thanks to all who have answered so far.
Still, I probably can't leave out the sisters name. And then she loses advantage of confessing first. I would say my odds are 50/50. They would probably say that: why I acted like nothing was wrong after stopping the habit and how could I say prayers in cong. and such with a bad concience. The truth is I was not very spiritual at that time, and only lately I have discrovered the seriousness of what I have done. Its more complicated right now that I can handle.
btw., for others: I agree that doing research and reading bible with opened eyes is important..
albertjw
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how to behave in judical committee? pls help
by albertjw ini am new here, excuse my english.
it seems that some of you are serving or have been serving as elders and have judical committee experience (stillajwexelder for example).
i want to know how i must behave in jc meeting to avoid disfellowshipping.
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how to behave in judical committee? pls help
by albertjw ini am new here, excuse my english.
it seems that some of you are serving or have been serving as elders and have judical committee experience (stillajwexelder for example).
i want to know how i must behave in jc meeting to avoid disfellowshipping.
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It seems that quick confession could have saved me, as serendipity wrote in http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/7/106475/1849518/post.ashx#1849518
>I was df'd because I didn't approach the elders quickly enough after committing fornication. ( waited 6 >months.) I then specifically asked if they thought I was repentent. They said yes. So I appealed. And >was told the same thing. -
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how to behave in judical committee? pls help
by albertjw ini am new here, excuse my english.
it seems that some of you are serving or have been serving as elders and have judical committee experience (stillajwexelder for example).
i want to know how i must behave in jc meeting to avoid disfellowshipping.
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albertjw
Hi,
I am new here, excuse my english. I really need your help. It seems that some of you are serving or have been serving as elders and have judical committee experience (stillajwexelder for example). I want to know how I must behave in JC meeting to avoid disfellowshipping.
I simply cannot leave the org. There must be good-hearted people here who understand what I am going through here and can help me. I did a LOT of emotional harm to a very good person, there are moments in my day that when I think of it I would be ready to die for it if I can reverse my actions somehow.
I am single and you know the rest: My sin is porneia. I have not committed adultery by worldly standards, but by their definition from "pay attnention.." book:
>It includes oral and anal sex or mutual masturbation
>between persons not married to each other, homosexuality,
>lesbianism, fornication, adultery, incest, and bestiality.
I am quilty in heavy petting, mutual masturbation etc, but not penetration. But it doesn't matter it seems, it is all porneia when genitals are involved - and so the most sinnful of all sins..
My concern is that though I have regretted, stopped the habit long time ago, I have apologized to the person I caused harm with this - that they still find it too little too late, and my sin too big.
1. It seems that confessing yourself first (before the other one accuuses me) helps. Does it really?
2. Can I confess wihtout saying the sister's name, to leave her out of it?
3. When long time have passed since committing sins, does it show my un-regrettfullness?
4. If the sin was habitual (took place during long period), does it show that I am unrepentant no matter what I say now?
5. I am not going to fake tears or anything like that, but is there anything I can say or do to prove that I regret what I did??
I there is no chance for me then I don't know if I can go through this.. I know already all the details they ask, and if they df me anyway I will feel very abused. Everyone I know is jw including all my family..
thanks in advance,
albrt