i'm curious, when you made your decision to leave the org.
did you do it before or after looking at this kind of internet sites?.
in my case i made my decision without ever looking any of this websites.
I'm curious, when you made your decision to leave the org.
Did you do it before or after looking at this kind of internet sites?
In my case I made my decision without ever looking any of this websites. It was two weeks after my decision that I started to log on and see what it was that the WT was so affraid of.
background
i have been fading away, and considered fully "inactive" for over 2 years now.
my wife is still a very active jw, and she brings my 2 children (5 & 3) to the meetings and service on a regular basis.
This is what my husband did.
He never opposed to me directly but he made it clear that he did not want the kids to suffer the trauma of being "different" in school, I can take them to meetings only if they were not forced to go, He would cook for them (or go out ) on Saturday mornings so kids always look forward to that day and I will go to field service by myself. He would plan to go out every other weekend.
Also tell your wife that the one who is dedicated is the adult not the kids, so if they haven't made that choice we shouldn't do it for them.
Enroll them in sports. That will keep them busy.
Assure her that if the elders question her about the kids activities she wont be in trouble because you are the head of the house and you are the ultimate responsible. And if the elders want to know anything send them to talk to you.
By the way, my kids are 18 and 16, never baptized
They stop attending to the meetings about 3 years ago / they were never publishers
And thinking back, I guess, deep inside of me I wanted the same for my kids because I never opposed to anything and I always supported them on their academic and sport activities.
my wife and i have been married for over 10 years and we have three sons.
she grew up in a jw family.
he sisters, brother, mother, aunts, uncles and other extended family are mostly jw.
Do not challenge her openly. Try to involved the kids on sports. They practice a lot, so that means that most of the meetings days they will be busy with practice. But keep in mind that this involves a lot of effort from your part, don't expect that she wont take them to the meetings just because you said so! You need to take an active role and find activities for the kids on those days.
up to last month i was a witness in "good" standing in the cong.
i was not from the elite circle but everybody respects me and a lot of people go to me for advice or comfort when they feel left out by "holy ones".
so, i don't know if i made a mistake by cutting all jw activities at once because now i think i'm the topic of the conversation and phone calls already started to come this past weekend.
I don't have any family members in just some far away relatives that I may see once a year. My husband hasn't been to any meetings for more than 7 years. My kids were raised under the premise that religion was something very personal and that I was teaching them what I thought was correct but they were never forced to go to meetings. They don't attend now mainly because school work keep them busy.
After hearing all this comments I think I'm in the right track.
up to last month i was a witness in "good" standing in the cong.
i was not from the elite circle but everybody respects me and a lot of people go to me for advice or comfort when they feel left out by "holy ones".
so, i don't know if i made a mistake by cutting all jw activities at once because now i think i'm the topic of the conversation and phone calls already started to come this past weekend.
I think I have a pretty good chance to still keep her as a friend because she has a family member who has been df and I had always been nice to that family member and to her, and she had always told me how much that ment to her.
up to last month i was a witness in "good" standing in the cong.
i was not from the elite circle but everybody respects me and a lot of people go to me for advice or comfort when they feel left out by "holy ones".
so, i don't know if i made a mistake by cutting all jw activities at once because now i think i'm the topic of the conversation and phone calls already started to come this past weekend.
Thank you all!
You have good sense of humor Johnny
up to last month i was a witness in "good" standing in the cong.
i was not from the elite circle but everybody respects me and a lot of people go to me for advice or comfort when they feel left out by "holy ones".
so, i don't know if i made a mistake by cutting all jw activities at once because now i think i'm the topic of the conversation and phone calls already started to come this past weekend.
That friend of mine in whom I confided, she seems to understand me but at the end of our conversations she always throw the frase "you are smart and I know you will comeback"
How can I answer to her without hurting her feelings she is the only one who I really care about, she is like my second mother.
up to last month i was a witness in "good" standing in the cong.
i was not from the elite circle but everybody respects me and a lot of people go to me for advice or comfort when they feel left out by "holy ones".
so, i don't know if i made a mistake by cutting all jw activities at once because now i think i'm the topic of the conversation and phone calls already started to come this past weekend.
Up to last month I was a witness in "good" standing in the cong. I was not from the elite circle but everybody respects me and a lot of people go to me for advice or comfort when they feel left out by "holy ones". So, I don't know if I made a mistake by cutting all JW activities at once because now I think I'm the topic of the conversation and phone calls already started to come this past weekend.
A good friend of mine to whom I confided about my reasons for not attending did a pretty good job on holding them for about 3 weeks she just told the that I needed my space and that it was only a temporal decision.
So, now I don't know exactly how am I going to handle this and what the consecuenses going to be.
(excuse my grammar/ english is my second language)
i just realized that my last post was number 1974 and i felt compelled to make number 1975 significant enough to deserve being named after that "marked" year.
however, i can't come up with anything.
i could tell you armageddon will come during this post but you'd be skeptical, i'm sure.
You are going to be told by the master of this website that your 1975 click never existed, it never appeared on your computer that you came to that conclusion on your own and if you sold your house or business or posponed your education, well, too bad!!! now you have to start all over and wait another hundred years!!!!
i was talking to a longtime faithful japanese jw who said that recently there are many young witnesses going to university.
" what about the recent dc and circuit assembly talks as well as the watchtowers, very firmly discouraging college.
the reply was " yes they are hearing but not doing "
not in my cong. They always manage to say in EVERY meeting that going to college is not good. There are 3 or 4 candidates for college but elders don't leave them alone. I though english speaking cong. were more tolerant than spanish ones? (and I even considered once to move to one of them) But with all I'm reading here it seems that they are all the same everywhere!!
