so, i'm in my twenties (still in) and with a sister who is 27 and neither of us are happy in the borg.
part of the problem is that she is divorced but not scriptually.
her ex was a nasty nasty piece of work and she was better off without him.
How is physical abuse not a grounds for divorce?Make a clean break,you obviously love each other and you want to do the right thing,but I think you are both making yourselves very unhappy by trying to please the wrong people.
Do whats in your heart,get married, move on,take advantage of your new opportunities in the States and start a new life without all the hassles you guys are obviously being faced with. No one has the right to rob you of your happinesss.
Good Luck
Mercedes x
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anything in particular?
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I hated being different from my friends as a teenager.
I loved xmas and birthdays and had to pretend I didnt
I loved being loud and having parties, but had to suppress that
Making up for it now though. Love finally being able to be yourself!
Cheers Mercedes x
anyone still not celebrate birthdays?
holidays?
i was wondering about everyone's position about this as i plan to throw a huge make-up birthday party for each of my kids this year.
I love to celebrate birthdays,easter,xmas because we did before my parents became JWs.
My husband on the other hand has never experienced these celebrations and finds it difficult to relax and enjoy them. I plan on a huge xmas this year but my husband isnt so sure as he thinks we will be disfellowshipped even though we have been gone for 4 years. I dont care I LOVE IT ALL.
mercedes x
all to often, my mind drifts to my mixed feelings for my mother.
the deep love that burned in my heart for the woman who had given me life.. the suicidal remorse i felt for bringing such guilt and reproach on her good name.. the blinding anger i felt for her never questioning her beliefs, but always questioning her son.. and so i'm left with a vacuous emotional chamber for a large element that is missing from my soul.. and when you've lost your most valuable possesion, everything else is gravy on an empty plate - pointless.. and so i hurt too, and i love my mom, but does she love me?
the unanswered question haunts my mind.. we recieve, we give, and sometimes, we just plain screw up.
Hi Richie.
Keep showing your Mum you love her no matter what,and even if she doesnt respond the way you want,you will eventually have peace of mind knowing its not your or the fact that you dont want to be a JW anymore,but its a man made religion that makes parents act in an unnatural way towards their children.
You will find peace of mind,just give it some time.
Cheers Mercedes x
my parents are headed to the sydney convention this weekend.
she has told my sister this is the last assembly they will be having in this system.
the end is coming!.
My parents are headed to the Sydney Convention this weekend. She has told my Sister this is the last Assembly they will be having in this System. The end is coming!
Has anyone else had this said to them by relatives or friends after the assembly?
Could this be the special announcement?
Cheers Mercedes x
its been a long time since my last post and i had been enjoying it so much!.
tragedy has struck our family.
my jw elder father has been diagnosed with a very rare leukemia called multiple myeloma with amlyodosis.
Thankyou for all your comments especially Dansk. We are looking at a stem cell transplant as well which my father will have. He has started Chemo and has more next week then my parents will be going to a gruelling 3 day DC in Sydney. Im sure this will help his health!
My Mum is not coping well and is pushing us away. She is not talking to anyone about it not even her friends in the congregation.I am in touch with the Leukemia foundation so I will ask how to deal with helping my Mum.
Another question. My father told us he felt like a failure as a father because none of his kids stayed JWs. HE can see we all are genuinely happy and have done well in our lives. Should I talk to him about it or just spend as much time with him as I can?Or do you think hes making us feel guilty so well all come back before he dies?
Another thought; Being a JW we always had the hope of the resurrection,I dont know what to believe anymore and this isnt helping me cope very well as I fear I may never see my father again.Any thoughts would be appreciated.
Cheers Mercedes x
what's with the recent spate of folks saying goodbye, or giving swansongs?.
this is a webboard.
people come and people go.
I came here because I felt it was the only place to be were I could relate to other people and vice versa. Life is very busy and things get in the way,but I have always quickly looked at the latest discussions and see whats happening. It is refreshing and sometimes it gets me down when I see how much people have truly been hurt.
Thats why its nice to come and go as often as you can, to touch base,say hello,and mayby help someone just as many here have helped me tremendously without even realising it!
Cheers Mercedes x
no, i don't have this article yet, it will appear in the sep 1, 2006 wt.
it may even be a wt study article.. in the august 15 watchtower, the box "in our next issue" has three forthcoming articles, and one of them is "when a loved one leaves jehovah".
of interest, it's not when a loved one leaves the society, it's jehovah.. will keep you posted.
Its always implied that the ones who leave are the ones that divide the family!
My experience proved to me what a cult JW really are. As soon as you question or doubt or leave alltogether,you are on the outer. Your family will pick JW over you every time. My relationship with my parents is strained because I decide I no longer believed it. The tell you thats ok, you can decide your an adult,then the fun begins! No more playing happy families.
It breaks my heart when I see NORMAL WORDLY FAMILIES, who yes have the same problems as everyone, but can at least accept each other for who they are.
Its because of articles like this that makes me realise I made the best decision,and guess what: you can actually be happy!
Cheers Mercedes x
its been a long time since my last post and i had been enjoying it so much!.
tragedy has struck our family.
my jw elder father has been diagnosed with a very rare leukemia called multiple myeloma with amlyodosis.
Hello everyone again. Its been a long time since my last post and i had been enjoying it so much!
Tragedy has struck our family. My jw elder father has been diagnosed with a very rare leukemia called multiple myeloma with amlyodosis. It is uncurable but he could go into remission with blood and blood products,which he wont do of course.
My sisters and I are very frustrated as he is still trying to go to meetings,witnessing and next week go to the District Assembly. We had told our parents we arent happy with this as he leaves himself open to many infections as most witnesses will go to meetings sick!.Their answer to us is that the witnesses are their family too!
My dad has been sick for a few years which has led to this diagnosis. If he had the time to rest his body,instead of working flat out,being an elder etc etc,his body could have recovered some what.
Has anyone experienced this disease and been treated successfully without blood. I fear time is running out for him, I also fear the wt will change its view on the blood policy eventually(or just hoping) to a conscience matter but it may be too late for our father.
Your tthoughts appreciated and its nice to be back
Regards Mercedes x
yes i'm new to this forum and i have been searching the net and reading with interest peoples comments here and on other sites.
as most know reaching out as a faithfull jw to others outside of the congregation is difficult at first ,as i guess we think anyone outside the congregation is wordly etc.
and we can't open up easily to "strangers" as jehovah would not approve.
Welcome and its so great to see more aussies on board. Whats happening here in OZ land. I think many have woken up!
Mercedes x
