AudeSapere

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  Why has there never been a manual for wives of elders if the FDS cares so much for families

  by life is to short in

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  there could be such chapters as.

  1 how to raise children in the "truth" without a husband.. 2 how to not feel hurt when your husband ignores you during the meetings and talks to everyone else.. 3 how to handle your husband rushing with anther elder off to be with some poor depressed sister or family night after night when you are depressed yourself.. 4 what to do with yourself when you husband has talks out and he is busy gabbing with the other elders and you are standing alone watching the sisters stare but never coming over to talk to you as you stand there stupidly.. 5 how to handle the rude phone calls of members of the hall demanding your husband come over right now!.

  6 how to explain to your children why their father is helping other families and has no time to spend with them.. 7 how to explain to your children that a quick build is more important than they are.. 8 how to explain to neighbors and coworkers why your husband is always busy with the congregation and can never help you around the house.. my husband and i were talking the other day and he brought up again that the wives of elders should consider the cost of marring an elder.. i never knew before we were married what it was truly like.

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  AudeSapere

  That's funny - because it's so true~!!

  And the sitting in the cold car with kids until 11:00pm on a school night? Seriously. What's up with that??? Take two cars seems like a reasonable solution. Right? WRONG. We are a family so we ride together. And it wastes gas. So the 3 school-aged kids can bundle up and bring their homework to the hall to do while dad is in yet another meeting. Bring gloves because it's too hard to write your report while wearing mittens. The baby is hungry and cold and tired so mommy will have to try to keep baby from crying so not able to help the older kids with their homework.

  Hitch a ride home with someone else? Nope. There's not enough room in the car for everyone. Besides, the meeting should only be ten, fifteen, 30 minutes, an hour at most. Well, it won't be too long. Besides it's important. More important than the elder's kids, and certainly more important than their sleep and education. Get home by midnight and the kids can still have 5 hours to sleep before that test Friday morning. They can catch up on sleep over the weekend. Ummm. No that won't work because we have service Saturday morning. Sunday. No. Meeting for service at our house so everyone up early to clean the house and prep for Sunday Field Service. Oh well. Get over it. Quit your bitching and be a good example to the cong.

  I remember those cold and lonely nights. Many times we hadn't even eaten dinner so were hungry to boot.

  And this was probably just a spelling error, but could also be a freudian slip:

  the wives of elders should consider the cost of marring an elder.

  -Aude.
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  New Facebook Rule for JWs?

  by wifeofjw in

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  just about everyone in the hall my husband attends is deleting their facebook account.

  he just cam back from a ms meeting.

  what's the deal?.

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  My staunch JW sister has a facebook account but has ignored my 4 friend invites over the past 2 years.

  She has just 13 friends (mostly our non-jw relatives) and a few of her JW friends that she's known for years.

  I think she joined just to soften up to the non-jw relatives so they and her workmates don't think she is in a cult.

  She is middle-aged and thinks it's cool to not post on social networking sites.

  -Aude.
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  New Facebook Rule for JWs?

  by wifeofjw in

  1. jw
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  just about everyone in the hall my husband attends is deleting their facebook account.

  he just cam back from a ms meeting.

  what's the deal?.

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  AudeSapere

  {double post}
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  Creepy Talks

  by d in

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  do any of you remeber any talks that were creepy in nature.for example i remember a talk where a brother said "when the end comes your friends and family will be against you" now if that is not crazy i don't know what is.i remember alot of talks regarding bible prophecy and the end times.all of this did not help reinforce the sense of fear since it was 2007-2008 and the united states was going through a recession.this just proved to be fuel for their talks.give good experiences of any talks that you have had that proved to be either weird or very creepy..

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  Two popular 'Out Talks' that my dad used to give were already mentioned in this thread: 'A Godly View of Sex and Marriage' and 'Deliver Us From the Wicked One'.

  Deliver Us from the Wicked One was about demons. I almost always went with him when he gave that talk. The other one... Not so much.

  I wish I could remember the subject of the talk at the last regular meeting I attended. The talk that I got up and walked out of. I'm not sure if the subject matter itself was creepy of just the delivery style of the speaker. Regardless, I was creeped out and could not sit in my seat and participate anymore. I can see the speaker's face but cannot remember his name.

  -Aude.
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  Help this girl

  by behemot in

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  http://www.yiyu.us/this-is-going-to-sound-really-dumb-to-jehovahs-witnesses-only/.

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  AudeSapere

  Sometimes it is enough to

  (a) suggest her feeling are normal and not something that FS can 'fix'

  (b) tell her about the website so she can file it in her mind for when something upsets her about the WTS/Congo

  (c) know that single available and desiring marriage Brothers are slim pickings!

  You planted a few seeds. Give them a little time to germinate.

  -Aude.
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  Kent Sate masscre

  by d in

  1. jw
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  since this the 40 yr anniversity of the shooting.how did feel about the shootings as a jw do you see as the sign of the end times?were you scared about inpending perscution or revolution in this country.

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  AudeSapere

  wannabefree wrote: Did the organization use this as an educational message to teach about the bad things that can happen to people who go to universities?

  I don't personally recall the org itself using this as a reason to not go to university. However, I *have* heard individual JWs reference this and other sordid news reports to emphasize the 'college is bad' belief.

  Additionally, around 1985 I was in service with a young elder's wife. Householder refused to speak to us on basis of JW failure to participate in military. Her son was killed in war and she somehow felt betrayed (??) by JWs. (Or jealous or that if there would have been better support...)

  As we were leaving the doorstep, the young elder's wife said: "Well you can be absolutely *sure* that it wasn't one of Jehovah's witnesses that killed your son."

  *sigh* crazy times.

  -Aude.
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  Kent Sate masscre

  by d in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  since this the 40 yr anniversity of the shooting.how did feel about the shootings as a jw do you see as the sign of the end times?were you scared about inpending perscution or revolution in this country.

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  AudeSapere

  I think this was a valid question but the mis-spelling may have caused many to just skip over it. (Maybe message a moderator and ask them to edit the spelling.)

  I thought about it alot yesterday and remember this coming up so frequently in conversations about 'the end' (which was a daily topic in a new-JW family back then.)

  d- How did it affect you? What are your thoughts??

  -Aude.
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  2010 CHRISTMAS CARD EXCHANGE

  by blondie in

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  i will volunteer to coordinate this.. if you would like a card sent to you or send a card, pm me your mailing address and a name the post office will deliver to.. what do you think the cut off date should be for sending the exchange lists out to everyone?.

  do you want it pm'd or e-mailed (if emailed send your email address with your snail mail.. i know that cards going overseas can take longer.. .

  blondie.

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  AudeSapere

  Good grief you over acheivers !

  LOL Sooo far from it this year. But all that under-acheiving left me lots of time to send the cards.

  Now that that's done, back to job-searching.
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  New Beginnings!!!!

  by JWFreak in

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  well things have changed big time for me.

  on the 3rd of dec. finally, i have left my work at bethel and moved almost 500 kilometres away to a new life.. some of you were aware of my work in a european branch, and have kept my confidence.

  for this i am eternally grateful...you know who you are.. the huge weight that has been taken off my shoulders is both a comfort and a relief.. when i settle into my new home properly, i intend to write some memoirs of life at the branch, hoping that others will find it of interest.. for now my future is for the first time uncertain and that makes it very very exciting, but i am no longer under the control of others yay!!.

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  AudeSapere

  Wow. I did not know you were so 'intimately' connected.

  Congrats on your New Beginning!

  -Aude Sapere (meaning: Dare to Know; Dare to Have Wisdom/Understanding; Dare to Think for Yourself)
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  Kent Sate masscre

  by d in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  since this the 40 yr anniversity of the shooting.how did feel about the shootings as a jw do you see as the sign of the end times?were you scared about inpending perscution or revolution in this country.

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  AudeSapere

  For those too young to remember, I found this on YouTube. Shows news photos of the event while Neil Young sings his song about the event:

  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Qs6aaaJBAv0

  (that youtube link also shows lyrics but the first line is wrong. Should be: "Tin soldiers and Nixon coming.")