i would like some advice from any of you that have been there - a good friend of mine had an affair years ago, ended up working with the same guy and is now in love with her boyfriend instead of her husband ( several kids involved) the affair is now not a physical one but there is no doubt they are dating.
i wish i was unaware but i am - she says she has picked her family over the boyfriend but he is like a bumble bee around her- walking her dog past her house etc the boyfriend is older, married and has always been a tomcat - now he is truly in love and will wait.
i have told her it is going to blow up - and i know it is her deal to figure out - but i am from the happily married class and am at a loss.
so - what could my friend expect - the good and the bad? if she stays or goes
I come down hard on the side of staying married so i am trying to be able to give her a balanced view
anyone out there decide to stay and are now happy? anyone think i am Pollyanna?
i appreciate your thoughts very much -
i would like some advice from any of you that have been there - a good friend of mine had an affair years ago, ended up working with the same guy and is now in love with her boyfriend instead of her husband ( several kids involved) the affair is now not a physical one but there is no doubt they are dating.
i wish i was unaware but i am - she says she has picked her family over the boyfriend but he is like a bumble bee around her- walking her dog past her house etc the boyfriend is older, married and has always been a tomcat - now he is truly in love and will wait.
i have told her it is going to blow up - and i know it is her deal to figure out - but i am from the happily married class and am at a loss.
I would like some advice from any of you that have been there - a good friend of mine had an affair years ago, ended up working with the same guy and is now in love with her boyfriend instead of her husband ( several kids involved) The affair is now not a physical one but there is no doubt they are dating. I wish i was unaware but i am - she says she has picked her family over the boyfriend but he is like a bumble bee around her- walking her dog past her house etc The boyfriend is older, married and has always been a tomcat - now he is truly in love and will wait
I have told her it is going to blow up - and i know it is her deal to figure out - but I am from the happily married class and am at a loss. I have told her life is decisions and I believe that if she decides to be with her husband she can make it work - and be happy. i don't beleive she has looked at the "real life" drama this would be - it is not a movie
am i right? is divorce ever worth it if it is not for abuse -
why do jehovah witnesses say they abstain from using blood when they are now allowing their members to use certain blood fractions.
the answer i always get "if their concious allows them its ok it not for us to judge".
if that is the case, whole blood should also be allowed if their concious allows them to.
if blood became a strictly conscience decision - how would the "lifers" justify it?
The generation change became light getting brighter and brighter - and now the fact that we preached the 70 or 80 years and "this generation will by no means etc" has actually been, not exactly denied but my jw family gets a glazed over look and they just shake their heads, because I have been away from the org too long and no longer see the light as it gets brighter and brighter
it's a terrible thing to think, but could that happen with the blood issue? Will they just forget
personally, I am going to donate blood to the Red Cross (i've thought it for a while, but now that I have posted it, I plan to actually do it!) The scrip about the Isrealites selling unbled meat to the non beleivers is a pretty compelling reason to help others - PLUS I have a lot of jw family that now may say OK to fractions - and where else does it come from???
anyone else planning to ante up?
hello,
i am new to the forum and was just wondering if anyone is from the toronto area.
rubens
I have a brother in TO - i think he is kinda faded.....i always hope to see him post - you look a little like him if that is your pic
Welcome to the board!!
why do jehovah witnesses say they abstain from using blood when they are now allowing their members to use certain blood fractions.
the answer i always get "if their concious allows them its ok it not for us to judge".
if that is the case, whole blood should also be allowed if their concious allows them to.
my parents - 40 plus years in - are really having a hard time understanding this change. the new forms are confusing and they see the future - in a decade new jws won't even think this is a big deal and the "old" ones will be gone.
one of my siblings was at their house as my mom tried desperatly to decipher it - my dad did not want to talk about it in front of a faded jw but it was so sad to see them not sure what their Much Adored Borg was trying to tell them to do My dads comment was that it was the evil slave trying to make it sound worse than it was - yet they don't have a clue what the GB'd direction to them is
as my sibling said - you were never allowed to drink milk - but now cream, 2% or even skim is ok ??? They replied that it was tecnology making it an issue yet as my sibling said "if it is wrong,who cares about technology??? And what about the ones dfed, or dead" It was a huge conversation . although my parents have already forgotten it
i really feel for them - they are starting to see that the entire house of cards is falling- and they are starting to see that we really have to talk about the future and their wishes for funerals, wills, our disabled brother....their promised paradise is a sham and they have no one to help them as they are the "loyal" long terms witnesses trying to help others see a truth that isn't there
i'm really intrigued by that fact that i may know some of you and yet not know that i know you.
i just want to know how many people from canada are here.
if you don't mind and don't care about posting your province (cause i'm too timid to) we could all get an idea of just how many canucks are really out there.
Hi - I am from Saskatchewan- I also lived in Edmonton until we moved where the need was great in - you guessed it- 1975.
i decided to read for myself the articles my father and mother were reading during this interesting time in witness history.
i stumbled upon the following paragraph that scared the bejeezus out of me: .
"one thing is absolutely certain, bible chronology reinforced with fulfilled bible prophecy shows that six thousand years of mans existence will soon be up, yes, within this generation!
Re: Fred Franz and mental problems - did her have a diagnosed condition? or was he just a general cult leading nut?
okay, ever since i learned the truth about the org i stopped asking householders for donations.
i don't want them to support the worldwide work, or waste their money.. but, i was just wondering what the legal ramifications would be of asking for donations... and keeping them for myself.. i realise that i would have to change what i say... i wouldn't say: "if you'd like to make a small donation to the worldwide work i'd be happy to accept it.".
because that would be illegal, like keeping charity money or something.. i'd have to say something like: "if you'd like to make a contribution to cover the expenses, i'd be happy to accept it.
in Canada door to door charity drives are quite common- the volunteer wears (or at the very least has) an I.D. badge and a receipt is always written out for any donation - no matter the size the donation amount must be noted.
Does anyone have any idea how dubs get away with not giving receipts, or even being prepared for the possibility of being asked? All donations to non profit groups are tax deductable - but only with the receipt. The only other way would be like the Girl Guides who SELL cookies for a donation for their "world wide work" - very similiar to the JW at your door offering Free but not so free literature.
Unless I have been faded for so long that they actually DO give out receipts.
i have been dfd and divorced from the ex for six years now.
i have remarried and been living in a idyllic cabin by a year round creek all this time but i might have to move.
so i have been going through all my stuff and discarding what i can to lighten my moving load and reviewing every item, every picture, every little piece of paper.
thank you for sharing your story. it was beautiful. what an incredibly strong person you must be.
the kingdumb hall here in my area is right on a huge street with lots of traffic.
there is an empty lot to one side with a billboard that can be seen from the street.
if you are driving one way the bullboard is actually seen right in front of the kh....i wonder what it would take to advertise on the one side...its could say something like "are you the victim, or do you know victums of sexual child abuse?
i don't know the exact wording or publication but what about the quote about researching your religious beliefs and not being afraid to do so- then one line at the bottom with www.sixscreens.com
billboards are very inexpensive (in Canada anyway) - i'd send you my $50 - probably x10 more people would get you at least six weeks!
