there are a variety of ways i deal with nervousness depending on the level of anxiety.
i clean. obsessively - like the toothbrush comes out (not mine, but someone else's of course), q-tips for tight corners. i unscrew the sink taps and wash them (they really do get grimy). scrub tiny spots on the carpet. wash walls... oh my.
i play the piano - if it's nearby.
i strum the guitar (in an intimidating attempt to convince myself i can play - which actually adds to the anxiety).
then there are the times when going POSTAL (!!!) is the only thing that will help.
cry.
scream into a pillow.
and then, sometimes i roll a joint (then smoke it).
cal.
Calliope
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What do you do when you're really nervous? (new pic)
by MsMcDucket ini have this habit of cutting my hair.
the longest that i was able to let it grow was to the top of my shoulders.
man, that took a lot of reservation on my part..
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Do you ever get overwhelmed trying to sort your thoughts out ...
by troubled mind inmaybe i need to start a journal or something to help sort my thoughts .
it seems like right now i have to many things to deal with at once and i don't know how to slow down and take one issue at a time .
this past weekend i met a pastor from the church down the street .incredibily nice guy .
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i agree with both writing your thoughts down and therapy.
both have helped me tremendously.
writing things down organized my thoughts and provided direction. i could then choose and consider what needed attention. therapy provided further direction.
i also am pretty sure i suffer from A.D.D. (but possibly also hypochondria, so self-diagnosis is just a biproduct...) so writing my thoughts helps me concentrate.
best wishes in your path.
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Why jw's can't research UN, etc..
by carla init seems they can't research any of the scandals or misquotes, etc... not only because you may have to use apostate books or sites or even non apostate info but because the mere idea came from apostates.
how else you would you even think to look into the un, misquotes or any other of the numerous problems?
no need to confuse yourself with the truth.. still banging head against wall,.
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here's a little excerpt from discussions a wit-"friend" and i have been having.
setting the stage: i have told her that i've been assailed by monumental doubt and questions. she has agreed (because she is of the "pioneer slave class") to help me dispel these doubts. com'on isn't that sweet of her?
okay, so one issue i pointed out was:
"how can the light be getting brighter when there is a pattern of going back and forth over viewpoints and decisions (i.e. organ transplants)? how can there be room for error if the perfect holy spirit is propelling this organization forward?"
her reply?
"As for the Light getting brighter. I can certainly say that it is. These are a few examples. Back in the day Jehovah’s Witnesses celebrated Christmas, not realizing the ties it has with Babylonish false teachings. Smoking was banned in the 70’s because of the understanding of defilement of the flesh (2 Cor. 7:1). There used to be only one elder in every congregation, now there is a body of elders that can help each other. These are but a few."
ooooooohhhhhh! of course. well, these were apocalyptic turns in the history of the borg. let's just not mention things of greater import like the "new" understanding of this GENERATION?!??!?!
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MS friend visiting in August
by sinis inmy good friend who knows i have "strayed" from the truth, via my wife, will be visiting us in august.
i'm sure the conversation will eventually turn to "encouraging" me to go back since the "end is near".
can anyone suggest some concrete discussions that i could use to get him to think outside the box?
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egyptian and mayan civilizations pre-dating adam and eve.
that one gnawed at me for months.
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Slow Dance (poem)
by purplesofa inthought you all might like this poem.....:) i did not write it.......i think we can all relate .
you'd better slow down.. don't dance so fast.. time is short.
hear the music.
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i love this:
Life is not a race.
Do take it slower
Hear the music
Before the song is over.this is all there is.
calliopé
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Help Me with JW wife
by kwijibo inmy jw wife is trying to push me out of the family home.
i am an inactive jw for about 5 years and she has begun putting pressure on me to leave.
do you have any articles for me to fight her with?
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i want to be very sensitive to this issue, but there are some points i have difficulty empathizing with.
i would suggest you both sit down and TALK sans references from any "holy inspired" book. it doesn't seem to help if your conversations are peppered with:
"but the bible says this"
"the WT says that..."
talk like freely and openly, like when you first met...
all the best,
calliopé
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may i say hello?!?
by isthisit inhello my name is isthisit and i have a confession to make, i'm an active jw and not happy.
i am a lurker here and have to start posting.
i am 22 and have been "born and raised" as well as being 4th generation.
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welcome!
please do stay. there is so much to learn and such awesome friends to make.
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how do guys ask you out on a date these days?
by Calliope inever feel like you've been sequestered from normal human interaction for too long?.
since my split (from hubby), i've been wondering what the rules are these days.
in my earlier days, i was a partying stoner (well, a closet one) and i didn't date guys as much as end up in a closet or in a parked car, hot tub... okay you got the picture.. so, i've been email bantering back and forth with this guy i used to work with and yesterday, got this email:.
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turtleneck? good suggestion.
weather? got it!
thanks!!!
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how do guys ask you out on a date these days?
by Calliope inever feel like you've been sequestered from normal human interaction for too long?.
since my split (from hubby), i've been wondering what the rules are these days.
in my earlier days, i was a partying stoner (well, a closet one) and i didn't date guys as much as end up in a closet or in a parked car, hot tub... okay you got the picture.. so, i've been email bantering back and forth with this guy i used to work with and yesterday, got this email:.
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ever feel like you've been sequestered from normal human interaction for too long?
since my split (from hubby), i've been wondering what the rules are these days. in my earlier days, i was a partying stoner (well, a closet one) and i didn't date guys as much as end up in a closet or in a parked car, hot tub... okay you got the picture.
so, i've been email bantering back and forth with this guy i used to work with and yesterday, got this email:
If you'd like to get together for a drink some other time though,
that sure might be fun. I'll be going to "jazz club" on tuesday to
see a band. If you're not "jazz club-ed" out.. consider that?
Talk to you soon,this was in part, a reply to an email i'd sent him a couple days earlier inviting him to the same club. to get a better picture, i did see him at a concert recently with a girl (who of course, can be his sister or cousin, nothing-more-than platonic friend, maybe mother?). so there is that possibility that he already has a girlfriend.
so should i go to the club? should i go it alone or tag team with friends? should i be stoned? or high? stone-cold sober?
#$)(*$#%)(*&$ - this is so strange!
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Just introducing myself
by restrangled indear all,.
just wanted to say hello and tell you how much i have appreciated all your postings as a "lurker"...sorry.. short history, grew up in the 70's as a 3rd generation jw, elders daughter, dad left in the 80's, df'd at 16 and the decision was reversed after 90 days.
left when i was 18. i am now 48 and have suddenly been shunned by my mother even though i have supported her emotionally all these years never critisizing the wt, listening patiently to witnessing stories etc.
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welcome amy.
glad you joined us!
calliopé