I didn't read all the posts, so sorry if I'm repeating. I just wanted to make a quick comment. He tells me I am controlling (I don’t know why- I have no desire to control any body) he said he is emotional afraid of me -again I don’t know why.
This is classic. I think anytime someone says stuff like this, they're trying to manipulate you. Why would you feel suicidal if you were controlling him? Someone asked you if you'd read your own post. (Sorry, don't remember who it was.) How would you respond to a friend who wrote something like that to you? I'm so sorry you're in this mess.