my wife and i have been married 6 years now.
she was a jw when we married as is her entire family.
i was, and still am, very attracted to her because of the way she carries herself and her compassion.. i would like anyone who has had a similar experiance or was a jw to better help me understand what is going on in their heads when it comes to birthdays and such.
I also asked my wife if she felt she could find Christ without the wt and all the other books they are given to read. Just the Bible.
She said she could. So I asked her, why can't I??? Still awaiting an answer.
You guys are right, this is going to be tough.
my wife and i have been married 6 years now.
she was a jw when we married as is her entire family.
i was, and still am, very attracted to her because of the way she carries herself and her compassion.. i would like anyone who has had a similar experiance or was a jw to better help me understand what is going on in their heads when it comes to birthdays and such.
Well, MegaDude was right. My wife is baptised and her sister is not. I kept asking questions until she explained it to me. As best she could. Still does not make sense. She also told me in the process of the conversation that if she met me today she would not marry me. Even though she says I have been a great husband, respected, and loved her like no one else, she has different priorities in life now, and marring a UBM would not be something she would do. That was pretty hard to hear. I keep telling myself that thats not her talking, but the jw talking.
i am friends with a girl at work, even though she is the union steward and i am management.
we have a high regard and respect for one another.
she was also raised a jw but left as a teen.
Yes Virgochik, there is some one in heaven who cares.
Your post caught my attention, but I was not sure what to say. However, this story kept coming to mind.
When I was 19, my mother caught my father haveing an affair. My father was a powerful man, in charge of his house, in charge of everyone in it. He also was in charge of the religous teachings. I was a daddy's boy. My father could do no wrong in my eyes. My father had raised us boys to fear God and walk the straigh and narrow.
Imagine my shock when I got the phone call from my mother telling me of the affair. I was crushed. I looked up to him. He taught me all I knew about right and wrong.
Driving home from work one day I suddenly thought, "what if all he taught me was wrong? How do I know.?" No sooner than this thought crossed my mind did an answer come. I knew these things I was taught were correct because I KNEW. The teacher may have done wrong, but that did not mean the truth he spoke was wrong. He connected me with the source. He was not important. Right than I knew that there was someone looking out for me. He could have let me doubt, start sliding down a slippery slope, but He didn't. I have never again wondered. I just knew. He wanted me. I'm not quite sure why He would want me with some of the things I have done, but thats another story.
Don't feel bad about wondering. We have many battles to fight, and one is doubt of His existance. Fight well.
my wife and i have been married 6 years now.
she was a jw when we married as is her entire family.
i was, and still am, very attracted to her because of the way she carries herself and her compassion.. i would like anyone who has had a similar experiance or was a jw to better help me understand what is going on in their heads when it comes to birthdays and such.
Well, there is a lot of info from you all. Thanks so much.
Maybe I should give a little background on my situation.
My wife and i have been married 6 years and we have no children. (I would like to though) She did not even tell me she was a jw untill our third or fourth date. I have asked her several times why she went against her religion and parents in dating and marrying me and all I get is "I could see you were a good man" But when I press her she will finally admit that she still sees me as an unbeliever. Enough to make your head explode.
She was active when we met and has been active since. In the beginning I went to the hall with her every now and then to show her that I was not threatened by her being a jw, and that I was open to learning. I had had previous experiances with jws growing up as my father loved to engage them in conversation when they visited our house. He would often include me in the conversations. These people were a bit more orthodox than my wife.
She and I agree on most things, and I would marry her again if given the chance. I have just been going with the flow I guess till lately. Her unwillingness to discuss issues for long and seemingly blind following is beginning to disturb me more. Recently, my mother whom I have lived far from for the last 15 years moved back to the state. Her birthday came about and I told my wife that I would like her to go with me to take my mother out to dinner. No party, no singing"Happy Birthday" just dinner.
Fat chance. She made it sound like she would be committing a cardinal sin.
Another thing that struck me as strange is that her parents told me before we were married that they would not be able to attend or participate in any wedding or reception. Fine with me. We went to Jamaica and had a wonderful time. My wife smiling in our wedding photos in a garden in Jamaica is the most beautiful thing I have ever seen. We came back and a couple of months later my wife graduated from college. Her family had a graduation party. A couple of days prior my mother in law pulls me aside and says the party is also a celebration of our wedding. Nothing in the party said anything about our wedding, but I just smiled to myself and said nothing.
A year later my sister in law marries another UBM. In my in-laws living room. Married by a BAPTIST pastor. They went on their honeymoon, and when they came back there was a reception. ATTENDED BY 10-15 OTHER JWS FROM THE HALL. Imagine my suprise.
Now belive it or not I have no hard feelings for my in-laws for this reversal. But what about my wife???? I asked her how she felt about it and she said she was fine with it because she is a private person anyway. But that had to hurt. She does not talk about it at all.
So does this sound screwed up to you too? My wife can marry an UBM, but can't go to dinner for my mothers birthday.
My in laws stay as far away from publicly celebrating our marriage as possible, and have a regular shin-dig for the other daughter.
Folks I have been so quiet about everything for so long. I speak my mind about everything else,and everyone knows that about me. I don't want to be quiet anymore, but I pray to be led in the right direction.
my wife and i have been married 6 years now.
she was a jw when we married as is her entire family.
i was, and still am, very attracted to her because of the way she carries herself and her compassion.. i would like anyone who has had a similar experiance or was a jw to better help me understand what is going on in their heads when it comes to birthdays and such.
Thanks for the crash course Carla, and your kind words.
Yes, I married her knowing she was a jw. I think it depends on the congregation as to how bad it is. I have met some from other halls that made my ears bleed, but none from my wifes.
I also think that my making myself clear from the start helps too.
I really hope your situation ends well, and I am sure we will talk more in the future.
(I own my own business and its way past my bedtime)
my wife and i have been married 6 years now.
she was a jw when we married as is her entire family.
i was, and still am, very attracted to her because of the way she carries herself and her compassion.. i would like anyone who has had a similar experiance or was a jw to better help me understand what is going on in their heads when it comes to birthdays and such.
I will read more on this site. I am interested in learning what made others leave the JW's. I get very little info from my wife. Whenever I start a conversation, just a conversation, she gets very quiet. I really think she does not know the answer to many of the questions I ask.
My biggest fear is that I do not want to wipe out a base of beliefs that she has been living by her entire life and not have something to take its place. I am a very spiritual person and am working to better my relationship with Christ, but perfect I am not.
my wife and i have been married 6 years now.
she was a jw when we married as is her entire family.
i was, and still am, very attracted to her because of the way she carries herself and her compassion.. i would like anyone who has had a similar experiance or was a jw to better help me understand what is going on in their heads when it comes to birthdays and such.
Thanks everyone for your welcome.
For six years I have questioned my wife about birthdays, and never have I been told that. I wonder if she eve knows.
Birthdays are no big thing to me, so it has not been a sore spot, just a question.
But it seems like a very nit-picky reason to not celebrate birthdays. Almost like looking for rules for followers to live by.
my wife and i have been married 6 years now.
she was a jw when we married as is her entire family.
i was, and still am, very attracted to her because of the way she carries herself and her compassion.. i would like anyone who has had a similar experiance or was a jw to better help me understand what is going on in their heads when it comes to birthdays and such.
Ok, I just found this site about an hour ago. UMB??????
my wife and i have been married 6 years now.
she was a jw when we married as is her entire family.
i was, and still am, very attracted to her because of the way she carries herself and her compassion.. i would like anyone who has had a similar experiance or was a jw to better help me understand what is going on in their heads when it comes to birthdays and such.
My wife and i have been married 6 years now. She was a JW when we married as is her entire family. I was, and still am, very attracted to her because of the way she carries herself and her compassion.
I would like anyone who has had a similar experiance or was a JW to better help me understand what is going on in their heads when it comes to birthdays and such. My wife will celebrate anniversiries but not birthdays......??????? I have never been able to get a straight answer as to why.
She is a great wife and her family has never tried to pressure me to join. Maybe because when I went to her parents to ask for her hand, I made it clear than that I had no intentions of ever becoming a JW.
I love my wife dearly, but I am becoming more and more wary of her dependance on the JW organixation and the watchtowers, rather than Christ.
Any info would be appreciated.
