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  Waking up - introduction

  by Dreamerdude in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i am a male, born into the jw cult(ure), baptized as a teen, now mid fifties.

  most of my life i dreamed of hugging pandas and lions, punctuated at times by nightmares of armageddon or jw drama and politics.

  still going through the motions for still-in wife.

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  freemindfade

  When you are ready to stop with the recruiting, just keep turning in time until you are ready to stop that. I don't want to encourage anything you aren't ready for but I would encourage to continually (and slowly) make progress out.

  If you continue being awesome to your wife, being a good person all around, and are more balanced an happy the further away you get, you never know how that might affect her. Its hard to ignore when someone is better and happier so embrace the change. I know a lot of people will say they are experiencing depression or anxiety or are discouraged in order to justify their fade (an honestly to each individual whats is right for them is right). I choose to take a different route.

  • my beliefs and actions are personal
  • I am happy and healthy
  • I don't have doubts about "the truth", i know all about it. (its a cult)

  No one who can't handle the truth about the truth with an open mind deserves any more explanation unless they are able to handle it. For instance now i am able to be more critical at times (although i do my best to refrain) and the wife will either passively make an alternative view point, agree, or say nothing. Where as these comments in the past would have sent her into a tail spin of CD panic.
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  2016 Convention Video Trailers

  by wifibandit in

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  2. beliefs

  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pkpr0je0g1e

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  freemindfade

  My thoughts

  1. Is this the witness version of breaking bad?
  2. Is the guy playing himself and the doctor?
  3. Can they just let these clowns grow their own bears already (disclaimer at the end, no beards were actually grown in the making of this movie)
  4. Just wow...
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  Waking up - introduction

  by Dreamerdude in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i am a male, born into the jw cult(ure), baptized as a teen, now mid fifties.

  most of my life i dreamed of hugging pandas and lions, punctuated at times by nightmares of armageddon or jw drama and politics.

  still going through the motions for still-in wife.

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  freemindfade

  Welcome!

  have you started fading at all?

  I ask because of going through hell with my wife for a few years, then my family, but the reaction of those to my fading has shaken my wife a bit. She is way more laid back, no longer a pioneer, and has glimpses of reason.
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  Why are witnesses all so highly stressed?

  by stuckinarut2 in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  witnesses are so anxious, stressed, highly strung..... so much for ones who are supposed to be "the happiest people"..... thoughts?.

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  freemindfade

  Just look at the identifying characteristics of a cult and living with each of those things causes and unnatural stress on a human mind.
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  Baby talk...

  by The Rebel in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  gee reading my earliest posts, i feel i arrived here needing a head transplant.

  of course we can't ban our earliest posts, and we can't claim we were misquoted, but then again think about it, many of us come here with geoffrey jacksons brains and mind control ruling our thinking.. so i looked back at my earlier posts, and i imagined the man i was who made them.

  to be honest i hardly recognized him, i feel infinitely a better and wiser less pious now, however i i don't feel so clever nor do i have such a deep religious faith.. anyway, the thread was made because i have often read posters past threads in order to get to know them better, but it never occurred to me to read my own past threads, and i learnt i am glad i had the guts to make my earlier posts, but the person that made them is in the far distant past.

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  freemindfade

  Only look back to see how far you have come.
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  Why are witnesses all so highly stressed?

  by stuckinarut2 in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  witnesses are so anxious, stressed, highly strung..... so much for ones who are supposed to be "the happiest people"..... thoughts?.

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  freemindfade

  Many reasons. Mainly the persecussion complex they carry. Go sit and listen to any public talk on a sunday. The first half will make you want to kill yourself because the world you live in is so "horrible".

  They also live in the worst prison. The prison of constantly worrying what other jws think or you and at the same time scrutinizing and policing them.
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  Leaving The Cult is Exactly Like This...

  by cofty in

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  freemindfade

  Just sent this same pic to some friends this morning. Its precise and simple. Love it
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  A troubling visit with a satisfying end.

  by Bonsai in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  so, i've been out for 2 years now.

  just picked up and walked away from the wacky religion that tried to control every part of my life through fear and guilt.

  i've been wondering as the months go by what would happen when an elder finally showed up at my door and pressed the issue as to why i ceased all activity and then tried to reactivate me.

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  Loose ends undermine their power

  You're all in? Great

  You're all out? Great

  Limbo? This leaves loose ends, someone has walked away without consequences, we can't have them appearing stable and happy this way, lets pressure them!!

  This is partly why I choose the fade, I feel its a constant kick in their balls, and when they act this way it is slowly opening my wife's eyes to the high pressure religion this is.
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  History of DF - Question

  by thedepressedsoul in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  from reading crisis of a conscience and members here, i have gathered that df was originally a means to cleanse bethel and stop apostates from spreading their own thinking inside the organization.

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  when did it also branch over to sinners that were struggling with an issue that relapsed on multiple occasions?

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  freemindfade

  
  The disfellowshipping practice did not become official policy of Jehovah’s Witnesses until the early 1950's. However, in 1947, just a few short years before the introduction of this policy, there was an article published in the Awake! magazine that criticized the Catholic Church for their practice of excommunication.
  In the early 1980's, in an effort to squash any form of dissent, the policy of extreme shunning of disfellowshipped members of the congregation was extended to include those who have disassociated themselves of their own accord from Jehovah’s Witnesses. Now, they were to be shunned, as well.
  Since at least the early 1980's there exists no civil way to leave the organization.
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  Newbie

  by Ryan in

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  2. friends

  hi, only just joined.

  going through a rough time at the moment and maybe this could help.

  any body around 27 year old age.

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  freemindfade

  It can be a bumpy ride, just listen to those with experience, take a deep breath and make educated choices as you go forward and there is glorious freedom on the other side! Welcome!