Daisymay

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  Experiences: How you know it ain't the 'truth'

  by LDH in

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  please post your experiences here for any lurkers to read.

  when i was a teenager, there was a young lady early 20's who had moved into our cong.

  she had a newborn son and had just married her worldly boyfriend, the father of the baby.

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  There are kids out there so afraid of getting DF'ed that they never get baptised - that's me and a few of my old friend (former JW's). I knew from 3rd grade on that the truth wasn't for me. My mom had been DF'ed for divorcing my dad who was abusive to her and my little bro. We were alienated and treated like enemies by our closest friends and JW extended family members. My bro., sis, and I ended up living with my dad (his wife and her 2 kids) who was an elder also. She was a pioneer w/a racy and drug filled prior life - what conviction I swear! My dad grew up in a machismo world and wanted control - I was the submissive and obidient elder's daughter until around 13/14. At that point a girl really needs friends, slumber party's, movies, you know fun! I went to school, came home, did chores, homework and studied - i think we watched 1 hr. of TV. I didn't sneak out or sleep around - are you kidding - my dad was the gestapo! I did have a part-time job at 31-flavors - it was awesome! My dad made me quit b/c I had a boy friend and wouldn't break up with him (he barely got to 1st base!) I was given the title of Bad Association because I told my dad I didn't want to be a JW and that I didn't believe many of there teachings. It's sad that you can't be yourself - be on the track team, join an after school sport or play an instrument, receive dance lessons or whatever. I wasn't bad association. I was just growing up!

  Daisy
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  Where are we from.....

  by BobsGirl in

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  i know that this has been done before, but i am new to the board and i would like to get an idea of where everyone is located.

  as an aside .... plesantries or animosities, moderators or no, i am grateful to have this board.

  bobsgirl

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  Daisymay

  Grayslake, IL
  originally from Los Angeles, CA and Bishop, CA

  daisy
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  Well, Howdy, Yall :).wanted to introduce myself

  by Gimme3steps in

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  i found this place, purely by accident, and have been very amazed, at all of these touching, personal revelations, that many are sharing, here.

  i actually was doing a search, jus tryin to learn how michael jackson's appearance came to be so radically changed..(that's a whole nother topic, and i came away, feelin sorry for him, after all i read, but, another time ) and ran across this forum.

  im 41, was "raised" in the truth, my mother and her whole side of our family are long time witnesses, my father converted when i was around 4 years old.

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  Hey Gimme - welcome! I, like you, was raised in the "truth" and also escaped baptism (I will be 29 next month) - for other reasons of course (I never believed!), but we are lucky to have avoided so much more future anquish as you mentioned! It's great to have you with us!

  daisy
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  Never stop trying to get them out

  by Free2Bme in

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  i know there are people on this board who despite earnest efforts to reach the hearts of friends or family still in the wt org feel they have to give up or that they are flogging a dead horse.. someone very close to me is preparing herself to leave.

  her heart has already left.

  she finally sees the true colours of the organisation she has faithfully followed for over 30 years.. but it has not been easy or swift.

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  Hey Free2BeMe, Your story gives such hope! I applaud you and your friend - what a journey! My step-sister recently returned to the borg (and after all that we've been thru!) and said to me that her husband would soon be baptised - lucky guy! :) I hope that thru my example they can see what a fulfilling life we can have outside of the JW's, but could use some tips. LOL
  daisy
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  When and where baptized

  by drahcir yarrum in

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  i thought it might be interesting to see how many here remember where and when they were baptised into the borg.

  for some the memory may be too painful, but i'm curious.. me.

  it was 1966 in vancouver, bc.

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  Never!!! I was too fast, they couldn't catch me!
  LOL!
  daisy
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  We don't baptize children, do we?

  by Kent in

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  jehovah's witnesses convene in biloxi .

  by christine harvey .

  the sun herald .

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  Daisymay

  I was raised a JW (out now for 10 + yr.s). Even though I never considered myself a JW, (even as a kid) - I could see the short-term benefits of getting baptised. The baptised kids actually had more freedom - I mean they didn't have to prove themselves anymore, people looked up to them as great examples (some were almost on pedestals), they weren't watched and spyed on. Some baptised kids acted and talked just like the rest of us trouble makers when in private. However, the short-term benefits couldn't out-weigh the downside as all of you have mentioned. Another JW friend and I made a promise to eachother long ago (I was 14, she 16) that we would never get baptised, no matter what the costs - we kept our promise to eachother and ourselves to this day!
  Later!
  daisy
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  Disfellowshipped Counted?

  by YHWHWho in

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  my brother was just here and of course since we are both disfellowshipped we have nothing better to talk about than jw bs.

  so as he understands it those of us that are disfellowshipped are still counted as jw's by the society.

  on one hand i could understand the math.

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  DF'ed or non-believers (anyone not annointed) who would partake were not counted in my old congregation - bishop, CA.
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  Timewasting guide to Field Service.

  by philo in

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  here's my list of experiences and comments about time-wasting on dub field ministry.

  it's a bit raw; sorry i haven't prosed it up.. -------------------------------------------------------------.

  taking a personal interest in the householder.

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  Can I just tell you guys that a non-JW has no idea what it's like to have to go out in field-service and just talking about our common experiences makes me as giddy as a school girl! :) These stories are cracking me up! Hey and you know what, now that I think about it, my dad - the self-rightous elder that he was, used to do some of the things you guys are talking about - walking slowly or visiting another JW family that lived in the area - pretty hilarious!!

  later!
  daisy
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  Lost in Suicide

  by Stacey in

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  i am very sad this morning.. i just found out this morning that a man that i grew up with and have known since i was a very young girl commited suicide earlier this week.

  i had not seen him in 11 years, since i left the kingdom hall for the last time.

  he was about 5 years older than me.

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  Stacey - So sorry to hear of your loss. My thoughts are with you at this very difficult time.

  daisy

  Don't forget the good times with your friend, I'm sure he appreciated you and your friendship!
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  Timewasting guide to Field Service.

  by philo in

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  here's my list of experiences and comments about time-wasting on dub field ministry.

  it's a bit raw; sorry i haven't prosed it up.. -------------------------------------------------------------.

  taking a personal interest in the householder.

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  I love your storys! They seem like yesterday, thankfully that was like 12 years ago for me! As a kid, if another kid was allowed to go with me (instead of an adult), we would just go to each house and silently knock on the door and wait and wait and wait and then silently knock again - for some reason - no one was ever home at our houses! ;)

  daisy