i was just curious-did any of you on this forum know each other while you were both still active j-dubs?
i mean as friends or acquaintences that you only knew as jws, not family members.
were you in the same congregation together?
I've met several posters in real life and talked to one of them on the phone.
I've met a couple of people who know people that I knew when I was 'in'.
The only person I knew when we were both still in was 'outnfree'. This was back in the 70's~~! She studied with my friends parents and her sister studied with my parents. That was back in NJ. Now she's in Michigan, I'm in California and we met up on JWD.
-Aude.
I'm in Ventura County.
-Aude.
well, i did my best with physical therapy but it's not enough.
my knee is very unstabile (especially since i fell again 6 weeks ago).
tomorrow i'm scheduled for knee surgery to repair my acl..
Thanks again for all the good wishes and the jokes, too!!
**Break a leg. Oh wait, you already did that.** lol funny!!
I'm pretty tired from my big day today. The anesthetic block is really starting to wear off the my leg is feeling achy. Time to take my first pain pill. The doc said 24 hours and it's been about 27 hours since that injection. Not too bad.
I'm sort of dreading what tonight and tomorrow will bring.
I did some work from home and a couple of workmates came over at lunch to help me get downstairs and have a meal. They also filled my cold therapy pump with ice and water and carried it upstairs for me.
Sometimes such simple gestures mean the most. I am grateful to have friends.
Thanks again!
-Denise.
well, i did my best with physical therapy but it's not enough.
my knee is very unstabile (especially since i fell again 6 weeks ago).
tomorrow i'm scheduled for knee surgery to repair my acl..
WOW!!! So many responses to my thread~~~! I am truly touched that so many people commented. You guys are the BEST.
Surgery seems to have gone well. I got home at 7:30 last night and a long-time friend of mine (also xjw) spent the night with me.
The anesthesiologist gave me a block in my groin to numb (actually more like paralyze) my right leg. The reason for this was to eliminate the pain for the first 24 hours. And it worked. I haven't taken a pain pill yet. I'm told that that ACL repair is among the most painful knee surgeries. (I should have asked this question BEFORE sitting the OR. Dang!!) The block is really working though. It's a very, very odd feeling to not be able to move that one leg. I can wiggle toes and turn my ankle/foot but am just starting to be able to lift the leg from my hip. Just a little.
It's amazing what medical science can do. I just hate that they need to do it to *my* body...!!
My surgeon records his surgeries and offered to make a tape for me. ICK! But I just *had* to bring along a blank tape. Wasn't sure if I'd actually ever look at it, but hey! why not at least get a copy. My pre-op nurse told me that it's actually pretty cool. Everything's pretty clean and not blood, guts and gore. Maybe I'll watch it later this weekend. A friend is coming to stay with me and we were planning on watching movies and having a pajama party. This could be a feature film. What do you think, chick-a-dee??
As I walked into the OR, my surgeon was preparing the donor tissue (I opted for Allograph - donor (cadaver) tissue. Once I got past the creep-factor, it seemed to be the best option.). So I walk in and it's just too much for me to resist. I had to look. Didn't get to see too much though because I couldn't get closer than 6 feet and doc and assistant were blocking my view. But I did get to peek for about 2 seconds. (WARNING - GORE ALERT: I did not know that the donor tissue - in this case, cadaverous achilles tendon is used to replace ACL [knee ligament] and it is delivered frozen to the OR still attached to the bone. Icky but mighty cool to see.)
My surgeon just called me as I'm posting this...
He reports that surgery went very, very well. ACL was completely torn. (He detailed a little of the surgery specifics which is fascinating to me but I don't want to gore you unsuspecting people.) The lateral meniscus tear has healed but the medial meniscus - which didn't show up on the MRI - was torn. A stitch was placed to repair that tear.
The sad news is that due to the meniscus tear, I need to be on crutches and in a brace for SIX WEEKS. Stupid, stupid injury. The ACL replacement by itself - which is more serious surgery - would have let me ween off the crutches starting in two weeks. But because of the meniscus, I'm looking at 6 friggin' weeks. Damn!!
Oh well. I've known this for a long time: You play, you pay. Still no regrets. I plan to ride again this spring/summer. Once my leg gets in better shape, I plan to have a custom CTi brace made to prevent future injury to this leg. In the meantime, you'll find me on my crutches and with a wide variety of knee supports. I'm considering a secondary career as an orthopedic device model.
Back in a few...
I need to do a little therapy and then will be back to read all the posts to this thread. I can't believe there are so many...!! Thank you SOOO much.
-Denise.
i wasn't born in the truth.
my parents started studying when i was five.
we started living all the principals completely when i was nine.
It's more along the lines that every story I read, every experience, makes me see more clearly.
Tell him that if you were to attempt this through sessions with a psychologist, you would be paying thousands and thousands of dollars AND it could potentially take years to get to where you are now.
Just a thought...
-Aude Sapere. (meaning: Dare to Know; Dare to Have Wisdom/Understanding; Dare to Think for Yourself)
how long until they really start cracking down on me?
any former/current elders especially.
i am currently an elder and basically miss at least one meeting a week and never go out in service on sundays and seldom on saturdays.
XBHERE wrote: Truth is my wife likes the status that being elders family bestows upon us and I don't fault her for it, what else can women strive for in this cult especially since she hates pioneering. I don't want to be an elder anymore but if I step aside she may not like it.
I think you may want to consider starting here - with you wife.
Does she work? Does she have a life or identity of her own? Anything outside of the org?
Consider taking a class together. Cooking. Dancing. Art. Photography. Something fun. She could take a class on her own but maybe the togetherness will help to not feel threatened.
Help her to start seeing other possibilities in her life. She may enjoy the funness. From there you could both somehow segue (sp?) into tangible volunteer work - after a while, of course. Hey!! She may enjoy volunteer work now, in lieu of pioneering.
Maybe sit down and tell her you are feeling a little weary from dealing with petty cong issues and the big one issues are getting to you and you would really like to experience what it's like to help people right here, right now. Not that you are impatient, but that it would be good for your soul to provide tangible assistance to someone in true need. Even Jesus and the apostles were able to do to this.
DISCLAIMER: I haven't fully thought this through so please forgive me. Maybe someone else can elaborate on my post and call out possible ramifications to my suggestions.
Keep us posted.
-Aude.
ok, i just had to vent.
i found out somebody in our local minneapolis/saint paul meetup has been harassing one of our meetup attendees.
this person has been getting multiple phone calls from this person even though they've been told in a gentle way "i'm not interested, back off, you're old enough to be my dad.
Finally-Free wrote: Perhaps the guy should no longer be welcome at future meetups.
I agree. The 'victim' should not be made to feel unwelcome. Also, it may be up to the organizer to speak up and address the offender.
-Aude.
well, i did my best with physical therapy but it's not enough.
my knee is very unstabile (especially since i fell again 6 weeks ago).
tomorrow i'm scheduled for knee surgery to repair my acl..
Well, I did my best with physical therapy but it's not enough. My knee is very unstabile (especially since I fell again 6 weeks ago). Tomorrow I'm scheduled for knee surgery to repair my ACL.
Dang!! I was just to the point where I could go up and down stairs with a little grace. Now I'll be back on crutches for several weeks while the repair heals.
I'll be rechecking the old suggestions (from my threads of last June) for making life easier while semi-incapacitated. The snack suggestions last summer were great! So were the suggestions for getting along on crutches and maintaining my house, job, life and sanity.
At least this time I have a little warning (and a little experience~~!). Also, it's just the knee this time. In the accident last June, I not only tore the ACL and meniscus, but also broke my knee in two spots and smashed (broke) my ankle. The ankle's better and all the knee fractures have healed - but an ACL can only be replaced. 1:00pm tomorrow to be exact.
Wish me well...!!
-Aude.
anyone here from nj, northern nj mostly (newark, elizabeth, linden, roselle)
I grew up in Northern NJ (Bergen County). Bergenfield, Tenafly, Cresskill, Closter, Demarest, Englewood, Teaneck areas.
Now I live in Sunny So Cal.
what one thing would i see that would tell me the most about you?.
the center of my home is my computer and my books.
standing at the door that is the first thing you will see.
Our Christmas tree - still up. But only our friends here would get the significance of it being our second Christmas tree ever and the not wanting to take it down.
Oh! Pioneer Spit - that is too funny. I know what you mean, though. This was my FIRST time decorating and I still have my stuff out. I'm putting it all away slowly. I just don't want to too let go of my first Christmas...!
(I thought about adding that in my own post, but was a little embarrassed...!)
-Aude.
