Posts by freemindfade

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Urging More Lurkers To Sign Up

by freemindfade in

i have seen a lot of new posters intro stories on here, also updates from those who have been around for a while.

i just want to take 1 post to beg those reading to speak up.

it was a big turning point for me and one of the best decisions i made.

freemindfade

I just posted for that reason, seeing so many new posts. Want to lend to any momentum in any way we can.

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Beards

by pgjallan in

i left the witnesses.

returned full bearded, which drew censure from a district overseer: “peter, you can’t witness door-to-door with a beard”.

bewildered, i asked for an explanation.

Gay ex-Bethelite

by Chip Williamson in

just now finding this web site and have enjoyed reading the comments.

i've never written down my story and it could be a jerry springer episode but here goes.

i was raised as a jehovah's witness from as early as i can remember.

freemindfade

Welcome

glad you are able to live as your true self

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Advice needed

by Peony in

jw
friends

can someone tell me the scriptural basis (according to jw's) for shunning disassociated ones.

only asking because i don't remember (probably wasn't that interested) i'm sure the shunning in the scriptures was just applied to disfellowshipped.

i've only been out 3 years but i seem to have forgotten any scriptures or reasoning!

I suggest checking out the insight book, in a nutshell its basically "well big J's people would have stoned you to death, so this is a nice gift from the big guy that we only emotionally torture you" . "if we could we'd still stone you but he says no for now"

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Urging More Lurkers To Sign Up

by freemindfade in

i have seen a lot of new posters intro stories on here, also updates from those who have been around for a while.

i just want to take 1 post to beg those reading to speak up.

it was a big turning point for me and one of the best decisions i made.

freemindfade

Making you feel afraid and alone is (when you have a doubt or a concern) is a very powerful tool that is only real in your mind. To empower yourself, you need to see that you can speak with critics of ANYTHING, agree or disagree, and form your own conclusions. Its a power that's been taken away from many of us, and having a safe forum to open that door will help tremendously.

Its also a great place to throw down on controversial issues if you can take the heat lol.

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It is 5am and I still can't sleep. Contemplating life, doing research on religion, world history, science...

by Stepford Wife in

my husband is still asleep but he will get up in about an hour for work so i'm going to quickly tell you my inconclusive conclusion.

i don't know if i can believe in god anymore.

i have come to the simple conclusion that he is either dead or evil but he is definitely not loving.

freemindfade

I never slept better than when I came to terms with disbelief in God. Seeing the universe as an indifferent place (which used to seem like a terrifying thought) has been the most liberating.

I heard Imagine by John Lennon on the radio the other day, that song has a whole new meaning to me.

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Urging More Lurkers To Sign Up

by freemindfade in

i have seen a lot of new posters intro stories on here, also updates from those who have been around for a while.

i just want to take 1 post to beg those reading to speak up.

it was a big turning point for me and one of the best decisions i made.

freemindfade

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Fading is never 100% successful is it?

by nicolaou in

mum phoned last night to see how we all are.

after fifteen years away from meetings and my old jw life you'd think my fade could be called 'successful' and for the most part it is.

.. my resentment at being lied to and having wasted over thirty years of my life has left me like a glass of water full to the brim, it only takes a tap to make a mess.

freemindfade

It was an argument by proxy. So here I am after a sleepless night telling you guys about it at 4.30 in the morning.
It's never really over is it?

Don't feel bad Nicolau. No matter how far we get from it, or how much we grow and heel it will always be a part of who we were. In life we can't control the hand we are dealt, just the way we play it. You are playing it well to be where you are now. Don't let the inevitable resurfacing of this sh-t steal your peace for too long. Do something to celebrate how far you have come.

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Every Know Anyone Too "Weak" To Wake Up?

by freemindfade in

a jw that is probably irregular, they don't really attend meetings, they are not up on anything going on, they may even seem like they are faded but they are not, they are just slackers.

a jw that is impervious to the f.o.g.

(ok maybe it bums them, but they are too lazy and self serving to do otherwise).

freemindfade

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Every Know Anyone Too "Weak" To Wake Up?

by freemindfade in

a jw that is probably irregular, they don't really attend meetings, they are not up on anything going on, they may even seem like they are faded but they are not, they are just slackers.

a jw that is impervious to the f.o.g.

(ok maybe it bums them, but they are too lazy and self serving to do otherwise).

freemindfade

Sorry to hear that closer. I never thought I'd see my wife back off like she has. She had to honestly see the negative toll the religion took on me and one day things changed. I know for some it happens, for some it doesn't. But if you aren't happy in your life change can be a good thing. No one should hold on to a toxic situation forever. Hope you find some solutions.