I do agree that there are many, many people who need the regimented lifestyle in order to feel good enough, or whatever. But I think there are an equal number who feel completely trapped, and don't have the skills to find their way out. The longer they stay in, the harder it is to leave. And imo, the worst part of the JWs is the fact that one can be so trapped. That's part of what makes it a cult.
GoingGoingGone, you are so right! Me (still in) and many others that surround me (I have mentioned this in another thread), but even Awake and Watchtower writers!!! One of them actually said to me (talking about this same issue):
"Look, it's like some people feel secure if they have bars on their windows. They couldn't sleep if they didn't have those mental bars. It keeps them secure...."
I thought to myself: What a crap! The same bars that keep others "secure", keep me trapped, imprisoned.....if you leave, you leave lots and lots of things behind....I thought only about this: I know that some JW tear appart the family pictures where they have an D'f person on it or even worser an apostate.......you wouldn't be on any family picture! Myself? Every single photo taken has something to do with this wonderful magic kingdom world.....It takes lot's of guts to pull the plug to it all.....or maybe, places like this!!!
Another brother said to me: "It's like a Poker game.....you started beting on the "end-is-near"-cards and put money on the table, as time goes on....you bet even more: family, house, job, carreer, education......YEARS OF YOUR LIFE, now there's so much on the table, that you would look like an idiot if you stand up and leave it "to the house"......you play the game...."
To me that isn't normal human behaviour. It's true what he said. Gamblers start sweating, know they've lost A LOT and their mind shuts up and they just continue the game....for no logical reason! Isn't it curious that there is a similarity between Gamblers and JW? They both loose family bonds, time, money, lifes...
Trojan.