Daisymay

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  Motives

  by msil in

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  what are your motives for being here?.

  1. to get information.

  2. to slam the wtbs at every opportunity.

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  Daisymay

  #1 and #3 (but only if they express a desire to get out)

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  should I Respond to judgment panel after 14 years?

  by sennabrasil94 in

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  it's been 14 years since i was anathmatised at 17 years of age, i was never baptised but they still marked me as dissaproved asociation,it had the same effect as being dissfellowshiped.

  this tore my family apart i was satan's child acording to my stepfather want-a-be.

  the elders suggested that because i was haveing sexual relations with worldy girls and drinking that it would lead to drug addition jail and homosexuality and destruction at armageton.

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  Senna - you've received great responses by those of us who have traveled in shoes like yours... :) Bottom line, do what you think is right for you and when it is right for you, but DO it. I mean, try writing everything down - if you feel better - awesome, if that doesn't do it for you, then maybe you should confront them - and you've been given great advise in regards to confronting elders. But in the end, you'll feel so much better having done it your way and moving on afterwards is key to your happiness. Welcome and look forward to hearing from you!
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  no kids policy

  by Daisymay in

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  has anyone else heard of the org.

  convincing couples not to have children since this world is so "evil" and armagedon was coming so soon and why not wait until after it is over?.

  many new couples were told this and those families that kept conceiving were talked about behind their backs.... daisy

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  Has anyone else heard of the org. convincing couples not to have children since this world is so "evil" and Armagedon was coming so soon and why not wait until after it is over?

  Many new couples were told this and those families that kept conceiving were talked about behind their backs...

  daisy
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  Husband to meet the enemy

  by Daisymay in

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  i will be traveling to ca w/my husband soon.

  for part of the trip, we plan to stay w/ my jw aunt and uncle.

  they are very supportive of me and i'm still their favorite niece - even though i am technically "bad association".

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  thanks for the advise - I don't think there is a big threat, but just in case.... I don't want them planting seeds! I am going to print out your suggested questions and fill him in before they get a chance.
  thanks again!
  daisy
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  Husband to meet the enemy

  by Daisymay in

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  i will be traveling to ca w/my husband soon.

  for part of the trip, we plan to stay w/ my jw aunt and uncle.

  they are very supportive of me and i'm still their favorite niece - even though i am technically "bad association".

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  I will be traveling to CA w/my husband soon. For part of the trip, we plan to stay w/ my JW aunt and uncle. They are very supportive of me and I'm still their favorite niece - even though I am technically "bad association". They do not witness or preach to me, but my concern is for my husband. What if they turn him onto their false beliefs? He doesn't believe in organized religion, but as so many in "the world" is in no way prepared to spar with a JW...your advise would be greatly appreciated!
  daisy
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  Can anyone help me?

  by aud8 in

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  can anyone out there ease my mind?

  i am about to disassociate myself and feel so scared.

  what if i'm making the wrong decision?

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  Wondering alot and Simon have great points - disassociating yourself is making it easier for the org. It helps them validad that there is something wrong with your departure. If you are still considering leaving the org. - stop attending mtg.s and do some research on your own - if you still think JW's are the way to go - no harm done.
  You create your own reality!
  daisymay
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  Elder's Daughter

  by Daisymay in

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  greetings and salutations!

  i've commented a couple times on this post and have hung around for a few weeks and thought i'd tell you a little about myself!

  btw...i think this site is awesome and totally therapetic!

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  You guys have no idea what your responses mean to me! Growing up, although I had "wordly" friends at school, I never felt included or part of the group - I know you know what I mean, I always felt different. Your words are so uplifting! I feel like we've been through some type of spiritual abuse. Really, I don't know what kept me going when thoughts of running away and suicide were a reality - I guess I learned a lot from my mother - you know, not to let other people run your life - you can create your own reality. It was a sad time and outnfree - your right, I do feel guilty about what my dad did to my bro. My bro and I have talked about it many times and he knows how I feel and let's me know it's all in my head. I'm so glad we've got this forum - it is just what the dr. ordered - I look forward to seeing your responses everyday! Talk to you soon!
  daisy
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  Elder's Daughter

  by Daisymay in

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  greetings and salutations!

  i've commented a couple times on this post and have hung around for a few weeks and thought i'd tell you a little about myself!

  btw...i think this site is awesome and totally therapetic!

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  Greetings and Salutations! I've commented a couple times on this post and have hung around for a few weeks and thought I'd tell you a little about myself! BTW...I think this site is awesome and totally therapetic! Anyway, I was raised in the "truth", my mom married my dad at the ripe ole' age of 16 and had 3 kids by the time she was 22! My parents were married 10 years until my mom left my dad for mental abuse to her and physical abuse to my brother. My father was a control freak - he wouldn't let her get a GED or part-time job, etc. My mom was DF'ed for divorcing my dad for other than adulterous reasons. I was only in 3rd grade at the time, but I distinctly remember our "friends" and family shunning us, walking away from my mother, and looking the other way when we approached them. 6 months later, my father re-married a Witness who had 2 kids and gained custody of me, my bro, and sis. He eventually became an Elder who yielded his control expertly. He was very respected in the cong., very funny, and charismatic. At home it was a different story, my family covered up the physical abuse to my brother until one day when I had had enough. I wrote a very vivid letter to my mom describing the beating my bro. was receiving that very moment. My mom forwarded the letter to the cong. and our school. The brothers held a shepherding call at the house w/my dad and step-mom and the issue was blown off. They didn't even consider talking to any of us kids. The school held a mtg. w/my bro. and dad at which my dad started laughing at the insinuation of abuse, and the issue was dropped. The abuse let off a little after that. As I later learned in a Victomology class, the only way abuse can exist in a home is if everyone does their part to keep the secret. I told my father I didn't want to be a JW and he said I was making him look bad and wasn't being an obedient Elder's daughter - what would other's think after-all? I had a "wordly" b-friend at the time - any parent would have loved this guy! A friend of mine in the cong. and I agreed we would never get baptised since that would only lead to being DF'ed - we held up our deal - neither one of us ever got baptised - as you know a MAJOR accomplishment for any JW teen. My father died of cancer shortly after my 16th b-day. My bro, sis., and I moved to WI to live with my mother. The brothers made a visit to our house - the one and only - I told them thank you for the visit and if they ever contacted any one of us kids again my mom would never see us. My mom looked at me and walked them out the door. They never came back. I am so happy to read all of your stories - I feel like a part of a community. When I went to the assemblies and saw "apostates" with signs I would never look - I was so afraid, but now it's so different - it is like a veil has been lifted - and forever! I am also happy to say that I went on to graduate from college and am married to a great person!
  Daisy
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  Which meeting was the hardest to attend for you ?

  by NoLongerAjw in

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  for me i think it was the sunday meeting.. just wanting to stay home and sleep in.. but i think the watchtower study was the hardest to sit threw... you had to have it studied before hand.. and highlighted.. then sit there and listen to it all over again..

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  Kinda new here, but what a walk down memory lane! God I hated going out in service - it was the worst, I agree on the sunday mtg's they were soo boring! And enevitably, my dad (the loyal elder) would always say to us kids, "So whoever is going out in service let's go" and I would be like - "yeah, right i'm going home" and then after the usual threats off we would merrily go! How nice it would have been to just sleep in and watch cartoons!

  Thanks for the memories! ;)

  Daisy
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  HELLO? HELLO? "ALL" SIGN IN???????

  by waiting in

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  simon did away with the sex forum - so i must take the tradional route and post under "make new friends.

  " how mundane!.

  fyi ---- for all of us, please take the time to write a sentence or two about yourselves, and encourage new ones to do the same.

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  Hi, I'm new! My JW story...My parents were converted young and married just as young at 16 - Mom and 23 - Dad. My mom left my dad (who was mentally/physically abusive) and she was DF'ed as a result. My younger sis, bro and I were raised by my father who was an elder and his wife - a very strict poineer in the Sierra Nevada's. I always apposed the org. for abandoning my mom w/the Disfellowshipping. My family was under constant physical threat from my father, so true resistance was not possible. I am truly thankful I was never baptised - a friend of mine in the congregation and I promised each other we would never do it b/c we knew we would be DF'ed eventually. Many kids got baptised to please their parents or look good to the cog. My father died at 41 of cancer and my siblings and I moved to WI to live w/my mom (I was 16 yr.s). A large price to pay for freedom. The WI elders came to visit and I told them thanks for the visit, don't ever come back again b/c my mom would never see us again (although she was DF'ed she still remains sympathetic) - she told them - you heard her, don't come back. So now I am happily married at 27 in Chicago, none of my immediate family is in "the truth" although some of my extended family is. I have recently begun to investigate the JW's as a cult - very liberating info.
  Nice to be here!
  Daisymay