink with his drunken friends…" -- Matt 24:48, New English Bible. Here, the "trusty servant" (Matt. 24:45 New English Bible) never set dates, but was ready no matter when his master finally returns, whereas the "bad servant" evidently set a date, and when this didn't materialize, he began to "bully the other servants." As individuals, which of the potential outcomes will be ours? Will we like be a "trusty servant," serving our master, contently prepared, no matter when he arrives?
Matt. 25:1-27 -- These illustrations prepare us for the long wait (see Matt. 15:25:19, "After a long time…"), until the master finally returns when we least expect it (Matt. 25:13). Each covers a different aspect of waiting patiently. For instance, you'll note that in the case of the "ten virgins," the "foolish" started their course without taking enough oil. Early on, they evidently figured that the Jesus would return sooner rather than later. Perhaps they even determined in their own minds, that surely Jesus would return before some predetermined time (hence, no need in taking any additional oil). However, they were wrong, and were left out when he did finally come (Matt. 25:10-12). Hence, one should be prepared for a long wait, he may not return in one's own lifetime.
Matt. 25:31-46 -- Since both the righteous and unrighteous say "when did we see you" (Matt. 25:37, 44), surely both groups realized that Jesus never actually returned. This is still in keeping with the central theme of the illustrations covered up to this point, still highlighting "we know neither the day nor the hour" (Matt. 25:13). Therefore, in this illustration, how we treat fellow Christians during the long wait will determine how Jesus will deal with us. We need to be careful about the sins of omission; what we fail to do toward fellow Christians can determine what will happen to us (see Matt. 3:31-34, 19:29 for explanation of "brothers" in 25:40), when he does return in that day of inspection.