Sleeping in on Saturday mornings,playing competition sport on Sundays,having a bit too much to drink and not feeling guilty the next day,basically just enjoying life to the fullest!
Cheers Mercedes x
montana96
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happiness is...
by Shawn10538 ini think we should have a happiness is section that compares life after jws.
happiness is... .
being told by your professor that the only open section of the class you need to take to finish your degree is on tues. and thurs nights 7pm to 9pm, and being able to give a resounding , "yes!
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What impact did the internet have on your decision to leave the JW's?
by JH in.
on another thread, a co says that sites like these don't have much impact on their numbers.. personally i didn't leave because of this site or any other xjw site.. i was unhappy and felt that something was wrong and this site confirmed what i felt.. how about you?
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montana96
We had benn unhappy as jws for some time so the internet was a tool used to confirm what we already suspected,that we werent in the truth!
I must say what I found out through the internet blew our minds away and we felt stupid that we never investigated things properly before the days of the internet. Thats why the society is so against the internet,everyday people like ourselves,are finding out some interesting pieces of information that we may never have known about.
One door opens,one closes and the path to happiness and freedom is out there and I thak the internet for helping us find that path
Cheers Mercedes x
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a bit more of my story, maybe some advice needed
by isthisit inso, i'm in my twenties (still in) and with a sister who is 27 and neither of us are happy in the borg.
part of the problem is that she is divorced but not scriptually.
her ex was a nasty nasty piece of work and she was better off without him.
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montana96
How is physical abuse not a grounds for divorce?Make a clean break,you obviously love each other and you want to do the right thing,but I think you are both making yourselves very unhappy by trying to please the wrong people.
Do whats in your heart,get married, move on,take advantage of your new opportunities in the States and start a new life without all the hassles you guys are obviously being faced with. No one has the right to rob you of your happinesss.
Good Luck
Mercedes x
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What Things Did You Hate About Being A Jehovah's Witness?
by minimus in.
anything in particular?
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montana96
I hated being different from my friends as a teenager.
I loved xmas and birthdays and had to pretend I didnt
I loved being loud and having parties, but had to suppress that
Making up for it now though. Love finally being able to be yourself!
Cheers Mercedes x
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what about celebrating?
by Swamboozled inanyone still not celebrate birthdays?
holidays?
i was wondering about everyone's position about this as i plan to throw a huge make-up birthday party for each of my kids this year.
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montana96
I love to celebrate birthdays,easter,xmas because we did before my parents became JWs.
My husband on the other hand has never experienced these celebrations and finds it difficult to relax and enjoy them. I plan on a huge xmas this year but my husband isnt so sure as he thinks we will be disfellowshipped even though we have been gone for 4 years. I dont care I LOVE IT ALL.
mercedes x
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Thoughts...
by RichieRich inall to often, my mind drifts to my mixed feelings for my mother.
the deep love that burned in my heart for the woman who had given me life.. the suicidal remorse i felt for bringing such guilt and reproach on her good name.. the blinding anger i felt for her never questioning her beliefs, but always questioning her son.. and so i'm left with a vacuous emotional chamber for a large element that is missing from my soul.. and when you've lost your most valuable possesion, everything else is gravy on an empty plate - pointless.. and so i hurt too, and i love my mom, but does she love me?
the unanswered question haunts my mind.. we recieve, we give, and sometimes, we just plain screw up.
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montana96
Hi Richie.
Keep showing your Mum you love her no matter what,and even if she doesnt respond the way you want,you will eventually have peace of mind knowing its not your or the fact that you dont want to be a JW anymore,but its a man made religion that makes parents act in an unnatural way towards their children.
You will find peace of mind,just give it some time.
Cheers Mercedes x
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Last Assembly ever!
by montana96 inmy parents are headed to the sydney convention this weekend.
she has told my sister this is the last assembly they will be having in this system.
the end is coming!.
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montana96
My parents are headed to the Sydney Convention this weekend. She has told my Sister this is the last Assembly they will be having in this System. The end is coming!
Has anyone else had this said to them by relatives or friends after the assembly?
Could this be the special announcement?
Cheers Mercedes x
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Im back!
by montana96 inits been a long time since my last post and i had been enjoying it so much!.
tragedy has struck our family.
my jw elder father has been diagnosed with a very rare leukemia called multiple myeloma with amlyodosis.
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montana96
Thankyou for all your comments especially Dansk. We are looking at a stem cell transplant as well which my father will have. He has started Chemo and has more next week then my parents will be going to a gruelling 3 day DC in Sydney. Im sure this will help his health!
My Mum is not coping well and is pushing us away. She is not talking to anyone about it not even her friends in the congregation.I am in touch with the Leukemia foundation so I will ask how to deal with helping my Mum.
Another question. My father told us he felt like a failure as a father because none of his kids stayed JWs. HE can see we all are genuinely happy and have done well in our lives. Should I talk to him about it or just spend as much time with him as I can?Or do you think hes making us feel guilty so well all come back before he dies?
Another thought; Being a JW we always had the hope of the resurrection,I dont know what to believe anymore and this isnt helping me cope very well as I fear I may never see my father again.Any thoughts would be appreciated.
Cheers Mercedes x
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Goodbye and Swansongs
by LittleToe inwhat's with the recent spate of folks saying goodbye, or giving swansongs?.
this is a webboard.
people come and people go.
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montana96
I came here because I felt it was the only place to be were I could relate to other people and vice versa. Life is very busy and things get in the way,but I have always quickly looked at the latest discussions and see whats happening. It is refreshing and sometimes it gets me down when I see how much people have truly been hurt.
Thats why its nice to come and go as often as you can, to touch base,say hello,and mayby help someone just as many here have helped me tremendously without even realising it!
Cheers Mercedes x
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WT desparate: Aug 15 WT- In Our Next Issue: When A Loved One Leaves Jehovah
by truthseeker inno, i don't have this article yet, it will appear in the sep 1, 2006 wt.
it may even be a wt study article.. in the august 15 watchtower, the box "in our next issue" has three forthcoming articles, and one of them is "when a loved one leaves jehovah".
of interest, it's not when a loved one leaves the society, it's jehovah.. will keep you posted.
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montana96
Its always implied that the ones who leave are the ones that divide the family!
My experience proved to me what a cult JW really are. As soon as you question or doubt or leave alltogether,you are on the outer. Your family will pick JW over you every time. My relationship with my parents is strained because I decide I no longer believed it. The tell you thats ok, you can decide your an adult,then the fun begins! No more playing happy families.
It breaks my heart when I see NORMAL WORDLY FAMILIES, who yes have the same problems as everyone, but can at least accept each other for who they are.
Its because of articles like this that makes me realise I made the best decision,and guess what: you can actually be happy!
Cheers Mercedes x